"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do I try again or do I next her?

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So there is this girl at my work. She is twenty, im nineteen. We've both been workin there for about three months, and flirt and whatever, talk and the usual stuff. Nothin too friendly though. I woulda tried somethin with her but she was already married!!

Well, i was at a work party last week, and she was there. Earlier in the day i heard that she was talkin about me and askin if people thought i would like her. She never goes cause she is married, but i heard they broke up a while back. she later told me at the party she found him cheatin. So i was feelin up on her, talkin and lettin her know i was interested. She was askin me all these questions like how come i dont got a girlfriend and cuddling and stuff. By the time the party was over, she gave me her number. Here is where it gets kinda stupid.

I call her phone a couple days later. Someone picks it up, and is silent for about a sec, and i say Hello. Some girl, who sounds like her, starts talkin spanish...sayin "bueno?" "bueno?" and "que hablas" or somethin...then hung up. I thought she was playin, so i called back. Same thing..."bueno?" and then hung up.

Well, i dont like when girls test or play games, and im pretty sure it was her. I woulda nexted her, but she is pretty hot, and worth a little fight. Question is, does it sound like i should give it another shot? or Next her. I haven't seen her at work cause we have different schedules, and havent called her since. So what you guys think..i still got a shot, or scratch her off the list?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NT do you understand Spanish?
 

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No, i understand a bit. Enough to know it was somethin like, Hello, who is speaking? Quien habla mean who do you want to talk to i think. I know it was her number thought cause she asked for mine at the party, then dialed it right there to have me save her number. Thats why I think she was f*ckin with me.
 

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She's married and who knows if the story about her not being with her husband anymore is true. She also could have been with another guy when she answered the phone which caused her to play dumb.

WHO KNOWS?

Tip: When fish bits the bait, reel it in and through another line out to catch more. (Think about it)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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my guess is that she was with either her husband or another guy.

probably with her husband and trying to work things out when you happened to call.

I'd leave it at that, until you maybe get a chance to see her again in person - then play it from there.

no sense in calling her again.
 

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Alright. I saw that girl again at work today. She says whats up to me and I say hi, actin like normal. Well, while we were walkin i just started bullsh*ting bout work and stuff, and as we are about to go our separate ways, she says
"So how come you haven't called me?"

so i kinda look at her with a weird smirk and before i even say anything she goes "Its okay though" and gives me a little rub on the back and says bye.

So does this girl sound like she is still playin games? I really would like to f*ck her...I just dont want to be dealin with that sh*t if i tried callin her again.

man..like a freakin chess match or somethin
 
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