"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJs around the World - rate your looks, and the women of your town/city.

Zunder

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This is all unscientific as hell, but fck it, something different.

Me:
I rate myself a 7.5 when in shape. Maybe stretch it to just under an 8 on a real good day with a good nights sleep and some nice threads on, and a decent haircut. I also believe I look MUCH better in real life than in photos. It is just the way it is with some people.

I know one thing for sure, when I gain weight it goes first to my gut, second to my chest, followed quickly by my face. I can, in a matter of a few months of lax diet and little exercise, quickly relagate myself to a 5, 6 at best.

Some guys look ok with a bit of extra weight on the face, but not me. I just know by the way women react around me, that the more defined my face, the more interest I get.

Now - assuming you stay in shape, I reckon that most guys will average between 6.5 - 8.5 in looks. Get over homophobia and have a look around you at guys instead of girls for once next time you walk down the central business district. There are very few "Hollywood movie star looking" guys walking around, but also very few "Hunchback of Notre Dam's" either.

So, I believe the way you carry yourself as a man is so much more important than worrying about that you don't look like Brad Pitt.

OK - then, take a look at the women. I find when I do this, that there is a MASSIVE variance compared to us fellas. There really are quite a number outstanding damsels walking around, and by god there are a ton of trollops in equal numbers.

Herein my problem with women. I am either looking at an 8, 9 or at the other end of the scale, a 5,4,3 or worse.

Yeah yeah, I know all the talk of "only accept the best"..but fvck it, I'd be happy with a 7.5 - 8, maybe a 7 that had a hot bod and a good personality.
But it seems, with women, as with their personalities, you go from the sublime to the ridiculous.

Anyone else feel like this, or observed this? I can only speak for my city, Auckland, where I have made these (albeit unscientific) observations.

So, OK DJs around the world, what are your ratings of yourself, and the women of your town/city.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Warrior74

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I'm average, I tend to look slightly younger than my age which is good. I live in the south and the majority of women I run into are overweight unless they are under 25 or so. Because of this the numbers are skewed. All a woman has to do is just not be fat and she goes up a few points around here. If she's not fat and cute, shes considered a 9 and if she is really hot, she's on 11 and most guys feel she's out of their league. I've seen it many times. Still numbers don't mean anything, character is more important. I've seen 10s who were hair dressers dating lazy coke heads. I've seen 10s who were in buisness dating bill gates looking dudes. And we've all seen those perfect couples who look like they come out of a magazine or photoshoot. People hook up with people, I think people get caught up on that numbering sh1t and use it as another excuse for not trying.
 

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Warrior74 said:
I'm average, I tend to look slightly younger than my age which is good. I live in the south and the majority of women I run into are overweight unless they are under 25 or so. Because of this the numbers are skewed. All a woman has to do is just not be fat and she goes up a few points around here. If she's not fat and cute, shes considered a 9 and if she is really hot, she's on 11 and most guys feel she's out of their league. I've seen it many times. Still numbers don't mean anything, character is more important. I've seen 10s who were hair dressers dating lazy coke heads. I've seen 10s who were in buisness dating bill gates looking dudes. And we've all seen those perfect couples who look like they come out of a magazine or photoshoot. People hook up with people, I think people get caught up on that numbering sh1t and use it as another excuse for not trying.
So, are you actually the black fella in the videos on your zenmack link? If so, they are excellent vids mate. Well worth watching. You got a good sense of humour as well as dishing out sage advice.
 

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OK - then, take a look at the women. I find when I do this, that there is a MASSIVE variance compared to us fellas.
You come up with an interesting point, you might be onto something there. It does seem like there is a huge variation in the looks of women. Some are gorgeous while others are just undoable. There does seem to be more variation than with men, but I'd like to hear a female opinion on this. They may have other ideas.
 

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Zunder said:
So, are you actually the black fella in the videos on your zenmack link? If so, they are excellent vids mate. Well worth watching. You got a good sense of humour as well as dishing out sage advice.
Nah. That's Player Supreme. I learned a lot from him.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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