Do girls sometimes really just look for friendship?

[Siragoos]

Met this 25 yo chick through class, chatted her up a bit. Very cute and could converse. She's new to the city. I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink after class and she said yeah.

So when they brought our drinks, we raised in a toast and I said, "To--" and she cut me off and said "To Being Friends."

Later through conversation I learned she was in a 3 year relationship. Her guy was in a different state. The relationship seems serious because apparently she was from a different state as the guy, but would fly to meet him every month and then spent all the last year living in the same state as the guy (to be near him, she said) before having to move to this state/city because of school.

She's a really cool chick, but honestly I don't have time for stuff like this and neither are my skills up to par for this kind of stuff.

Do some girls really aim to look for friendship? I mean, I have sex on my mind all the time.

 

[SeymourCake]

No. It's a subtle way to put you in the friend zone.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

No. It's a subtle way to put you in the friend zone.

Its not a subtle way to put him in the FZ.

Siragoos: Don't pay any attention to what she says, just watch her actions. Her dude is in a different state, she obviously is going to get lonely and want a male in her life.

If your game is tight, you can likely bang her and have a nice f-buddy.

You need to treat her like she's single, don't ask about her relationship. Focus on flirting and building the attraction between you two.








PIMP

 

[Siragoos]

Its not a subtle way to put him in the FZ.

Siragoos: Don't pay any attention to what she says, just watch her actions. Her dude is in a different state, she obviously is going to get lonely and want a male in her life.

If your game is tight, you can likely bang her and have a nice f-buddy.

You need to treat her like she's single, don't ask about her relationship. Focus on flirting and building the attraction between you two.








PIMP

But being put in the friend zone right off the bat is an uphill battle right?

Also, I don't think my game is at the point yet where I can game taken women confidently.

 

[Siragoos]

She also says she has lots of guy friends. She finds it's easier to become friends with them because it's less drama.

Just from experience, girls like this are just more trouble than they're worth.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Your problem is not the girl.

Its your mindset.

How are you going to succeed when you expect to fail?

Notice how again, everything your telling me is what she SAYS.

Women are clueless as to what they really want, when she says something, don't even pay attention to it or take it seriously.

Women operate off emotion.

So she has a lot of guy friends. Great. Your not trying to become exclusive with her, your trying to bang her right?

Keep your eyes on the prize, create attraction, push-pull, touch her, escalate and then bang her.

You realize the word "friend" when said by a girl is an ambiguous term right?

She can have friend A, who is stuck in the friend zone

She can also have friend B, who she has banged a handful of times, but are now friends for whatever reasons.

She can also have friend C, who she wants to bang, but they haven't yet.


When a girl calls you her friend, its a label, nothing more, nothing less.


Stop letting what she says get in your head, only watch what she does. That will tell you the truth on everything.

If she's willing to get a drink or two with you, she's open to the idea of being seduced if your game is tight.

If your game isn't there yet, use her as practice to get it there.

Its better to be daring and win, then be a wussy and be safe to avoid rejection.








PIMP

 

[teddy]

Your problem is not the girl.

Its your mindset.

How are you going to succeed when you expect to fail?

Notice how again, everything your telling me is what she SAYS.

Women are clueless as to what they really want, when she says something, don't even pay attention to it or take it seriously.

Women operate off emotion.

So she has a lot of guy friends. Great. Your not trying to become exclusive with her, your trying to bang her right?

Keep your eyes on the prize, create attraction, push-pull, touch her, escalate and then bang her.

You realize the word "friend" when said by a girl is an ambiguous term right?

She can have friend A, who is stuck in the friend zone

She can also have friend B, who she has banged a handful of times, but are now friends for whatever reasons.

She can also have friend C, who she wants to bang, but they haven't yet.


When a girl calls you her friend, its a label, nothing more, nothing less.


Stop letting what she says get in your head, only watch what she does. That will tell you the truth on everything.

If she's willing to get a drink or two with you, she's open to the idea of being seduced if your game is tight.

If your game isn't there yet, use her as practice to get it there.

Its better to be daring and win, then be a wussy and be safe to avoid rejection.








PIMP

All that's fine and that's my mindset with single women. However with taken women (esp those in ltr) that bf thing hangs in the back of my mind

 

[Desdinova]

Pimp-sicle has it right. I've been verbally given the "friends" status in the beginning, and on the third date I'm fvcking her. You can't measure the chick's interest through her words, you have to watch her actions. You also cannot let her words discourage you from flirting with her (unless she's giving you some major red flags - then you run)

She also says she has lots of guy friends. She finds it's easier to become friends with them because it's less drama.

Just from experience, girls like this are just more trouble than they're worth.

Attractive women are going to have guy friends. The reason they're friends is because they have no clue how to press a woman's attraction buttons. She keeps them around as girlfriends with penises. You cannot let yourself be intimidated by them. The best thing you can do is get her to introduce them to you and attempt to befriend them. If they've been waiting around to have their turn in the bedroom with her, they will eventually weed themselves out of her life with their insecurity.

 

[DarkDetective50]

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife.

 

[Siragoos]

Pimp-sicle has it right. I've been verbally given the "friends" status in the beginning, and on the third date I'm fvcking her. You can't measure the chick's interest through her words, you have to watch her actions. You also cannot let her words discourage you from flirting with her (unless she's giving you some major red flags - then you run)



Attractive women are going to have guy friends. The reason they're friends is because they have no clue how to press a woman's attraction buttons. She keeps them around as girlfriends with penises. You cannot let yourself be intimidated by them. The best thing you can do is get her to introduce them to you and attempt to befriend them. If they've been waiting around to have their turn in the bedroom with her, they will eventually weed themselves out of her life with their insecurity.

Like the user above, the whole boyfriend thing just weighs in my mind. I have no problem with single chicks calling me friends at the start. However, with this woman in a LTR, with her intent seeming to keep me in the friend zone explicitly stated, it just threw me off.

 

[Siragoos]

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife.

See if I took this quote and lived by it, I'd be a much happier person because then I wouldn't worry about it. But it's the possibility of the bang that other people keep alluding to that keeps my mind occupied about it. I mean...she's so hot.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Like the user above, the whole boyfriend thing just weighs in my mind. I have no problem with single chicks calling me friends at the start. However, with this woman in a LTR, with her intent seeming to keep me in the friend zone explicitly stated, it just threw me off.

I'm not telling you to actively go out and pursue women who are taken. Often times they are EASIER to get because they are miserable in their current situations, but just unwilling to leave until they can secure the better option.

I should have mentioned that in my original reply.

I'm simply telling you that a taken women is no different than a single woman in terms of how to game her etc. The game doesn't change because she's in a relationship.

If it weighs on your mind because she has a bf and you don't feel comfortable, then game other women who are single.

If I could tell you all the things women have said to me over the years, then did the EXACT opposite with me, you'd be shocked from how literally you seem to take what they say to you.









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