"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJ's gimme some pointers, (Texting, "asking out" etc)

elmnick

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Whats the general consensus on texts (from a high school perspective)?
Having text conversations with girls you know to an extend and are interested in, good, bad, any difference?
I've got the impression that having such conversations with girls you're not getting with is an AFC thing to do?
Is it, a good way of establishing a more defined relationship than just someone you have a conversation with occasionally, or an AFC's way of getting yourself into the friend zone.
It's not like I'm texting the same girl all the time, no more than a couple of times a day at most and never straight away. good or bad
I had a look at my friends messages today (maybe I am a bit of a voyerustic untrustworthy git but hey) He'd been sending literally hundeds of texts to his new gf who he's been going out with for about a week, didn't strike me as very DJ, but he's a good guy, moderately successful with girls, and she's cool, very fun and pretty attractive, so he's not doing that much wrong.
"Asking out" by text has to be bad, is "asking out" per se (not anything formal though) a bad thing to do d y'all reckon, whats the best way to start a relationship?. Is it better to hook up at a party?

I don't know, gimme some DJish answers pleaze
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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john paul

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advoid texting at all costs.
I just dont understand why people would rather text as oppose to just calling the person. The bottem line is i dont think texting inproves your game at all in any way and can make people socially backwards.
 

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john paul said:
advoid texting at all costs.
I just dont understand why people would rather text as oppose to just calling the person. The bottem line is i dont think texting inproves your game at all in any way and can make people socially backwards.
Nahh,, I think texting is fine. You see all those hot shot guys in school always with their phones out recieving messages from ppl?

Texting in my opinion, kinda just makes the girl think about you and keep you on her mind. and texting has its benefits, like in class when you can't use your phone. ;)


But yea, don't JUST text, talk to them too, you have to socialize or else you'll never move forward.
 

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Ok yea i understand the reason behind texting in school but other than that i dont understand its purpose.
My parents took texting off my phone so iv never had it and never had a chance to find it useful so i always preach my anti-texting veiws to my addicted friends who cant talk to people on the phone anymore.
 

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Ringing someone up for no real reason feels to me like intruding because you've no idea what they're doing at the time, or if they want to speak to you. The same problem doesn't occur with texting, but its true that texting is more impersonal.
If also heard it said on SoSuave that you shouldn't be having long phone conversations with girls anyway, its asking to be turned into a friend. Whats your opinion?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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spiff said:
its fine for hs generation, most girls like to txt than to talk

and it does help you out more, wait about 30-40 minutes before txting back, think of what your saying, etc.
lol 30-40 minutes ? thats too long . Better return immediately after u see message.

and girls want to have text messages from boys , so when they girlfriends will check they're inbox they value will be raised .

I have a lot of messages from girls that ive been with telling how good was last night , how they miss my lips , how they miss me etc . and i always give girls my mobile phone to write they numbers and they're name. And they always go to messages and when they see them my value is raised ( social proof - from MM ) :D
 
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