Do I have to start from scractch?

[Aspiring_DJ]

So here is the short version of the past 4-5 months. I started using Dj techniques in the fall and they were actually working. I had alot of confidence and found one girl that i got attached to. We started officially dating two months ago and slowly but surely i started losing the stuff that I was taught here. I was always with her and thought i fell for her. I also should mention that she was the first real gf i had in like 5 years and I am a junior in college. So anyways she loses interest in me and i catch her cheating on me and she told me she just didnt like me anymore. I was doing everything that i was told not to such as giving compliments and always being avaliable to her. I turned into an AFC again. The break up was 3 weeks ago and i still think about her. I think I need to start from scratch again because i lost alot of my confidence. What do you guys think?

 

[Answers]

I'm in a similar situation. Trouble is women make you feel like everythings ok then before you know it the relationship is in trouble. I'm falling into this trap too.

 

[WC2]

Sorry to hear about your breakup bro.. I can tell you a lot of us have been there and have come out fine on the other side.

As far as getting your DJism back, it may take a little while. First you must gain your confidence back and then you can start worrying about picking up women. It may take a few weeks or a few months, but it will return eventually. Don't try and rush your way into things and just go at a comfortable pace. Don't listen to any of this "rebound" crap. If you're going to get a rebound, make sure you at least get a quality girl who isn't a slut. Otherwise, you will not feel any better.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

You can start from scratch.
You can learn your lesson from experience.
You can move on and forget about her.

I would just take your loss and move on with the more knowledge you have.