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ok, ok, i got stood up. and i am confused as to WHY, in this situation. (i am on a quest of enlightenment today, hense all the posts :D )


this is a summary of earlier posts:
there is this sexy latino cat that is in my latin cirle of friends.

i know he has always been interested in me, but he is too DJ to be AFC about it. so since i was not paying him any mind, he was not jumping through any hoops. i started giving him a little attention, and it was like war of the neg-hits and c+f. a LOT of sexual tension, as well as uncertainty. as well as trying to do this under our friends' noses.

one minute we are flirting, the next ignoring. but it is obvious the mutual attraction.

one day he got my # from a friend, and had a great excuse for us to get together, away from everyone else. (it wasn't a date hense the word excuse, and the only time we were truly alone was in the car to and from the destination).

but it became painfully obvious as he was alone in my presence that he is scared! unsure. he thinks that i am just fcuking with him, i am out of his league. it was endearing, because the tough guy charade fell down (with some well placed neghits on my part) and he was just a little boy afraid to make a move.

at a club later that month, we basically took it to the next level, and made our desire a little less unsure, and a little more obvious.

due to beef between him and another cat, didn't see him for two weeks, until at the club again.

that night i ignore his requests to dance slightly, to keep him on his feet. then i remind him my birthday is apon us. i can tell that he still is unsure if i like him, so i suggest that he should take me out. he doesn't believe me, even saying "i know that you don't like me." so instead he makes some ****y jokes, throw a few neghits at me.

"you miss opportunites" i say. and walk away.

an hour later, last call, my girls and i walk back over to the boys. he is looking at me with his arms open as if asking for a hug. i am surprised, i am not used to him being so...openly interested, as he has been all night. so i go to give him a hug, and he kisses me! it is a verrry nice kiss, but right below my lips, on the corner, an innocent, but lingering and suggestive kiss.

then he whispers to me "i want you to think about that kiss." he says something else suggestive and ****y as hell but i am like what! what did he just DO, and did he really just SAY that?!

"i want you to THINK about that kiss."

he then said he would be at my place sunday.

and he didn't show!!!!

a few more facts i'd like to add:
1. he respects me as a person. truly likes me.
2. in this circle of friends, i am like the mecca of hotness (i am being serious here), as well as intelligence. i am the elusive catch!
3. he usually ONLY fcuks with h0es, makes repeated claims he is a player, and doesn't give a sh!t about the h0es.



why not, guys? scared? dubious of intent?

and also include your guess at how he would respond the next time he saw me at the club. (this already happened, will divulge after hearing your ideas).
 

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Hey iqqi you like latinos? If he is scared or unsure of himself then he doesn't sound like a latino - maybe thats your perception.

Anyway - next time you see him he will probably apologize for his absence on sunday but i wouldn't put much into this - if he really wanted you he would have showed - so i take this as not a good sign (unless something tragic happened).

There is a pic of you going around this site - are you a mulatto - mix race? dark brown hair and broad nose and thin lips and weigh 150 pounds (chunky)? Where do you live?
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Hey iqqi you like latinos? If he is scared or unsure of himself then he doesn't sound like a latino - maybe thats your perception.
his english is not good, which can make one very insecure. also, i am "out of his league" in alot of people's opinions. he doesn't believe that i am really interested, and not just fcuking with him. and he is 2 years younger.

i forgot to add he was drunk that night.

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
There is a pic of you going around this site - are you a mulatto - mix race? dark brown hair and broad nose and thin lips and weigh 150 pounds (chunky)? Where do you live?
thanks, i was wondering! that isn't me. unless your perception is off. i am very petite! no chunkiness here, at all! and i am white. pale, actually.
 
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