Do I want to date her?!

[Love_Games?!?]

Hey guys, long time since I've posted on this forum but I'm in a bind and was hoping someone here may have some advice to share.

I'll try and explain this as briefly as possible. Basically, there's a girl that I've been seeing that wants to be in a relationship with me. However, as great as it sounds for some reason I'm having mixed feelings about whether or not I'd like to date her.

I'm not saying I'm completely against it right now, but I need some time to think about whether or not I'd like to stay single or start dating. The girl however seems to be getting very impatient and I'm afraid may completely break off what we have now unless I decide soon.

I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on what I could say to her or how I should go about doing this. If anyone has any questions on the subject ask away... there's a lot more I could tell you.

Thanks

 

[anx1ety]

Hey guys, long time since I've posted on this forum but I'm in a bind and was hoping someone here may have some advice to share.

I'll try and explain this as briefly as possible. Basically, there's a girl that I've been seeing that wants to be in a relationship with me. However, as great as it sounds for some reason I'm having mixed feelings about whether or not I'd like to date her.

I'm not saying I'm completely against it right now, but I need some time to think about whether or not I'd like to stay single or start dating. The girl however seems to be getting very impatient and I'm afraid may completely break off what we have now unless I decide soon.

I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on what I could say to her or how I should go about doing this. If anyone has any questions on the subject ask away... there's a lot more I could tell you.

Thanks

People on here can't tell you how to feel, sir.

You yourself have to decide whether or not you really want to date this girl, and take some risks. The ball is in your court, as always.

 

[playerone]

Simply tell her you want to get to know her better first. Make it clear, in dominant fashion. Say it like a man would. Right now, you're probably pressured into going into a relationship with her, as you seem afraid to lose the current status. Well, screw it. If you don't think you're ready, she MUST wait. In fact, she'll wait if there's enough attraction going on.

If she doesn't want to wait, she blows her chances with you. It's up to you. Stand your ground. The focus is on you. You do what you want to do, not do it for her.

 

[Nobeard]

I can tell you one thing about this girl that i noticed:

I'm not saying I'm completely against it right now, but I need some time to think about whether or not I'd like to stay single or start dating. The girl however seems to be getting very impatient and I'm afraid may completely break off what we have now unless I decide soon.

If you are spinning plates than this wouldn't happen. She has got you worrying over her leaving. Sounds to me like she has some power over you. I don't think you should be in a relationship with this girl because if she really liked you, you would have time to think about it. She wouldn't want to walk away so easily.

I'm not suggesting you take months thinking about if you want a relationship, but it sounds like she gave an ultimatum for you to either date her or not. that can't be a good sign