Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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DJs. Look here.

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Alright.

This is a small situation in which I dont really know what to do.

Here it goes.

There's a certain girl, whom which I've approached and gotten her number quickly.

Let's call her Jasmine.

I began talking to Jasmine, a day after I got her number.

Well. Things were pretty good. I went out with her once.

Well. It was brilliant. She kept telling me she had fun and stuff like that.

Except a bad ending to it. Well two other guys who are also after her, reckons I cbed them.

I get this feeling that she's flaking me, because she told me carelessly that she's taking that chance to see who's the better guy.

Well. Then I think, after like a week or so, when things were getting better, I did an exceptionally AFC move by asking her to be my girl.

Well. It wasnt great. She told me she didnt dare to accept me, because she's afraid she'll get hurt and so on.

Then came the killer. She told me carelessly again that she didnt dare to accept anyone else as well.

Then I asked her if she trusted me. She said she only knew me for a month so it's abit hard to set judgement.

DJs.

Should I move on to another girl.

Or work to gain her trust or whatisit.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alright, you're better then the last guy. Paragraph structure! You'll never get laid without it..

Do you know how to spin plates? Do you know what a backburner is? Utilize both and find someone more interested.
 

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Last guy, nm..

Spin plates, think of every girl you are interested in as a lineup. You rotate girls in this lineup based on interest level, or the one you want the most, or whatever. That's spinning plates, so you're diversifying your chances of scoring by running multiple girls in a always rotating lineup.

The backburner is essentally another lineup of girls that have dropped from the primary lineup, but you rotate occasionally though a phone call/email every once in a while just to see if they'll spark up into something workable.

Understand?
 

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Docs said:
Last guy, nm..

Spin plates, think of every girl you are interested in as a lineup. You rotate girls in this lineup based on interest level, or the one you want the most, or whatever. That's spinning plates, so you're diversifying your chances of scoring by running multiple girls in a always rotating lineup.

The backburner is essentally another lineup of girls that have dropped from the primary lineup, but you rotate occasionally though a phone call/email every once in a while just to see if they'll spark up into something workable.

Understand?
So what you're saying is.

I keep my options open with more girls.

But what if one of them find out or something.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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^ .........so? what if one finds out? besides that, spinning the plate only means to have options, it doesn't mean that you have to be Mr. Player.

As for Jasmine, don't worry about her, just spin the plate and take some of your time away from Jasmine.
 

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I contracted a terminal AFC disease called one-itis.
 

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SiYuan said:
So what you're saying is.

I keep my options open with more girls.

But what if one of them find out or something.
It does not matter. It's not like you are dating everyone of these girls, we are talking about possiblity. So you're flirting with many girls, go on a few dates back to back, it doesn't mean anything until SHE (as compared to you) says you're dating.

If she finds out and raises a fuss about it, she's not for you. She should KNOW you are a sexual machine, and she should KNOW she has COMPETATION for you.

Read the bible. This is one of the crucial main fundemental points of pickup. You can't rely on one girl.
 

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Alright.

Had a phone chat with her.

She hung up on me on a dare. Which left me bewildered.

Called her back in about 10 minutes, and told her that I wasn't happy in a very dangerous voice.

She immediately went apolegetic and told me that she was scared of me.

Have I screwed it up?
 

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DJ4Real said:
^ .........so? what if one finds out? besides that, spinning the plate only means to have options, it doesn't mean that you have to be Mr. Player.

As for Jasmine, don't worry about her, just spin the plate and take some of your time away from Jasmine.
lol...i've been doing this, and i just found out last night that two of the girls are actually friends. one texted me lst night saying "why the hell are you asking "hfidg" to chill with you when im with her and i just asked you what you were doing later tonight??" :kick:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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^ lol, you still have nothing to worry about. You don't have to explain yourself to a girl that you are just casually "seeing."

Don't be Mr. Player. Just having the option of getting another girl is way better.

You don't spin the plate if you are in a committed relationship, but always have options so just in case a break up occurs, you can spin the plate.
 
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