"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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do cold approaches ever lead to anything

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Just wondering if anybody has any personal stories of cold approaches leading to a LTR or even just a hookup.

It's starting to seem to me that the only purpose a cold approach serves is to boost confidence and become more familar with talking to women ...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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some probs work,some probs dont.cant really judge every situation,every time cos they all different.the responses wont ever be the same.
I met my wife off a "cold approach" so yer could say from my end that aye they do work.
 

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Trust me unless youre some abercrombie and fitch model or brad pitt, a cold approach will NOT work.
 

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it's a perfectly valid question

i just honestly can't see approaching a random chick on the street and having it end up into something desirable ...

rather the kind of results we'd want are way more likely if you meet through other means (a class, a club, work, etc)
 

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Yes. I do it all the time. It's difficult, but provided you work the angles, you can come out with a number.

For example, just today a friend and I today sat down with two girls and proceeded to charm 'em and number close.

It takes keen conversation skills (and desirable looks) because you have to capture their interest el-quicko. But say you're in a library at school or the cafeteria... you have a little wiggle room to play with, time-wise. This takes a lot of pressure off. Try it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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mmm nah i find it rather easy to get numbers from cold approachs, but rarely does anything happen after i actually call the numbers

On the other hand if its a girl i met in class or something, it seems to be a lot easier to pull something out of simply getting the phone number.

I think I'm being a bit misunderstood here.

Maybe i should've asked "do you find that women are a lot more apprehensive towards you when you pick them up via cold approach as opposed to having some common ground... as a result its a lot harder to form any kind of relationship out of a cold approach ?"
 

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Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Are you serious or are you joking?
I think he's absolutely right. If you fall outside the "standard variance" for attractiveness (you're overweight, ugly face, too tall/too short etc.) then no amount of game in the world will help you on a Cold Approach.

Why? Because the overwhelming thought in a woman's mind is "Why the heck is this freak talking to me?" (The same thought that rusn through YOUR mind when a fat girl comes up to you.)

-LB
 

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Originally posted by Cheat_LBJ
I think he's absolutely right. If you fall outside the "standard variance" for attractiveness (you're overweight, ugly face, too tall/too short etc.) then no amount of game in the world will help you on a Cold Approach.

Why? Because the overwhelming thought in a woman's mind is "Why the heck is this freak talking to me?" (The same thought that rusn through YOUR mind when a fat girl comes up to you.)

-LB
Of course anyone who thinks anything on this site is going to magically work for them-without their putting in the effort to improve themselves-is kidding themselves.

First impressions are important, especially in a cold approach, but I'm a firm believer that anyone can make a positive first impression if they work on it.
 
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there is only one correct answer to your question.

The answer is "yes".

That would be like saying "does cold calling in sales ever lead to a sale?" Percent is lower, but sales are still made. Women much like sales, are a numbers game my friend.

Cheers,

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Of course cold approaches lead to something. I am seeing a girl I met in a coffee shop a few months ago.

Now I'm wondering how do you expect people to ever meet and date. Most approaches are cold approached, whether the girl is checking you out or not.

Read the bible!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Cold approaches will lead to whatever you want them to. It's up to you to make whatever you want out of the situation. Pick and choose the girls you want to purse after you've gotten some numbers. That's usually how most relationships form and work.
 

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Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
Then you have no purpose on this site. Bye-bye.
Why don't you follow the advice everyone seems to give and read the DJ bible.

There is PLENTY of other good stuff on this site beyond just cold approaches to women. Stuff about making relationships work in the first place, first dates, phone calling procedures.

I'm merely pointing out that cold approaches don't work for a lot of people, like myself. I'm just a shade under 7' tall, and I intimidate women immediately when I even approach them.

I don't "Give Up" and stop looking, though. I find other ways to meet women, having people introduce me, etc.

To tell someone they have no reason to be here just because cold PUs don't work, that's idiotic.

-LB
 

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I myself has proven this many times:

You don't really need to have a girl's interest that high in order for her to give you her phone number.

If she is single and is open to dating guys at the time then she will almost always give you her number unless you said or did something totally off center, or in RARE cases she's just completely turned off by your looks. That second scenario is quite rare because it takes more than just common flaws many males have (like being to short, or being under or over weight) for a woman to completely shut you down within that short amount of time.
 

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If you don't think cold approaches work, you are absolutely 100% wrong. You're only thinking nothing ever comes of your numbers because you're at a stage of development where you get lots of numbers, but they all flake.

I was in this stage myself a few months ago. Even now, I'm dealing with a big flake ratio -- about 1 in 4 of my numbers pans out into a day2. Keep in mind though, that my flake ratio will keep steadily going down because I'm doing cold approaches and follow ups all the time, so I'm getting better and better at them.

Vincent and Dimtri both meet girls almost exclusively from cold approaches. If you're good at them, it is simply the best and fastest way to meet the highest quality women. They hook up with lots of these girls and turn many of them into girlfriends (MLTRs). In addition, Vincent has reached the stage where he gets NO flakes. So, if you work at cold approaching enough, you can in fact get to the stage where you don't have flakes any more.

-Dan
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well see the question that arises is that, unLESS these girls are coming up to YOU. it's almost always a cold approach. I mean how DO you find someone? Find OUT something about someone? and find dates? by doing cold approaches, it's not a case of having a girl fall into your lap.

so that may not have been the point, but in all reality it's just how you do it and the tone you set as WELL as the comfort level that's been set. I've seen a guy i know pick up a girl and easily get into her panties just cuz he did all the right smooth things. and although he's skinnier than me, i don't feel his looks are that much better than mine.

so short answer is yes, if done right.. cold approaches work.
 

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Good question

Just wondering if anybody has any personal stories of cold approaches leading to a LTR.
I have to ressurect this thread. It seems this vital question was never answered. Have any of you actually done this? How did you do it? Juicy details? This means LTR, that's 3 months or more, from a cold approach of a stranger. NOT JUST A PHONE NUMBER, GOT IT? Cold approach doesn't mean a girl in your class or a coworker. LTR doesn't mean a date or ONS.

Every woman I've ever been on a date with, I've (eventually) slept with. Impressive statistic, maybe, but every one was a friend of a friend. Getting to that first date with a stranger is a killer, for me.

. . . every CA story on these forums gets to the phone # and just ends . . .

~Phyzzle
 

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Engagged off cold approach as we speak.
Make out off the cold approach.
# exchange. Standard techniques.

The difference is we REALLY do have a lot in common,
and we both share similar goals in life. I think that's really
important.
 

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Cold approaches can work if you can figure out if the hot babe is attracted to you before you do it, I smile at hot babes that I like whenever I see one in the shopping plaza, the beach, the park, a coffee shop, or wherever, if she smiles back at me and flirts a bit then I will begin a conversation with her, if she doesn't smile and ignores me I forget about her and move on and try to find another hot babe who is responsive, this is the smartest way to go about it and it isn't very hard to do. :yes:
 

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Well I'll be......

I leave for like 3 months come back, and find the advice is getting more and more AFC.... keyboard jockey heaven.

Talkin' about "Only super hot guys can cold approach"

I doubt EVERY guy on here just happens to be super attractive. where does that leave the rest of y'all? Don't approach?

Its Game! that's it GAME! if you don't realize that from all these bible articles ur in the wrong website.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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