We are in a habit nowadays of defining sexuality only to matters of sex when, in fact, it goes well beyond intercourse.
Thus, a male and a man are not one but two. Anyone can be androgenous. And being an androgenous is not a virtue, and being masculine is not a vice.
Now, who is it that is saying 'man' and 'woman' do not exist, in their sexualized forms? Yes, gender theorists!
Gender theorists hold that masculinity and feminity are socially imposed, in other words, artificial. I didn't realize they were the source but I did realize then that something was off sexuality wise in our world (the Nice Guys seem, not born, but manufactured). So I said, "Be a Man!" I want to free sexuality from 'just intercourse' else the world beocmes androgenous and very dull.
In "Toward's Manhood", this thought got dealt with more. I ask a group of guys what a guy does that is MALE. The only answer they repeated was 'sex with women'. As big of supporter I am of sexing women, it shows that sexuality has been chased away and confined to the bedroom. I believe we're entering a new Puritan age where sexuality is outlawed, and allowed only through intercourse. The idea of a woman being feminine or a man being masculine drives some people nuts (as if they think they have a right to tell you how you should act!).
Life is much more enjoyable as a masculine figure than a nerdy androgenous. Now, here is a good observation. If sexuality is banned from all arenas except for intercourse (where it cannot be banned), what is the result? The result is that society becomes more androgenous. And the result of that is that sexual intercourse becomes more and more hyped and monumentalized.
Welcome back to “DJing Pook-Style”. I got to admit that this one is more difficult than the other parts because pook’s main focus is on sexuality. It has always been there. So this one consists of more posts and more quotes and I was kind of afraid to miss something, hopefully I didn’t.
Alright, enough talk, let’s go.
The first key is sexuality. Why does pook think that sexuality is so important?
If you cannot embrace your sexuality, you can never be a Don Juan, and you can never be happy in life.
Sexuality is not just about getting girls. Sexuality defines you, it drives you, everything you do in life! Men want to conquer the world. Women want to conquer men. But beware, for there is no neutral, there is just male and female, nature doesn’t intend anyone to be neutral.
The nice guy is just a mix of the two. Note how he is supplicating to women, acting female. Note how he is sitting on the computer diving into virtual worlds were he can conquer and fight. He is torn apart between two sexualities; he feels ashamed of what he really wants as a man and sees those dream worlds as an escape to live his dreams.
Before I came here I used to daydream a lot, where I was suddenly in some kind of dream world were I was a hero killing bad people and fighting for the good. We can not completely deny our gender.
So let’s get back on track. Where does it begin? It begins with one of pook’s greatest posts, for here lies the secret to living a true and happy life.
Be a man!
Just be a Man! There is no need to reprogram yourself. You will have the interests you have, the hobbies you have, the body you have, but you can easily become a MAN. It is all simply in the way how you think and as you think you shall become. But what is Man? Shall we have the answer? Here it is:
A Man is a guy who is not scared of his testosterone!
A Man follows the passion in his life. Passion of women? Of course not. A Man has goals and desires that goes above that of chasing chicks. After childhood, there are TRUE winners and losers in life. A Man desires to be the winner. A Man WANTS to win in what he does. Because of his passion, a Man can sometimes come off as arrogant and egotistical. He does not apologize for this or for his desires.
"It is your actions that cause the disgrace of Men," says the Nice Guy.
"It is yours," replies the Jerk.
No, gentlemen, the disgrace of men is in not embracing your true nature: following your passion and, thus, loving life. Women are to enhance your life, not to be your life. So to the Nice Guy, stop placing your happiness on getting a girlfriend. To the Jerk, quit wasting your life on seduction. Don't SPEND your time chasing girls, INVEST it by putting it into your interests and desires, thus the whole of your life.
When you do this, all of a sudden you have what every woman wants: Ambition, charge, decisiveness, backbone, kindness, stableness, and confidence.
This turns our worlds upside down. The reason why we came here was to get women. Yet, this goal of getting women was our downfall in the first place.
“What am I doing wrong?”, asks the Nice Guy.
“Asking this question”, says the Don Juan.
A Man has character and deep convictions. He has PASSION in life about something. It is this passion that transforms his life, gives him confidence, and gives him joy. It is this PASSION that will give you that right mindset for you have goals and dreams that go beyond chicks.
And it is sexuality that gives him his passion. Note that when you masturbate too much, it kills your drive. Being a man means action, acting as one will shot up your testosterone and make you want to do stuff.
There are things so simple in Nature and life that we utterly confuse them and ourselves with our stupid philosophies (jerks don't need websites like these!). Sexuality is one of these. Our countless reading of seduction over the internet is full of months if not years. Where has this got you? Yes, you feel you are always right on the edge of THE SECRETS to end your heartaches and tensions but, at the end of the day, you are still in front of your computer.
Someone said to me, "What an odd definition of Man you gave, Pook! A guy not afraid of his testosterone? Surely it is more heroic."
But it is entirely about testosterone. Girls are attracted to GUYS, not wimps, not nice guys, not chumps, but GUYS. Rather then trying to build and discover some killer philosophy to ease your troubles, why not accept the structure Nature has already set up? The secret of the jerks is that it is so widespread, common, and plain that since it is all around us we can't even distinguish it.
Nature is process, always seeking and devouring. Nothing remains set; everything's in cycles. Rather than classifying the ACTIONS of the jerk and merely DUPLICATING them, let us adopt the SOURCE so the actions come natural and without thought or effort.
All those techniques work because they imitate the actions a sexual male, a man, would take. But in the end the PUA is just a good actor, needing more and more script to keep a woman which ties him to websites like this.
The jerk is extremely masculine, that’s why he is attractive to women.
But hold on a second. What is the difference between the jerk and the Don Juan then?
The Nice Guy eventually realizes what all the ladies want, becomes bitter, and changes himself into a Jerk. His goal now is to sleep with as many women as possible and figure out all the tricks and tactics to do so. He focuses on calculation rather then natural joy. When a woman comes, he pulls out a chart of all the 'moves' and 'tactics' with arrows and patterns. He unleashes his lap top, accesses a Lay Guide, and reviews his strategy. Time passes and once was fun becomes meaningless.
I got to disagree with pook on this one. He is not talking about the jerk, but about the player.
But alas
, having high testosterone isn’t everything to being a man, otherwise the Jerk would be a Don Juan!
We are all worms crawling between heaven and earth. The 'Towards Manhood' post went on detailing the 'heaven link' of Man. The 'Secret of the Jerk' post details the 'earth link' of Man. Personally, I think the 'Towards Manhood' post is a far better post than 'Secret of the Jerk' (because nowadays, everyone focuses on the earth link, never on the heaven link) but everyone seems very bent on the 'earth link'.
We are all centuars and we ride the beast through this world. Both elements, of the beast and the 'mind/soul', ought to be understood. What good does it do to cut off the 'heaven element' and make no differences between us and apes, wolves, dogs, or norwegian rats?
The testosterone provides the earth link, but makes no difference between humans and animals! So let’s go and see what more there is to being a man.
