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Do girls like a guy cooking?

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Ive heard that alot of girls think its hot when a guy cooks. And ive even heard a few say it. But i think thats bs, cuz almost anytime ive told a girl i can cook or like to cook they say stuff indicating that they think im bein a girly man cuz i like to. Of course they r joking around, but jokes r usually based on truth.

Current example, my gf was sayin how she cant cook. so i said oh i like to cook. She asks what i can cook. And i was like well pastas pretty easy, i can make a great sauce. And she goes wow ur very domestic (in a teasing way)
Ive noticed this from a few other girls before too. One time i had a girl in my kitchen and i knew where the salt was cuz we were eating takeout and i wanted salt. and she was like wow u im surprised u really know ur way around the kitchen. I was like huh? this is my house, why wouldnt i know where the salt was. My mom doesnt hand it to me every time.

So wat i am concluding from all this is that girls may say they think its hot if a guy cleans and cooks or stuff like that, but in actuality its kind of a turnoff seeing guys do typically feminine activities. Or the girls im with r just narrow minded idiots.
Not sure. But hey i aint eating hot pockets or wnedys every night just cuz im a dude. If i am not lazy one night and i wanna cook somethin why the hell not.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Ive heard that alot of girls think its hot when a guy cooks. And ive even heard a few say it. But i think thats bs, cuz almost anytime ive told a girl i can cook or like to cook they say stuff indicating that they think im bein a girly man cuz i like to. Of course they r joking around, but jokes r usually based on truth.

Current example, my gf was sayin how she cant cook. so i said oh i like to cook. She asks what i can cook. And i was like well pastas pretty easy, i can make a great sauce. And she goes wow ur very domestic (in a teasing way)
Ive noticed this from a few other girls before too. One time i had a girl in my kitchen and i knew where the salt was cuz we were eating takeout and i wanted salt. and she was like wow u im surprised u really know ur way around the kitchen. I was like huh? this is my house, why wouldnt i know where the salt was. My mom doesnt hand it to me every time.

So wat i am concluding from all this is that girls may say they think its hot if a guy cleans and cooks or stuff like that, but in actuality its kind of a turnoff seeing guys do typically feminine activities. Or the girls im with r just narrow minded idiots.
Not sure. But hey i aint eating hot pockets or wnedys every night just cuz im a dude. If i am not lazy one night and i wanna cook somethin why the hell not.
A girly man cos you can cook? If you didn't how would you eat? :D

Anyway, it may be a nice thing to do for a current g/f, but its deffo not a dealbreaker, or maker for that matter!
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Ive heard that alot of girls think its hot when a guy cooks. And ive even heard a few say it. But i think thats bs, cuz almost anytime ive told a girl i can cook or like to cook they say stuff indicating that they think im bein a girly man cuz i like to. Of course they r joking around, but jokes r usually based on truth.

Current example, my gf was sayin how she cant cook. so i said oh i like to cook. She asks what i can cook. And i was like well pastas pretty easy, i can make a great sauce. And she goes wow ur very domestic (in a teasing way)
Ive noticed this from a few other girls before too. One time i had a girl in my kitchen and i knew where the salt was cuz we were eating takeout and i wanted salt. and she was like wow u im surprised u really know ur way around the kitchen. I was like huh? this is my house, why wouldnt i know where the salt was. My mom doesnt hand it to me every time.

So wat i am concluding from all this is that girls may say they think its hot if a guy cleans and cooks or stuff like that, but in actuality its kind of a turnoff seeing guys do typically feminine activities. Or the girls im with r just narrow minded idiots.
Not sure. But hey i aint eating hot pockets or wnedys every night just cuz im a dude. If i am not lazy one night and i wanna cook somethin why the hell not.
Women don't know what they want.

If she can't cook for you then she doesn't have any wifey skills.
 

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00Kevin said:
Women don't know what they want.

If she can't cook for you then she doesn't have any wifey skills.

hey can u explain ur quote at the bottom, thats interesting. Does it mean that if ur honest u dont get anywhere in life?
 

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Don't DO IT! It is a trap... girls think your very UNoriginal if you cook for her, so make HER COOK and she'll think your original cuz most guys DO NOT tell her to cook. You can cook every once in a while for only special occasions like her birthday, otherwise don't cause it'll lead to her wantin/makin you do other things. Basically you'll just be her slave like the other guys and pretty soon she'll put you in the friend-zone and go bang some other guy.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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Haha you make it look too fruity. I cook too but i never once said "i like to cook" or "i can cook an amazing sauce". Its very girly panzy pooni.

