I started talking to this girl about 2 months ago and when we first started talking she told that she's broken up with her ex but they still act like they're together. I didn't mind because she wasn't the only girl I was talking to at the time. Over the summer we'd still talk but it was all small talk b/c of her situation with her supposed ex boyfriend. I'd really to like to try to pursue something with her and if she's with him now or whatever I would rather cut my losses and dip off. What do you guys think? How would I ask her about her situation without coming off as weird or something or should I let things take their natural course?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Do I pry into whats happening with her "ex"?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I like how things started - who gives a **** about her ex if you're seeing her now (along with other girls)?
But you need to really step up and be assertive now. If you want something serious, you need to talk with her. Just tell her that you feel the two of you are great together, blah blah, but you were concerned about how much she talks/talked about her ex and you want to make sure she is completely over that before this goes any further.
You have to talk girlspeak to women, you know?
But you need to really step up and be assertive now. If you want something serious, you need to talk with her. Just tell her that you feel the two of you are great together, blah blah, but you were concerned about how much she talks/talked about her ex and you want to make sure she is completely over that before this goes any further.
You have to talk girlspeak to women, you know?
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
she's broken up with her ex but they still act like they're together.
wtf? That sounds like chickspeak for "I act like we are still together when I'm around him." She's probably dumped him without telling him.
wtf? That sounds like chickspeak for "I act like we are still together when I'm around him." She's probably dumped him without telling him.
"wtf? That sounds like chickspeak for "I act like we are still together when I'm around him." She's probably dumped him without telling him."
I feel like thats true b/c jus before summer classes were over I was walking to class and I saw her w/ her ex and she kissed him but me n my boy were saying it looked like a forced kiss and that she probably doesn't wanna be with him. But today i go on facebook and she post some new pics and one of them was with her ex and she had one of those little hearts for a tag.
But anyways I texted her like 1hr ago saying "Hey I jus wanted to ask you what your situation was with your "ex". Cuz I feel like your someone I really get along with" mind you we were having a conversation before I sent her this. Did I put the words wrong? or is there anything else I should say to get my point across or whatever when she texts me back? (it'll probably be tomorrow...I think I backed her into a corner)
I feel like thats true b/c jus before summer classes were over I was walking to class and I saw her w/ her ex and she kissed him but me n my boy were saying it looked like a forced kiss and that she probably doesn't wanna be with him. But today i go on facebook and she post some new pics and one of them was with her ex and she had one of those little hearts for a tag.
But anyways I texted her like 1hr ago saying "Hey I jus wanted to ask you what your situation was with your "ex". Cuz I feel like your someone I really get along with" mind you we were having a conversation before I sent her this. Did I put the words wrong? or is there anything else I should say to get my point across or whatever when she texts me back? (it'll probably be tomorrow...I think I backed her into a corner)
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I wouldn't bother making any efforts with this chick. why? Because apparantly her "ex" is still fvcking her. He's apparantly doing something right and thats why she continues to go back. If they're suppossedly broken up then you can't technically "steal" her but you surely would be able to get a piece if you game her right. The best advice I can give you is to persue other girls and don't even think about this one. If you are able to get attraction to take place then great. If not then it still isn't a big deal.