DJ's Don't be Gay, wake up!!!!!

[krasnyiLion]

I don't have time to go online much, but every once in a while i like to check this website, great tips, great, advice. However I have noticed many of you fellow Don Juans are acting gay, by that i mean you are taking things far up the ass.
I am in the medical field, and even though it is a science to treat people things are not quite as dramatic there as they are here in regards to women .

in the medical field every medication and every test has it's purpose, according to the findings we find a Diagnosis and we find some sort of treatment, it is stressful, it is fun, and it is complicated. Surely girls cant be as much sience;but you are being gay about it.

you think:..................hmmmmmmmmmmm
if i blink my eye too often she will surely think i'm weak
if i breathe 22 times a minute instead of 18-20 she will think i am a creep
if my pupils are reactive and equal and acomodate to light 1 second later i will blow my chances

have fun man
look at the bigger picture!!!, if something is not working for you, you will get a negative response. however 1 thing SHOULD not turn the girl off, you are not in a test, is not how many wrong answers you get, you are not being graded, if you f*ck up enough overtime girls perceive a overall picture and they will dump you for consitently being a p*/ssy.
If you have one instance, one mistake, don't sweat it, next time you know better. if she is that picky then she is not worth it.

very important though, when a girl is interested she will make things a lot easier for you. bottom line if you have to break your head over how to win her over, she is not worth it. dating is supossed to be fun, relax, have fun, be strong, stand your ground, respect yourself, be ****y, flirty, tease her. but dont be all stress about how many times you smiled or how many seconds you looked into her eyes.

 

[mpimpin]

Amen

 

[Kings_royalty]

when a girl is interested she will make things a lot easier for you. bottom line if you have to break your head over how to win her over, she is not worth it.


Exactly...

 

[WRX_is_like_SEX]

I second that . .

 

[hi2u]

well yeah.

 

[everywomanshero]

Agreed that it's humerous a man can lie to himself and say. "O gee, if I just hadn't leaned in at a 47 degree angle!!!!"

They say 93% of all communication is non-verbal. Some guys have now taken that to mean that 93% of what matters is what angle you're leaning at and posture or how you blink eyes, etc.

I am a Communication's major, so I happen to know that isn't true. The 93% figure, which is the high end of the estimate to begin with, includes a wide range of things like paralangauge, Emblems, appearance, affect displays, adaptors, illustrators, silence, proxemics, not simply things you can conciously control all at once. These things have to be fixed in *daily life*, so that you just don't display bad body language. One cannot fix it on the spot after years of doing the opposite.

Futhermore, Interpreting what she's doing at every given second is a good way to ensure you have negative body language since you're definitely going to be acting weird and not responding very well.

Guys in my classes who know about this stuff still shift body weight from side to side when giving a speech. Even though they are aware it exists, they simply do not realize they are doing it. One can only focus on so much at a time. That's why must people choose to TAPE their speeches, because that is the only way you're ever going to know what kinds of bad body language you're displaying to even try fixing it in the first place. It takes a long time to correct nervous habits, and it is something that must be worked on in everyday life, not a full scale mental beating during the middle of an encounter.

This should highligh the fact that getting comfortable with women is the goal, not simply hiding that you're uncomfortable. Once you get really comfortable then you can conciously say, "lean back bro" to yourself. If you're already nervous though, this is probably only going to make you seem even more distant and uncomfortable with too many wars ragging in that head at once.

Just my .02

 

[qweretyuiopas]

lol at the title of the thread

 

[krasnyiLion]

i know, what i am trying to say by the title is "dont take things up the *ss"

 

[Bvbidd]

:yes:

It's hard not taking things up the ass lol, especially right after a rejection.. but it's easy to relax again when you realize it was the whole reason for the rejection in the first place. :woo:

Being all insecure and paranoid isn't attractive. Even if you think your projecting the opposite image you probally aren't if you think you have to.

Know what I mean?

 

[DonJuanForever]

kras the problem with guys here is that for some reason.....they've lost their eyesight.

They only see 1 girl, 1 group of girls....or a couple sets of girls.

They are forgetting we are in a bountiful forest.......

But see the thing is to develop your inner seductive self to the point where meeting new girls each day becomes fun and adventurous not your Chemistry teacher's "assignment."

Most of these guys REFUSE TO DEVELOP INNERLY, and instead they want to throw on a million techniques and just "get in and get out." Instead, develop on the inside, and once you "get in" from that one satisfied client, you'll gain not only residual business from her, but new customers will come to you because they are seeing what a great job you did.

:rockon: Oh yeah, Rock On.