Whenever i wanted to give a girl a treat or a taste of my cooking ide always invite them over for a kickback, have her cut some vegies or what ever it is for me, do major kino while shes helping around in the kitchen and then serve her some bombay food.

From my experience girls think its hella sexy and a big turn on when they see a guys house/room/bathroom are majorly clean, neat, very well decorated, and have style...its a turn off when you become all fruity and see "yesss i clean my room, and i have all these colognes and hair gels, and lotions in my bathroom with candles and esence"

Talking will ruin your image and make you look like one of the guys from queer guy for the straight guy. Anyways walk the walk and dont talk the talk on this issue IMO or else youll come of fruity and feminin.

good luck
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
hey can u explain ur quote at the bottom, thats interesting. Does it mean that if ur honest u dont get anywhere in life?

Simple... Cooking is her job. Unless it is what you do for a living.
 

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Haha you make it look too fruity. I cook too but i never once said "i like to cook" or "i can cook an amazing sauce". Its very girly panzy pooni.

Whenever i wanted to give a girl a treat or a taste of my cooking ide always invite them over for a kickback, have her cut some vegies or what ever it is for me, do major kino while shes helping around in the kitchen and then serve her some bombay food.

From my experience girls think its hella sexy and a big turn on when they see a guys house/room/bathroom are majorly clean, neat, very well decorated, and have style...its a turn off when you become all fruity and see "yesss i clean my room, and i have all these colognes and hair gels, and lotions in my bathroom with candles and esence"

Talking will ruin your image and make you look like one of the guys from queer guy for the straight guy. Anyways walk the walk and dont talk the talk on this issue IMO or else youll come of fruity and feminin.

good luck
It is important for a man to keep himself and his place clean. Even in the military this is the case.

The problem is that most guys forget to qualify women in this regard. There are many lazy women who like guys that clean for them. Just be sure you are not attracting losers like that.
 

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A man who can cook can eat for free, here's the recipe:

1. Your girl wants to get together with you so you suggest that she comes over to your place.
2. Tell her to stop by the grocery first and pick up a few items for dinner.
3. Give her a list of things that will not only prepare a meal but will leave ample leftovers.
4. When she arrives, make her your prep cook to assist you in preparing dinner.
5. Use tons of kino in the close confines of the kitchen.
6. Serve dinner and have her gush over your culinary prowess.
7. After dinner stow away the leftovers to be used for your free lunch for the rest of the week.
8. Set aside a small container for your girl to take home with her (you're such a thoughtful guy).
9. As you are stowing away the leftovers, have your girl do the dishes; hey, you were the main one slaving over the stove, fair is fair right?
10. Allow your girl to thank you properly for allowing her to share in your one of many talents (including supplying her with dessert).

Simple recipe, don'cha think? ;)
 

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

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There is nothing wrong with cooking for a female as long as you get something in return. There is nothing wrong with a man cooking for himself. Just dont make it a habbit of you cooking dinner for her. It should be a reward to her for something she did for you.
 

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I dunno it just annoyed me that she called me domestic cuz i said i can make sauce. My family's very italian and theres pretty much no way i wouldnt know how to (anybody whos family is very italian would understand, foods very important), so i picked up alot of stuff and im actually pretty good at it. Why is that feminine? i dont invite friends over and make 3 course dinners or anything fruity like that.
When i told her i like to cook i just meant that i dont mind preparing something, rather than spending money on some sh*t chinese food or taco bell. I refuse to live my life by the sterotypes of society.
Like the Everybody loves Raymond kind of man. I saw a rerun recently where Ray couldnt even make a can of soup for himself. He set the house kitchen on fire, and then the super smart wonderful wife debra put it out with a fire extinguisher - and the fake studio audience cheered like she was a superhero. (Ray didnt know how to, he was trying to throw water on it)

The guy who posted that women belong in the kitchen, cmon gimme a break. I wish they were there too but its the yr 2007, get over that lol. A real man does wat he wants.

I aint gonna be afraid to cook food cuz its "feminine" Screw that, i have a brain, im not simply a football watching, beer guzzling, idiot. I love sports, i love junk food, and most guy things, yet i also like to cook, i like to have intelligent conversation, have a clean room,car, and appaearance, and many other things that would be considered feminine.
 

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Agrees With Charm & Style.

Don't talk about it. Just surprise her with it. If you try to impress a girl with it it sends all the wrong signals.

I think with anything that involves a "mans role" or a "womans role" you should do it with a minimal of fuss. For example if a girl asks you to open a jar for her just pop it open and hand it back without breaking off conversation. If you cook dinner just start cooking. Don't make a big deal out of it and you will seem most manly.

