Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Do i just need to approach?

Stephen89

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31, never had a gf or as a matter do not even talk to women for the last several years.

I've approached 30 women however I got close but could not close the deal.

I do have a job where I have to talk to women and I do it in a confident manner. However I'm quitting that job soon as I have income on the side which I can go full time.

I have read a lot of pick up material, purchased many ebooks from top pick up artists in the past and got books and I've read a lot on psychology etc.

I do not get anything on pof, match, online dating for years and I could have a good profile, send the right first message and have good pictures, social media doesn't work for me too and also other chat apps ive been very unsuccessful. I go out to pubs and bars but I do not approach and go out a lot.

On a regular basis I visit my local bookstore.

I've analysed my body language, projections, fashion sense, I've improved my social, conversation skills and observe men who have women.
 
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derby1

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your overthinking will cause more paralysis, then you will find out after 2 meets, she was:

nothing special,
had terrible habbits,
and a stinky tuna cabinet.......................

Then you will never overthink again
 

7onriverI f

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I do not get anything on pof, match, online dating for years and I could have a good profile, send the right first message and have good pictures, social media doesn't work for me too and also other chat apps ive been very unsuccessful. I go out to pubs and bars but I do not approach and go out a lot.

On a regular basis I visit my local bookstore.

I've analysed my body language, projections, fashion sense, I've improved my social, conversation skills and observe men who have women.
First step is go out. Game is about noticing which girls who are into you not just mad approaching every girl you find attractive.
I guarantee there's some girls who are out who are interested in you. Some you might find attractive.

You gotta notice this stuff. It's done through eye contact and body language.

Just stand in a club or sit down at a table and look around dude. Same applies if its in a shopping mall.
 

bat soup

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31, never had a gf or as a matter do not even talk to women for the last several years.

I've approached 30 women however I got close but could not close the deal.

I do have a job where I have to talk to women and I do it in a confident manner. However I'm quitting that job soon as I have income on the side which I can go full time.

I have read a lot of pick up material, purchased many ebooks from top pick up artists in the past and got books and I've read a lot on psychology etc.

I do not get anything on pof, match, online dating for years and I could have a good profile, send the right first message and have good pictures, social media doesn't work for me too and also other chat apps ive been very unsuccessful. I go out to pubs and bars but I do not approach and go out a lot.

On a regular basis I visit my local bookstore.

I've analysed my body language, projections, fashion sense, I've improved my social, conversation skills and observe men who have women.
You approached 30 women in your entire life? Or this weekend?
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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31, never had a gf or as a matter do not even talk to women for the last several years.

I've approached 30 women however I got close but could not close the deal.

I do have a job where I have to talk to women and I do it in a confident manner. However I'm quitting that job soon as I have income on the side which I can go full time.

I have read a lot of pick up material, purchased many ebooks from top pick up artists in the past and got books and I've read a lot on psychology etc.

I do not get anything on pof, match, online dating for years and I could have a good profile, send the right first message and have good pictures, social media doesn't work for me too and also other chat apps ive been very unsuccessful. I go out to pubs and bars but I do not approach and go out a lot.

On a regular basis I visit my local bookstore.

I've analysed my body language, projections, fashion sense, I've improved my social, conversation skills and observe men who have women.
I do more on my trip to the grocery store or the gym.

Buy Aaron Clareys new book. The numbers are abysmal for married life. The women are not marriage minded nor material. They piss away the best years and seek you after Chad doesn't want.

Men are going ghost or bending the knee to the girl off the carousel at 30.

Top form smv is 18-23. Do you know what amount of approaching you need to be getting the caliber you desire especially long term?

Approach everyday a handful. Swipe. Hit your stride.
 

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If you're naturally able to get women or you're finding yourself not having women in your life, there are other things that need to be addressed. maybe this might mean improving social skills in general or maybe working on developing a personality.

Nothing wrong with being where you're at. Figure out what needs work and take the challenge head on. As far as approaching women and studying behavior and all that, that's all good too. Progress is the key.
 

Çharismo

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31, never had a gf or as a matter do not even talk to women for the last several years.

I've approached 30 women however I got close but could not close the deal.

I do have a job where I have to talk to women and I do it in a confident manner. However I'm quitting that job soon as I have income on the side which I can go full time.

I have read a lot of pick up material, purchased many ebooks from top pick up artists in the past and got books and I've read a lot on psychology etc.

I do not get anything on pof, match, online dating for years and I could have a good profile, send the right first message and have good pictures, social media doesn't work for me too and also other chat apps ive been very unsuccessful. I go out to pubs and bars but I do not approach and go out a lot.

On a regular basis I visit my local bookstore.

I've analysed my body language, projections, fashion sense, I've improved my social, conversation skills and observe men who have women.
What I wanna know is how you became a “senior Don Juan” ?

It seems like you are too stuck in your head and are not putting yourself out there and testing the boundaries/limits of your perception. With everything in life if you don’t take the initiative than you will be living life on someone else’s terms. Women will not come running to you and spread there legs just because that’s how you think it should be. Put your Ego/pride to the side, make a move, and take some action my friend.

The problem is you are consuming too much information and not putting anything into practice. Dealing with women, approaching them, dating them, bedding them...etc is a skill that takes time to develop. You can read all the books, go to all the seminars, watch all the videos, theorize, and post on this forum pretending to know what your talking about but the reality is that you are doing yourself a disservice by not staying true to the reality of your situation.

Again there is nothing particularly wrong with what your doing (buying all the books, educating yourself on dating, improving your style...etc) but past a certain limit the information won’t do you any good because you need real life experience and need to put that into practice. The reason I say that because even though you might be confident talking to women initially...you might not know what to do if you get into a relationship, become desperate to impress, or the attention might go straight to your head and you become arrogant and pretentious. (I’m not saying it’s going to happen but it is a possibility if you don’t have experience with women)

What you need to do is get off this website, forget about the past, stop doing all the mental gymnastics, and start putting yourself out there. Remember in the process you will be rejected, disrespected, flaked on, ignored and everything else in between. (It happens to the best of us). So to cut this short my main advice to you is...carpe diem!!!
 
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DEEZEDBRAH

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Most men dont approach let alone have taken a man's blow out.
 

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Hi Stephen,
You are a serious bloke...concentrate on the Bookstore approach...refine your approach...You will find second hand bookstores best and of course Libraries...Read Book reviews so you know what you are talking about,have your next step perhaps coffee worked out...Women who read tend to lead introverted lives,try older ones to help build confidence.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Hi Stephen,
You are a serious bloke...concentrate on the Bookstore approach...refine your approach...You will find second hand bookstores best and of course Libraries...Read Book reviews so you know what you are talking about,have your next step perhaps coffee worked out...Women who read tend to lead introverted lives,try older ones to help build confidence.
I picked up a girl in a bookstore who got kicked out of the store her bf works at. She gave me her number.

Monogramy?



Lulz!
 

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Lift weights, don't eat processed foods, don't fap and watch porn. Read some pickup materials. Approach in person. Avoid the swipe apps.

Always keep approaching.
 
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