Do I forget about her or do i not give up?

[Rooney794]

Alright well i'm new here and i stumbled upon this site and it had some good stuff an i thought i would bring my problem to the boards to see what help i could get. So here is my girl story

I met this girl in my econ class and we sat by each other. Right off the bat there was attraction between us, she is really good looking. I never really have trouble talking to good looking girls but she was a different story. I was a little shy around at first so i got to know her more by talking to her on AIM. A little while later she was showing a lot of signs of interest in me but i also knew she liked this other guy who was in college.

After awhile I lost interest in her and she stopped liking that other guy and we still talked and stuff. Then a couple months later I became a little interested in her. So I was having people over and I called her to see if she wanted to hang. She ended up going to a party with her friends. But she texted me that night and we ended up talking on the phone for a couple hours. The next day one of my buddies was up at michigan state with his brother and she was there with her friend (her friend's sister goes to michigan state). My friend said she would not shut up about me and she was saying stuff like "oh hes so adorable" "hes so perfect, but i dont want to corrupt him" (at that time she partied and i didnt then, because i was a varsity runner and that was VERY important to me) and she called me again that night.

So there was obvious interest in me but i really didnt do anything about it. Then it was like a month or two before prom and i just really started to like her. But i could tell she didnt like me anymore. We ended up going to prom and it was fun and stuff. I tried to be smooth with prom. I was on our school's announcements and one day i called her down to the library and then met her there with some pink roses (her fav color) and then for prom i surprised her with dinner i cooked. But it didn't help she ended up liking this one guy like two weeks after prom. Things with that didn't go well and she now like hates that guy.

So then i decided to just try something because im on my way to college soon and she will still be in high school. So i called her one night and just told her how i felt. She said she didn't think of us like that right now and said she didn't like long distance relationships. I played it off pretty cool and we actually just held a normal conversation for a little bit.

So i guess the real problem is do i move on and meet new girls in college or do i not give up on the girl i like so much? Im going to michigan state in actually a few days but i also know that she will visit and party a lot at state, and im only like a hour and a half from home. So what do you guys think? and sorry for the novel i just wrote.

 

[WalkingStick]

I would say you have to move on. If you want to, go ahead and party with her, but realize that she's not going to want a relationship with you. The sooner you can move on, the better.

If you just came to this site, you might want to read the DJ bible and get a feel for what this forum is really about.

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

So i guess the real problem is do i move on and meet new girls in college or do i not give up on the girl i like so much?

Lol do you really not know the answer to this question?

YES MOVE ON AND MEET OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was a little shy around at first so i got to know her more by talking to her on AIM.

First mistake. You should have "got to know her" ON A DATE. FACE TO FACE. Not on aim. You were interested, you should have asked for her number, called her a few days later and asked her to hang out. This would have indicated to HER that YOU were interested.

we ended up talking on the phone for a couple hours

Second mistake. This is just dumb. You weren't even dating and you talked to her that long??? About what? why didn't you give yourself the opportunity to talk to her for hours ON A DATE?

So there was obvious interest in me but i really didnt do anything about it.

Third mistake.

Rejection is better than Regret.

You didn't do anything because you were afraid of getting rejected. And now you get to regret not doing anything. I assure you getting rejected would have been much better. You did nothing and she moved on because she thought either

1) you weren't interested in her
2) you were too afraid to do anything

So i called her one night and just told her how i felt.

Fourth mistake.

If you had set up a date and ACTED in the first place, you wouldn't have had to tell her how you felt. She would have known you were interested.

I know i have been harsh in this post. Know that practically everyone here on this forum has made the same (if not worse) mistakes when dealing with women. We all came here because we didn't know anything about women. So don't beat yourself up about making mistakes. Do your best to learn from the mistakes you made from this girl and take the lessons you learned with you to college where there will be TONS OF NEW GIRLS. Get readin the bible. Good luck

 

[scribblec]

Lol do you really not know the answer to this question?

YES MOVE ON AND MEET OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



First mistake. You should have "got to know her" ON A DATE. FACE TO FACE. Not on aim. You were interested, you should have asked for her number, called her a few days later and asked her to hang out. This would have indicated to HER that YOU were interested.



Second mistake. This is just dumb. You weren't even dating and you talked to her that long??? About what? why didn't you give yourself the opportunity to talk to her for hours ON A DATE?



Third mistake.

Rejection is better than Regret.

You didn't do anything because you were afraid of getting rejected. And now you get to regret not doing anything. I assure you getting rejected would have been much better. You did nothing and she moved on because she thought either

1) you weren't interested in her
2) you were too afraid to do anything



Fourth mistake.

If you had set up a date and ACTED in the first place, you wouldn't have had to tell her how you felt. She would have known you were interested.

I know i have been harsh in this post. Know that practically everyone here on this forum has made the same (if not worse) mistakes when dealing with women. We all came here because we didn't know anything about women. So don't beat yourself up about making mistakes. Do your best to learn from the mistakes you made from this girl and take the lessons you learned with you to college where there will be TONS OF NEW GIRLS. Get readin the bible. Good luck

good advice right here

 

[DonAlan456]

Kinda Gay (me)
but i just stopped crying over a girl I dumped
so dont worry
weve all made mistakes

 

[Axcell]

Lol do you really not know the answer to this question?

YES MOVE ON AND MEET OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



First mistake. You should have "got to know her" ON A DATE. FACE TO FACE. Not on aim. You were interested, you should have asked for her number, called her a few days later and asked her to hang out. This would have indicated to HER that YOU were interested.



Second mistake. This is just dumb. You weren't even dating and you talked to her that long??? About what? why didn't you give yourself the opportunity to talk to her for hours ON A DATE?



Third mistake.

Rejection is better than Regret.

You didn't do anything because you were afraid of getting rejected. And now you get to regret not doing anything. I assure you getting rejected would have been much better. You did nothing and she moved on because she thought either

1) you weren't interested in her
2) you were too afraid to do anything



Fourth mistake.

If you had set up a date and ACTED in the first place, you wouldn't have had to tell her how you felt. She would have known you were interested.

I know i have been harsh in this post. Know that practically everyone here on this forum has made the same (if not worse) mistakes when dealing with women. We all came here because we didn't know anything about women. So don't beat yourself up about making mistakes. Do your best to learn from the mistakes you made from this girl and take the lessons you learned with you to college where there will be TONS OF NEW GIRLS. Get readin the bible. Good luck

+1. Sometimes in life you need to learn to just next a girl as hard as it may seem. Once you do it a few times, it won't be so hard.

 

[Rooney794]

hey i appreciate the advice, although on my "third mistake" the reason i didn't do anything is because i wasn't interested at the time, would have helped if I did but I didn't know i'd fall for her again

Another question

For prom I told her dinner was going to be a surprise, where I was taking her, because everyone eats at the dance, but I wanted to do something special. So then i ended up surprising her by making her dinner. She seemed to really like and her friends did the whole "AWWWWW" thing when we got to the dance. Although based on some of the stuff on this site, did any of this score me any points? Was it just a waste?

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

Yes cooking does get you "bonus points". But high school girls aren't really mature enough to appreciate that anyways. If you like to cook, great! Who cares if it makes a girl like you or not?

You need to begin to move away from this line of thinking. Do things because YOU want to do them, not because you think it will score you points. I cook for girls when I'm in the mood to cook and i feel like having company. I could care less if it makes a girl's interest in me go up or down or stay the same.

Was it just a waste?

Well did you have fun doing it? If yes then no it wasn't a waste at all. Make yourself happy. Women are here to please us. Please women by cooking and stuff like that for them because you feel like it, not because you want to make them like you.