Djs , I need your help.

[NSX-R]

Since some time now I'm without any plates to play.

I don't really feel anything.I believe strip clubs helped a lot with it since(thanks to my looks) I can have any woman i want there without spending a lot of money and having sex isn't so hard to obtain.
To be honest I'm looking for something stable because it requires a lot of energy and time to go after many different women all the time not to mention it's not financially smart to visit strip clubs too often(it feels addictive after some time). I can't though. This lifestyle lead me to only need sex and nothing more. I don't even know anymore what being into a relationship means or how should I react while being in one. I tried once with a main plate but i couldn't.It bored me a lot. It has been so easy all this time that i can't communicate with women anymore. I see them only as sex objects that every woman out there , if she's not slutty can see it without me showing it or vocalizing it. It's hard trying to find a quality woman with this kind of mindset.
Every woman can smell it. I can't mask it anymore . Even though all of the women i have fcked in my life , have been models or strip club goddesses. I have noticed a huuge decline in my last couple of months approaches. I think only about the objective(sex) but forgot how to get there.

Lol all the women that i know don't even want to talk with me because I'm an A hole and they know i want to fck all of them(even though i have half of them). I thought when you acquire the player status , you usually get all the women, but it seems the opposite.I don't know , I'm really frustrated right now.

Next month I'm joining the special forces for 8 months back in my country and I don't know what I'm gonna do. I think it's a fine place to forget about it and reset your mind then starting from zero again.

My text is a bit messy but this is what i feel right now. I really need your help about this guys.

 

[dustmuffin]

I think the special forces is a good idea. It will help get your mind in the right place. Looking for quality women in a strip club is not a good idea. But, I really don't know where to find quality women. It is a mystery.

When I think of where do I find quality women I come up blank. I have dated women that earn minimum wage and professionals that earn 250k plus. Are they quality? No, they have baggage and are just useful for sex and entertainment.
How old are you? Many believe that you need to snag a woman in her early 20s to really have a chance of having a successful ltr. I am 50 and the women I date all come with baggage. They have rode the cc and are not capable of bonding for a successful ltr. I find it sad but it is what it is.

I would like to have an LTR but women don't seem to appreciate a man that is kind, empathetic and willing to make a LTR work. They want some ass hole that gives them the tingles. So that is what I have become.

It is a sad state of affairs but it is what it is. You have to understand what women are and work with what you have. My end game is just sex. I have already procreated so that's not important to me.

 

[lizardking82]

I don't really feel anything.

There is your problem. Feel, dude. I am not saying go berserk and become all *****-ish, but don't be afraid to feel and open up. You cannot get any women for LTR when you see them as sex objects. You've gone way too much into DJ mode. We're people, not sex machines. Since you can get all the sex you want, why don't you try getting on the other side a bit more now? Like, spending time with some chick just having a walk or watching a movie or sth? Get sexual, but slowly.

 

[Urbanyst]

I think before a guy can pursue a LTR he needs to understand why he wants to be in one. That's the only way to find the type of woman that will meet your needs.

1. Do you find it too exhausting and expensive to hunt for sex so you just want easy sex on tap?
2. Do you really want to connect with a special girl and possibly have kids later with her?
3. Do you want companionship because you are lonely?
4. Do you want to shut up family and friends who are putting pressure on you to commit?
5. Is it a combination of all of these?

Tell me why you want more than sex. Until I know.. its hard to really understand what your problem is.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

• Do you find it too exhausting and expensive to hunt for sex so you just want easy sex on tap?

• Do you really want to connect with a special girl and possibly have kids later with her?

• Do you want companionship because you are lonely?

• Do you want to shut up family and friends who are putting pressure on you to commit?

• Is it a combination of all of these?

These are all valid things to ask and probably the approach to take. Also think about compatibility in general.

all the women that i know don't even want to talk with me because I'm an A hole and they know i want to fck all of them

Also notice this mentality with which you are approaching or viewing the situation. It's a place of want or inadequacy or lacking. You're not approaching the issue from an abundant view point, therefore you are getting what you expect.

