"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do bigger guys need to act different?

Mr_knowit_all

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As some of you might know, I'm a pretty big guy. I'm 6'5 and weigh about 250lbs. I'm ripped, and have 21.5 inch arms. My question is: are bigger guys supposed to use neg hits anc C&f, or does that just work for normal sized guys?

Most bigger guys know we have to overcome the physical intimidation factor with most women. We can be the nicest guys in the world, but because of your physical presence, women tend to be intimidated. Would neg hitting just serve to intimidate her more? Therefore being counter-productive?

It's an interesting question. I've always felt I had to act extra polite just to dispell their impressions that I'm a big brute.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yuriy777

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Mr_knowit_all said:
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I've always felt I had to act extra polite just to dispell their impressions that I'm a big brute.
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Well, underneath your politeness, are you?
 

pooparu

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So why are you acting that way? EMBACE YOUR PERSONALITY. Act as yourself and no one else.

For example, I'm really philosophical and into the mind (I wanna study psychology), I used to try to hide this, act overly ghetto because I thought that's how all of us black people should act. Then I embraced my personality, I'm changing my clothing style a bit (from ghetto gangsta to clean and fresh, armani exchange style kind of), and everything about my life exudes my philosophical nature. When people talk to me I often inspire them alot because I tell them how it is using the language that I've learned.

Most people would think this would drive people away. "That guy must be hella weird". **** no, if anything it attracts people. Alot of girls like hearing me talk, especially the few I'm actually FRIENDS with, because I give advice based on **** like that, it sounds ****ing awesome to spit philosophical ****, and most importantly, it is who I am, and anyone who has ever attempted to make fun of it:

1. Gets cut out of my reality, which usually isn't good because,
2. Almost everyone I interact with like me, and it creates some great ****ing bonds with people who all wanna be my friend and ****. You know what ends up happening? What most people would consider nerdy or too smart, other people find it cool and laid back with me, they like my style and nature, whereas most other guys couldn't pull it off because of because its not them.

so I encourage you man, find exactly who you are, and then dive into it, **** wearing a persona and all, when you accept your inner nature (that sounded kinda fruity I'll give you that one), people will respect it.

Edit: Damn theres alot of ****ing explitives in there lol.
 

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You should be playing professional ball, and your question would change to how the fk do I get rid of all these hoes and find a real women.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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