Don't talk about it. Just do it.

JJ
 

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Jay Jay said:
Don't talk about it. Just surprise her with it. If you try to impress a girl with it it sends all the wrong signals.

I think with anything that involves a "mans role" or a "womans role" you should do it with a minimal of fuss. For example if a girl asks you to open a jar for her just pop it open and hand it back without breaking off conversation. If you cook dinner just start cooking. Don't make a big deal out of it and you will seem most manly.

Don't talk about it. Just do it.

JJ
That actually makes sense, thanks.
 

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Cooking isnt a domestic or girly thing to do!

Most of the professional chefs in the world are men, even seen iron-chef or iron-chef america or the f-word? Its a tough dog-eat-dog world out there! :eek:
 

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Cooking isnt a domestic or girly thing to do!

Most of the professional chefs in the world are men, even seen iron-chef or iron-chef america or the f-word? Its a tough dog-eat-dog world out there! :eek:
Well thats diff cuz its their occupation. Women dig chefs im sure. I'm talkin casual cookin. My girl is 23 maybe shes just too imature to understand that a guy might actually have some sophistication and culture. She says her bfs were all jerks and slobs. She said she thinks its cool that i dress well cuz all her bfs wore crap.

But she has joked that im bein a "woman" on more than one occasion, just teasin of course, but deep down it annoys the sh*t outta me. One time it was cuz i wanted to talk about a tv show after we both watched it -that one i didnt get at all, am i not supposed to wanna talk even?)I always play it off and never show that it bothers me or change my behavior. i also try to not apoliogize for anything "girly" that i might be doin. I almost try to do the girly stuff even more just too spite her lol. I think i can train her to think less narrow mindedly, but if not i aint stayin with this girl. The amount of stuff she has called me feminine for is starting to add up:

1. drinking pino grigio(white wine for those of u who dont know) at a bar (she ordered red) - not like i ordered chardonnay or somethin.

2. talkin bout the show 24 after we both watched it on the phone.

3. saying i can cook

i mean cmon, its annoying. I think im gonna start teasing her a little. I gotta make her qualify herself to me, not the other way around.
 

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i mean cmon, its annoying. I think im gonna start teasing her a little. I gotta make her qualify herself to me, not the other way around.
tnx god for your wake up call.
 

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"F*ck off, today us blokes have to cook our food if we want a decent meal 'cos you women today are crap at cooking and don't know a thing" . . .

Tease her for being masculine when she does un-feminine things, too. That will really grate on her.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Well thats diff cuz its their occupation. Women dig chefs im sure. I'm talkin casual cookin. My girl is 23 maybe shes just too imature to understand that a guy might actually have some sophistication and culture. She says her bfs were all jerks and slobs. She said she thinks its cool that i dress well cuz all her bfs wore crap.

But she has joked that im bein a "woman" on more than one occasion, just teasin of course, but deep down it annoys the sh*t outta me. One time it was cuz i wanted to talk about a tv show after we both watched it -that one i didnt get at all, am i not supposed to wanna talk even?)I always play it off and never show that it bothers me or change my behavior. i also try to not apoliogize for anything "girly" that i might be doin. I almost try to do the girly stuff even more just too spite her lol. I think i can train her to think less narrow mindedly, but if not i aint stayin with this girl. The amount of stuff she has called me feminine for is starting to add up:

1. drinking pino grigio(white wine for those of u who dont know) at a bar (she ordered red) - not like i ordered chardonnay or somethin.

2. talkin bout the show 24 after we both watched it on the phone.

3. saying i can cook

i mean cmon, its annoying. I think im gonna start teasing her a little. I gotta make her qualify herself to me, not the other way around.
Just ask her if she's jealous and if she isn't, tell her to step up. Women usually appreciate men who can take care of themselves (dress well, pay bills on time, clean up their own messes, cook, whatever). I'm guessing that women who rag on it just aren't nearly as domestic.

I ran rings around my ex-gf when it came to cooking. I cooked for special occasions like Thanksgiving or even parties we threw. Not only did I get mad props from her family, but from her girlfriends too. Many times during a party I'd be preparing things in the kitchen with 5 or 6 women joking around and helping me while their boyfriends just watched through the doorway, jealous. It made my ex even more popular with her friends.

Shezz is right when he says how important it is to do it together. Couples sharing experiences which aren't competitive creates special, intimate moments for them. However, if the experiences start to become competitive in a way that isn't fun it could be signs of trouble. There were times when my ex argued with me about how I chose to boil water when cooking pasta. :rolleyes: She's now my ex for obvious reasons... ;)
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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