Maybe a bit of time out will help.

Being an a$$ will get you laid with chicks who have low self esteem. You will need to transcend further if you want to find decent women who are worth your long term investment.

Being successful with women is comparable to getting rich. It usually takes years of hard work, networking, keeping the right types of contacts, reflection, learning from failure and grabbing opportunity when it arises.

 

[bigneil]

I have noticed a huuge decline in my last couple of months approaches.

Is your birthday around November 18 by chance?

 

[RangerMIke]

SF is what I did. But be warned... If you are American you will find yourself in the sh!t. Even after you get out you will get pulled back on active duty all the freaking time. I was pulled back twice in the last 3 years and sent to Kurdistan (lucky me... my assigned language). It sucks being in middle age and having to fight @ssholes that get their jollies out of cutting heads off helpless civilians. Only to watch them scurry away like pathetic rats when men with guns show up.

Anyway I digress. My advice is join SF, but do NOT take a commission. Just stay enlisted. If you never take a commission, then when can not FORCE you to re-enlist. Officers serve at the pleasure of the President, you can ALWAYS get called back until you turn 55 (I've 5 years away). Anyway, that is the USA, if you are from another country the ruls might be different. I lost and started more businesses during this war of terrorism, that just doesn't seam to want tho end because of these religions fvck sticks that think God, master of the infinite universe (if you believe such things) really gives a sh!t what they do in life, and whether or not you wear a beard.

Anyway, back to you. You have to find a purpose, if SF is your purpose go chase it. But think about what you are doing. If your age is correct (22) then you are at a place in you life where things are starting to change for you. You are also at a time in your life where it happens to be the hardest it will ever be to get quality women. You are too old for teenagers, and the chicks your age are chasing dudes in their 30s who are better established. Right after I got out of college, and until I turned about 28, was the hardest time I had with chicks. A lot of it was I was in the Army and stationed around military bases which was 5-1 dudes to acceptable chicks. AND I was stationed in California for much of that where chicks really didn't dig dudes in the military.

But you are at a tough time in your life. But find a purpose and start living for you, you have your best days in front of you.

 

[AlphaNate]

Every single one of us that knows what he's doing has landed in this situation. It's fair to say we all handle it differently.

I agree with @Urbanyst that we need more info before we can really help.

 

[NSX-R]

Do you find it too exhausting and expensive to hunt for sex so you just want easy sex on tap?

Yes. My time is too limited and valuable and i can't spend it here and there trying to look for sex.

Do you really want to connect with a special girl and possibly have kids later with her?

In my current age (22) no. My purpose in life is to gather as many experiences as possible and make use of them. As soon as I'm ready to take the family role , yes, I would like by then to find a quality woman which can follow me and be able to grow up kids with in a proper enviroment.

• Do you want companionship because you are lonely?

• Do you want to shut up family and friends who are putting pressure on you to commit?

• Is it a combination of all of these?

No , i don't feel lonely, i have my family , my friends, my business , I'm healthy and everything.
My circle ,specifically my friends, consider me to be a good example for them and all of them want to be like me.

I want a woman which can be always there when I need her, emotional subtlety and sex on tap as you said it. Plus i want status. She has to be like Angelina Jolie(when she was still married) or like Amal Alamuddin status wise(but not in this kind of levels but I believe you know what i mean). We are together and not together at the same time.

I see many of friends of mine , whenever they are into a ltr, it's like they are connected into The Matrix. They are controlled from it . I hate this.

That's what i want.

 

[NSX-R]

Also notice this mentality with which you are approaching or viewing the situation. It's a place of want or inadequacy or lacking. You're not approaching the issue from an abundant view point, therefore you are getting what you expect.

Maybe a bit of time out will help.

Being an a$$ will get you laid with chicks who have low self esteem. You will need to transcend further if you want to find decent women who are worth your long term investment.

