"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJBC - WEEK 2 - Group Green

Al Moh.

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"Gentlemen, I congratulate all of you here, because you have completed the first week. This should encourage you to keep going: You can do it! This weeks exercise will be talking to strangers. You know, any stranger, young, old, male, female, whatever. Good luck, keep it going."

sam3083
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Touchout
Punisha
Young Anikan
Those are the people that reported being done with the last exercises. In case I've overseen something, please tell me. I know, the groups have become a lot smaller, but I am sticking with 4 groups this week, maybe there are some people who did the exercises but forgot to post. In this case, PM me please.


Now, it's your responsibility to complete every week on time. You have to:
- Do the reading
- Complete the exercises
- Write a Report at the end of the week
You may:
- Listen to the music (recommended to get into the mood )
- Report any time during the week in this thread
- Ask questions in this thread
- Give tips in this thread or a thread of the other BC-Groups
If you learn anything new that you think is valuable to others, you are encouraged to post this inside the Tips-Section.

In your Report at the end of the week please state if you were successful completing the week or not. If yes, I am going to move your name to the next week. If no you can either stop or give yourself more time. However, I am not going to take care of you anymore in terms of moving you name further. You have to organise yourself then but can still use this thread.

Each week starts on thursday morning and ends on wednesday evening. Use your local time.

Thta's about it as general information goes.

The link to the BC one more time:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.pdf
or word Version:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/Downloads/djbc.doc

There you will find each weeks reading material, music picks and exercises. I am just going to repeat the exercises in short form in this threads.

Exercises:
1) Ten 2 to 10 min conversations with strangers.

Good luck DJs!


Group Points at the beginning of the week: 6
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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one question: i ''know''some people who...well....i dont know. i greet them and talk about some random crap sometimes smoke or drink with them but i dont even know their name or age or anything.is that considered a stranger?
 

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hey dude, you forgot me!
 

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meh... peace of cake

do customers at work count?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I am 6/10. I had a number close, but she flaked. So 3 days to go and 4 to reach target.
 

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I'm so fukced, my main manager at work has been away for two weeks and is going to be gone for another one, so I am stuck working 40 hour weeks, but my workdays are from like 2 or 3 in the afternoon till 1030 at night. I have one day (tomorrow) to complete this weeks missions because it is the only day I dont have work. Hopefully I can do it and hopefully everyone else is still staying in this thing.
 

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Week Report:
I am officially done with this week's assignments. It wasnt that hard to finish.Most of the conversations were like 5 minutes.What i realized is the faster you find something in common the easier the conversation is to have.Still,its just the approaching part thats a bit hard,not really the conversation part.I got 2 number closes 3 myspaces lolz and thats about it.I asked for the myspaces cause i told the girls i would send em some info for a party.Whats going on with the rest of the team?
 

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I have 3 to go. Hopefully should be done by tomorrow.
 

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Week report:
This was a bad week for me.Lots of stuff to do for school(school ends next week)and only 3 natural convos.Had to almost force myself for the other 7 just to get the 10 convos.I hope i can do the next challenge in a more natural way however i still have some written tests to do(5 or 6 if i remember well)

Lets go Group Green this aint that hard:up:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Punish had a similar thing happen to me on the last day, i think it might b best for week 3 to get them done early, because if ur doing it early ur not thinking of getting ur target has much has u wud at the end. Well done on getting through dude and young anikan 2 well done on the closes and the finishing off.

And i am hoping to see more greens get through to week 3.
 

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Wow, I can't believe I actually finished it, really pushed my comfort zone actually having to converse with these absolute strangers! But, yesterday I was at the mall for like 3 hours, for like 1.5 with my bud, and I managed to get 7 conversations. Then today I had 2 at school in the mourning and I actually just did the last one about 20 minutes ago. I was leaving work knowing I had only 1 left so I just said fcuk it and talked to these 3 dudes standing outside my work. Turns out they were pretty cool guys and own a website selling aftermarket car parts. They gave me a code they only give friends which gives me a 20% discount on my order.:up:

Unfortunately no number closes because most of the time I was either too afraid to ask or the person I was talking to wasnt worth closing. So far that's 4 of us through, hopefully everyone made it:up:

PS have a day 2 tomorrow and I'm bringing her to the mall to help me shop. If things start going bad I'll use her as a wingman and work on week 3 haha.
 

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Count me in as done.

Would have done it despite the BC though...
 

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didn't get your answer, did you finish the exercises or not?
 
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