Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do I need to cancel the date?

The LadyKiller

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G*d does not want me to date. After settling down in my new location with work, etc., I met a girl and we arranged a date for the middle of this week. However, I live in the northeast where another major storm is expected to hit - the night of our date. Because I'd have to drive 25-30 minutes at night in the middle of this storm, the inclement weather could be a problem.

What's the correct way to explain this and then suggest a day later in the week without her thinking I'm a flake? I fully intended to go on this date, but it looks like G*d doesn't want it to happen. In the past, my car getting incorrectly towed at work and a death in the family have stalled date plans (and never recovered). I half-joke that I've been snakebit with dating because of outside circumstances ruining plans, but I think now it's true.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Scars

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If her interest was high prior to scheduling the date I don't think it will be a problem. I've rescheduled dates and meet-ups with no problems before.

No point in stressing about it, you're not going to go and put your safety in danger just for some pvssy. So just tell her what's up, and if she's worth anything then she'll understand.

-Scars
 

eddiedelgado

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I agree. Just tell her what's going on, and if she gets it then she'll understand, otherwise she is not worth it. Good Luck!
 

Smartone84

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Let me just say that I feel you. I live in NY and just had to put three plates on hold because of this hurricane. Its been a mess. But if there is one thing i've learned over the years with this type of situation, its that if she's mature, and has a brain in her head, she'll be fine with the reschedule and will understand its not right to be goin out on a date in the middle of a huge f'n noreaster.

If she's weird, then its as simply as NEXT.
 

The LadyKiller

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You guys are right. I texted her today, she understands and is willing to meet next week. My challenge now is to keep that high IL going. Since we started talking through an online site (and exchanged numbers/texted), I won't be running into her before then.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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