Being successful with women is comparable to getting rich. It usually takes years of hard work, networking, keeping the right types of contacts, reflection, learning from failure and grabbing opportunity when it arises.

That's the issue that i explained earlier. I think only about the destination but not the way to get there. You know what I mean.
This a hole behavior happens only with women that I'm attracted to. Since the time my lay count went into the double digits, I had and still have a ****y behavior. I don't know if that's the issue.

And yeah, i believe that's true ,being succesfull with woman takes years and years of trying and seeing what works with you. It needs patience. I did that and this is what it brought me.I had al the sex i want and now it backfired. I try to read the dj bible ,but it makes me even more ****y and takes me further into the red pill.

And no, i was born 2nd of April.

 

[NSX-R]

SF is what I did. But be warned... If you are American you will find yourself in the sh!t. Even after you get out you will get pulled back on active duty all the freaking time. I was pulled back twice in the last 3 years and sent to Kurdistan (lucky me... my assigned language). It sucks being in middle age and having to fight @ssholes that get their jollies out of cutting heads off helpless civilians. Only to watch them scurry away like pathetic rats when men with guns show up.

Anyway I digress. My advice is join SF, but do NOT take a commission. Just stay enlisted. If you never take a commission, then when can not FORCE you to re-enlist. Officers serve at the pleasure of the President, you can ALWAYS get called back until you turn 55 (I've 5 years away). Anyway, that is the USA, if you are from another country the ruls might be different. I lost and started more businesses during this war of terrorism, that just doesn't seam to want tho end because of these religions fvck sticks that think God, master of the infinite universe (if you believe such things) really gives a sh!t what they do in life, and whether or not you wear a beard.

Anyway, back to you. You have to find a purpose, if SF is your purpose go chase it. But think about what you are doing. If your age is correct (22) then you are at a place in you life where things are starting to change for you. You are also at a time in your life where it happens to be the hardest it will ever be to get quality women. You are too old for teenagers, and the chicks your age are chasing dudes in their 30s who are better established. Right after I got out of college, and until I turned about 28, was the hardest time I had with chicks. A lot of it was I was in the Army and stationed around military bases which was 5-1 dudes to acceptable chicks. AND I was stationed in California for much of that where chicks really didn't dig dudes in the military.

But you are at a tough time in your life. But find a purpose and start living for you, you have your best days in front of you.

I'll join the Greek special forces. There is a department(OYK) in there which cooparates with the US NAVY Seals and they are about in the same level of abilities, hardness etc(Seals are a bit better though). They go often on to missions together thanks to the NATO alliance. I'll try to join this department but it's hard , you have to have certain qualities if you want to join and in the end only 1% of the chosen ones is able to finish the training. Still if I'm not chosen , SF is almost the same but a bit easier than OYK. There is some conflict around and propably i will have to join a couple of missions outside , it depends what kind of deal there is with NATO or maybe not. You never know. The good news is that i have to be there for 8 months and it's a requirement for every Greek with a Greek passport but only a 5% join the SF. I have my own business already so I'm not going to move into another "field" . As soon as i finish, I don't have to show up again except if war happens.

I think it's a great opportunity to harden up , get some discipline, escape a bit from the everyday reality and learn on how to be a real man.
Also , small plus, women in my home love dudes in SF. It's a tough place to be and women respect that.

And your words about my age, you are absolutely right. It's very hard. Girls younger than me lack maturity and those around my age are trying to marry a dude in his 30s . Shyty situation. But your words are inspiring. Thank you.

 

[Urbanyst]

I want a woman which can be always there when I need her, emotional subtlety and sex on tap as you said it. Plus i want status. She has to be like Angelina Jolie(when she was still married) or like Amal Alamuddin status wise(but not in this kind of levels but I believe you know what i mean). We are together and not together at the same time.

I see many of friends of mine , whenever they are into a ltr, it's like they are connected into The Matrix. They are controlled from it . I hate this.

That's what i want.

Me too.

I agree with you also. At your age just date around and try to enjoy women. Don't worry too much where it will go. Some of them will be clingers.