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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Do I call her out

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Been hanging with this girl for a couple of weeks. Great sex, pretty fun person. I get the feeling that she's got some other dudes lined up though, in fact I'm pretty well sure of it - which normally would just be a big fat NEXT but hey, I like having my options as well.
She always responds to texts but sometimes gets flaky about hooking up. Does offer alternative times - doesn't really get into my business a lot and maintains pretty much the same kind of relationship you might have with a bro friend .....except adds sex to the equation. Honestly, it's a balanced relationship at the moment but I don't like the idea that she might have some side pieces, granted I build and maintain relationships with other girls but I only sleep with them one at a time....maybe in quick succession, but one at a time none-the-less.

I've been frequenting this website learning tons from the masters for years but have never posted - So my question is, do I chill with her one more time and bounce? Do I call her out? If so, how? How do you guys handle this type of scenerio? I wouldn't feel bad dropping it, but at the same time It is a convenient situation.

all input/wisdom is appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are getting sex from a pretty girl after 2 weeks and are having fun...and you want to call her out so you can receive no sex?

Come on bro, guys here would kill to be in your position. You guys aren't a couple, there is no relationship, you are not boyfriend girlfriend. Go with the flow until she says she wants a full fledged relationship and wants to be a couple.

Until then, protect yourself and game the other girls.
 
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It's only been a couple of weeks and anything u say at this point is commitment territory so I think it is best to ride it out until u r ready to have that kind of conversation. If she is messing with other dudes that really isn't your business at this point nor is it hers what you are doing. So I'd say if she is making time for you think u r the first choice then keep it going for a while til u r ready to do something.
 
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Definitely shut your mouth, keep it fun, let the sexy time happen and go with the flow like Trump said. Most guys would pay heavy money to be in that position. Don't mess it up.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Trump said:
You are getting sex from a pretty girl after 2 weeks and are having fun...and you want to call her out so you can receive no sex?

Come on bro, guys here would kill to be in your position.
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This! especially the highlighted part, and I'm one of them.
 
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We always keep our mouths shut with a woman unless she's officially your girlfriend. In that case you can air your grievances tactically.

In this case though it sounds like you're well on the way to being her part time boyfriend. Filler. A passer by.

The only thing you can do is keep a eye out for red flags. If she ever flakes and doesn't counter offer that's a mortal sin. If she seems disinterested in you as a person that also becomes a red flag over time. Other than that keep it light and fun at all times. Communication between dates minimal. It'll work itself out naturally that way.
 
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A common mistake a lot of guys make is acting differently with once the girl demonstrates interest. In other words, they start becoming more attached, contact her more, and even wonder if she has other dudes. Although these may sound like legitimate complaints, they indicate higher interest. And the person who has the highest interest in the relationship is the one who has the least control (meaning the person with the least interest is in control). If you begin changing what got this girl to like you, she will run from you like the plague. It has been two weeks...two weeks and you already want to be exclusive with her? Dude...

You have gotten good advice from other guys already. What I would do is simply continue doing what you're doing. There's no need to be dramatic and call her out. Bang her, enjoy the relationship for what it is, and when the time comes, she will show signs that she wants more than just sex from you. For now, keep it as it is.

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If it ain't broke, don't f**kin fix it!

Why ruin a good thing? Just go with the flow. Calling her out is a great way to kill attraction and get friendzoned. So don't call her out. That's with any girl. Judge's ruling.

Case closed.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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agreed with nismo and rob, i did this with a FWB before and just completely fvcked it up. Live and learn fellas... live and learn. Follow their advice and dont get too attached, the one who cares more losses, always.
 
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