"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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DJ vs Nice Guy

digitalrat

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I meet this girl right at the time I was reading sosuave everyday. She came into my life when I was changing. She even says it her self. "You never used to be this ****y"

Well, I've tried all my techniques on her. She was my test dummy. She has always liked me but has keep her distance. She isnt no idiot. She's a Female DJ.

I've always been really aggressive towards her. Always cracking jokes on her, but in the DJ way. Not really mean, but I did it alittle too much. I did it so much to protect my ego back then. But she ate it up back then but I could never seal the deal for some reason.

Now, I have to say we ALWAYS fight. It's sad but we fight all the time. I have a habit of pissing her off.

Now the question here is not if she likes me. Or if she isnt still in love with me. Now I'm not clouding my view here. I can see if she doesnt like me. My problem I believe is that I never showed her that I really "cared" for her on an emotional level.

Now, I moved away two months ago to FSU for summer session. Well, When I went up she wanted to sent letters back and forth. She sent me 2 and I sent her 1 letter. We had a fight right before I came back and I told her to have a good life. Well, I came down and she IMed me because she heard I went over to her house and said Hi to her family(I'm close with her family). Well told her to call me when she gets off work the next day.

She never did. I called her the next night and we have this hour long convo. I tell her that she didnt call on purpose after she lies and tells me that she forgot. She says im right and she was trying to prove a point. Then I tell her to tell me a story and she tells me that she has a boyfriend. Now she didnt bring this up as a main topic. This was like in the middle of the convo. She was hiding it for awhile. I never knew it at FSU. So I start making fun of him on taking her to go eat and her taking all his money. Then I tell her that were going out tomarrow. I dont have a car so I told her to drive and she goes "He can drive." I took that as a joke towards her boyfriend. She even said on the phone that we would have a kid and ****, which she has said before. Now, trust me, she's not weird so dont say that lol. She didnt just say that, it was in the convo lol.

So I call her up the next day. Tell her im going to the mall and ill call her when I get back. So I call her at 7pm and she says it was too late and that her bf was over. So I go over with the "boyfriend killer" mood. This kid is the definition of AFC. She has already graduated and he's a senior this year. So I mess with her in front of him. She must of came up to me and grabbed me and hit me a million times. You know those types of hits that screams "I wanna have sex with you" haha. I cant keep count how many times it happened. He left for about 10 mins and we were sort of alone in a room with the door crack open with her mom sort of watching. So I lay on the bed right next to her. She didnt mind me being on her or my face right next to hers.

Now, I didnt go for the kiss. I dont know if that was a good choice but at the time it felt right. I didnt want it to look rushed. She for sure wasnt acting like her boyfriend just left and another guy is up on her. But who knows. Even when we first meet she was all up on me on a couch and I was feeling her whole body and she had a boyfriend. For some reason they broke up 3 days letter. ;)

She would hold hands with him or put her arm around him on purpose around me. When we were alone I remembered "Dont bring up the bf" She tells me that he says her tits are perfect and that their a handful. Now I know this girl. She said that just to bother me. She is trying to make me jealous.

Now, I think the right move is to just tell her that I hope she has a wonderful relationship with this kid. That I hope it works out and that she deserves it. I just dont know how to work it exactly. But that would be the smartest move.

The problem is I still have feelings for her and I'm moving back to FSU in a week and half! :(
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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digitalrat

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lol, why do you say that?
 

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In other words either take flight or crash & burn
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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