DJ's that become WUSSES

[PigAdlemPimp]

You have probably seen this a million times, a dude who acts like a DJ when he first meets a hot babe, triggers her lust, fvcks her, then enters into the Nice Guy Wuss made as the days go by.

The result is the hot babe leaves him, he enters straight back into the DJ mode when he meets a new hot babe, he is like a Cat that chases its own tail, WHY is this always happenning.

It happens a lot.

 

[bish0p]

Because that person is only putting on an act.

 

[hansol]

I'll admit, I had this happen.

For me, what happened was (in hindsight) that: (1) I got complacent. You get to thinking "Oh man, FINALLY done with the games, now I can go back to just relaxing". Wrong. (2) I got to thinking that my woman wasn't a "typical" woman. You figure that she'll respect you for who you are and blah blah blah, I mean you landed this babe, so clearly you're different right? You let your guard down, she gets annoyed as to why you aren't the guy she first met, then a big blowup ensues as she throws hissy fits and you wonder why she is acting like a wanker. And by that time she's lost respect for you and it's game over.

But you live and learn I suppose. From that I realized that you really can't let your guard down, you have to internalize ALL the DJ ****. It's not a switch to flick on and off, it's a lifestyle. I've also learned a woman is a woman is a woman. Just because she is YOUR woman doesn't mean that you have a free ride.

(I wish I'd known this earlier, cause man, that chick was a babe...)

 

[Al Moh.]

One big component of being a Don Juan (as opposed to being a player/PUA) is, that you don't need girls anymore. You just live your life, you have so much going on and only in the back of your mind you realize that suddenly all these girls start hitting on you. For me, this happened for the first time one and a half years ago, when I was so busy with school, new hobbies, partys, self-improvement etc, that I didn't think about seduction anymore and I started to seduce unconciously.

The problem is, that at some point you think: Fine, all those girls are hitting on me now, let's pick one for sex. That's what I did. I didn't have any interest in "spinning plates" because I simply hadn't got that much time for girls. So I picked one, had sex with her and immidiately I started to care about her. What then happens is, you start to think about her pretty often, stop not caring about girls which lowers your attraction and soon she's the only girl left so you care about her even more.

What is the solution to this dilemma? I'd say one way is to always have a backup chick (like pook said). This is easy and works really well, but the problem is, it will not help you if you are aiming for something more serious, because then you have to put some emotional investment into the relationship (and you should!). The only other way is to try and fail and eventually learn self-control, when you can care about her but still control emotions such as jealousy etc, so you can still live your life without wondering about her all the time when she's not with you.

 

[dalynxx]

Some people just can't be DJs no matter how hard they try. That AFC will always come creeping back....

 

[AAAgent]

Some guys are naturals, some guys become DJ's through hard work, the rest are just afc's.

You're probably misinterpreting the situation. From my experience and being coached by a mDJ/pickup artist himself i've learned there are different levels of the game. You get better and better by experiencing more of each one and learning from your mistakes.

Real DJ's don't lose their cool no matter what phase their in, however dj's in training may have mastered different phases but when they come across something they haven't mastered...well their just the same as anyone else.

Some examples were when i first started out getting a date really wasn't all that hard but when i got on the date that's where everything went wrong. After i mastered how to make the date go well, i had trouble closing the deal or making moves and progressing forward. When i mastered that part and got into relationships that was a whole nother story which blew my mind.

Now i'm learning to juggle multiple girls getting to know them and finally when i find one that fit's my needs i can have the pick of the litter.

So in short to answer your question those dj's in training may have mastered the pickup phase and probably aren't experienced with keeping women.

 

[jnice48146]

This is exactly what happened to me. I had scratched the surface of what it is to be a DJ, got myself a girl using my fledgling skills, played it cool for a few months, then she said, " I love you". I thought the exact same sh*t, "She's different, I can relax." WRONG! A woman is a woman is a woman. Fortunately I caught myself before the whole thing crashed and burned. Now I'm reapplying what I had learned and used before, and learning new stuff to go with it. I'm not focusing on her alone. I go out a couple times a week, and talk to whatever girl I choose. I'll never let myself revert to AFC thinking again. I PROMISED MYSELF!

 

[Splendidostring]

Being a DJ is a state of mind. Yet everyone could master it.

If only we could back to old school training : Master / student

This is the only way to learn. Through Fear/respect/discipline