Do normal single women go through longer dry spells than single guys?

[ChristopherColumbus]

So men can have standards just like women - low standards and high. All in all though, I think most women will hold out longer to find the 'right' guy. Men, will typically lower their standard to get laid, to a certain degree.

Until this equation changes, nothing will change.

 

[wifehunter]

I legitimately want an authoritarian government that enforces healthy norms on society.

Society has undergone too much moral entropy.

The government of cancer....that'll get em.

 

[Von]

I know a good Christian woman who's a teacher at a Christian school that's been holding out for years.

I tried dating her last summer and hit her up this summer again since she was off for the summer. We went on a date flirted had fun. I didn't get a text when I got home or the next day, so I reached out. I got a more or less "thanks for the compliment, I had fun" short response that left the convo dead in the air. She has crazy high standards. She won't just date anyone and is always on the lookout for her 'right' guy.

Often she'll post pictures holding her nieces and nephews on IG, so she definitely has baby fever.

In her dating life, if the guy says or does anything slightly off, he doesn't get a date 2 or date 3 and withdraw attention in texting. She's nearly 32 and while sensing she's approaching the wall, she'll stay single until the perfect 10/10 'right' guy comes along.

I imagine she'll give up on her high standards eventually and settle. If she doesn't, she could easily stay single and childless till 40. She's definitely not the norm. She's very much the girl next door look and decently in shape, not athletic, but realizes she's not a 8-10 on looks scale.

I find those women to be the ones with the most "issues" (the women with no patience, eliminate date based on a slight imperfection)

They been "around" alot of guys so they pile up the standards. Or they simply crazy.

I've meet a few 10hbs like that... Always seem single with a new "love crisis" in the air.

Sure with age, they might lower their "standards" but boy do these girls wont compromise lol (demanding, bossy, all over the place, always be perfect)

Do like me, get a 32 years old, daddyissue, Catholic Christian extreme, Virgin until Marriage, divorce is in death lol. PS: that's my current LTR but have to admit even if it's sexually hard, it's the most fun I've had with a girl (finally a fun-intelligent girl). Also, she's from the ghetto while i am from a rich background. Oh i am not even religious (she compromised on that as she reached wall). I am dreading our wedding lol (stay with 1 girl for ever? Sex after marriage?), but i am totally in love and want to give her a shoot.

Why? I am maybe in scarcity mode but damn.. I dont think i'll find a girl with her humour, brain, great body, compassionnate heart and who doesnt find me annoying/stressing/hyperactive.

Also, i know i can contribute to her like she does to me.

 

[nismo-4]

But you’ll never hear women attempting NoFap to improve their drive to find a partner like some men do.

As far as actual female dry spells, I honestly don’t have any inside info on that. While I’ve overheard a lot of stuff from women over the years, I don’t have enough information on that one.

Women can get laid at any time. Just flag a few guys down and she'll get some. Women bang who they want. Men bang who they can.

The big female complaint is that they can't find or get Chad, Tyrone, Chang, Hiroshi, or Enrique.

The big male complaint is that women just want them for beta (support) roles or no roles. No role is better but sex still isn't there.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

It is possible to keep a chick in a LTR, but the only way this happens is if she thinks you are the best she can do. Women will always have the urge to monkey branch, when they see a dude that has more of what she thinks she needs then the man she has. As she approaches the wall, her options are limited, but even then... if she BELIEVES she can do better, in spite of objective reality, the probability she will swing will be there, because she can not help the fact that she is ALWAYS looking for that higher branch.

The only thing you can do is to continue being the best version of yourself possible, double down on whatever it is that got you this chick in the first place, and hope another dude doesn't come along that has more of what she wants who is willing and able to seduce her. Because once she is fvcking the new dude, it's over. When that happens, just get off and find another chick... the worst thing you can do is try and fix something that is already broken.

Yeah this seems to be the common wisdom. And I fully agree with your last paragraph - it's a good thing to do regardless of whether or not you believe women monkey branch. There are three things men do when they enter a relationship with a girl, from worst to best: Become complacent and reduce their appeal, do nothing, continue trying to improve and hold their frame. Most do #1. So yes, I totally agree.

What I wonder though, is if it's really true that monkey-branching/hypergamy is more dominant and true in women than it is in men. I know men who have left their wives for younger and more attractive women.... and it happens in the world all the time, so you could argue it's a human thing, and not just a female thing. But either way, no one will ever go wrong with the advice on continuing to be the best version of yourself possible and double down on whatever it is that got you your girl in the first place.