DJ+ ********: "We are seeing each other"

[gentleman193]

What exactly does this mean? She is available or not?

Background: I was talking to a girl at a dinner, she seemed to give me buying signals. Told me in the course of things that she's got nothing to do on Friday nights (kinda hard to believe, actually), managed to get in one of those <yawn> <stretch> <show off her fantastic rack> moves, and was all curious about me . . .

So I asked her about the guy she came with when we were away from the table. I am obviously not interested in providing the Friday night entertainment while the goods go elsewhere. She said they were "seeing each other" . . .

Initially I took that to mean he was the LTR, but the more I think about it, the more non-committal it seems. Quality women are always going to keep some guys around for company while keeping their eyes open for something better. She could have said, "He's my BF" if she wanted to put me off, right? On the other hand, she could have said he was just a date if she wanted to encourage me.

I can'y make a move on her anyway b/c it was a work-related function and there could be some blowback. Basically, he could get some sympathy points to use against me. I just want to get clear on the ******** for the next time it comes up.

Thanks for feedback.

 

[1utfan1]

my definition of "seeing each other" is the step before exclusiveness. She could be 'seeing' other guys as well. But it doesn't mean LTR.

 

[Reto]

That's a good question.

It's like they are going out, but not serious.

I knew a girl once who took forever to call the guy she was seeing her "boy friend". It seemed too much like exclusivity for her. Like a commitment if she did. She was a flake...

 

[Big Pappy]

All it means is that she sees him. No exclusivity there. Just make your move and check her rack out all you like.

 

[Eileen]

********?

Bloody Christ! Did it ever occur to you to simply ASK THE WOMAN WHAT SHE MEANS?

What is so difficult about that?

Her: We're seeing each other.
You: Does that mean you're exclusive or do you date others as well?

Trust me, you'll get her attention by asking. She won't be sure if you're just making conversation or if you're showing some sign of interest. Think of it as Manese if it makes you feel any better!

 

[Blurred Elevens]

Eileen steps back, dribbles, zigs left, zags right, she jumps, shoots the ball....swish!

 

[gentleman193]

Foul

Charging. Sorry, Eileen, 0 points.

 

[Eileen]

I'll never get the rules right.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Seeing eachother = We're just porkin'.

One of the two parties doesn't want to commit. Semi-taken but might be open to the possibility to something with you if things don't change. Always open to finding something new.

Haha. Yes, asking her what she means is always a good thing to do.

 

[mateo_g]

I always go for the kill unless there is a ring on her finger. Sometimes it works sometimes it don't, but I find out fairly quick how commited (or in some instances, how made up as a defense mechanism) her relationship is.

 

[Luscious]

If she's "seeing him", and has the time to flirt with you, stop and think for a second.

Is it even WORTH getting her to be "seeing you", when you know there's that risk she'll just find some guy 'better' than you?

If she's not exclusive and 'seeing' someone - i.e. doesn't like to pitch to one batter at a time, I wouldn't go anywhere near that batting cage, if you know what I mean.

I much prefer to know I'll have the complete and total attention of my woman.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by Luscious
If she's "seeing him", and has the time to flirt with you, stop and think for a second.

Is it even WORTH getting her to be "seeing you", when you know there's that risk she'll just find some guy 'better' than you?

If she's not exclusive and 'seeing' someone - i.e. doesn't like to pitch to one batter at a time, I wouldn't go anywhere near that batting cage, if you know what I mean.

I much prefer to know I'll have the complete and total attention of my woman.

First of all, there is always risk that she'll find somebody else, and if she does, more power to her; same goes for guys; don't stay in a relationship/situation if there are ways to improve your life. If you are too insecure to be worrying about the fact that she's looking to up grade, which they always are by the way, then you got bigger issues to deal to be tryin' to get girls.

It is recomended that we men not put all our eggs in one basket, what makes you think women are gonna hold on to your every word and move and not look for better opportunities. In a fantasy world maybe, not in real life. Until you are married, both parties are free to look out for the best possible mate. After all, this is your life we're talking about.

Each head is a different world, and is very difficult to find "The One" without searching for her/him; so don't limit yourself when it comes for ways to improve your current situation. Same goes when it comes to anything else in life; work, friendships, material things, etc. The world doesn't stay still, and neither should you.

 

[TesuqueRed]

From your post, my opinion is that:

She's part AW.

She's seeing him because she prefers not spending her weekends home alone. She may be seeing him for more than that, or not.

Regardless, she'll consider other offers and will cultivate other opportunities. This is likely what she's doing with you. She won't commit to dumping him or going for you -- that remains to be tested-- but in the meantime, she's keeping her business oportunities open. You can never network too much, can you?

She's open to better offers. In fact, she's always assessing the current offer and comparing it with the next.

Good call on holding back since you could get blow-back in a business situation. Again, she's part AW, so if you come on too strong, she can turn that back on you and make you pay for it by reporting to your manager that you make her uncomfortable, that you've come onto her when she never lead you on, etc. It doesn't ever have to come close to being a sexual harrassment suit, she can damage you without you knowing it far short of a sexual harrassment suit.

Men, to be fair, have damaged women's reputations in the work environment far longer than women have done that to men (what do you think accounts for their exclusion from the work place for so long?--and no, that's not a feminist opinion..anyway..)

Let's say maybe things get steamy between you and her. She still has a card she can flip on you if she needs to hurt you later.

Whatever happens, watch her--you'll learn things.