Seriously.
Anyway 'tricks' wont work anywhere.
Think about it, half of this stuff is based around the fact that girls have had lots of experiance with chumpy guys. In high school a lot of the girls aren't going to have had that much experiance, probably rendering a lot of this rather useless.
I came across this thought when I found out some 14 year old girls were falling in love with guys they just seen at lunch time but didn't talk to. How many DJ moves did they pull? I thought 'damn this is fcking immature! What is this, primary school?'. Hell then I ended up with my own fan club, none of them really new me. It turns out girls get oneitus exactly like we do!
All the PUA stuff is designed for use in the 'real world' with older girls that have experience and when the environment is changed. It can mess with your head reading about all this why you are still in high school. I know, I've been through it! Don't worry about anything like cold approaching at malls or whatever. Your in high school just have fun.
Sure some of these fundamentals are great to learn. It prevents us from becoming the nice guy. But hey I even seen nice guys get girls while I was studying all this, just because they took action. While I was trying to land the perfect 'neg' and planning my next c/f line they would just ask her out. Some guys would say 'hell no!' to someone who asks if they should tell a girl they like her, I say go ahead! It's experience. You will KNOW if it works.
ANY action is better than no action. Making a mistake with a girl is a lot better than reading an article.
Fundamentals like kino, disinterest, c/f (sometimes) work! The problem is they have to be part of who you are, rather than tricks or moves. The catch is when you are learning these you may have to go through a period where you consciously do them. This probably wont work well, but don't think it's the fault of these 'techniques', you just have to do it until it's a part of you, until it's natural. Then your success will skyrocket.
Everything found on this site is just imitating the symptoms of being a cool confident guy. Look for this stuff in guys that get girls, you will find it. The thing is they probably don't know they are doing it, they just are being themselves. You have to get to this stage. And you know how you do that? No it's not by reading. You have to go out there and get EXPERIANCE. If you just lose your fears and start finding confidence and becoming outgoing you will do a lot of this anyway.
The biggest thing you can do for your success with women is increasing your comfort around them. The only way to do this is simply to hang around them. Make friends with girls, do stuff with them. Hell i don't even care if you land in the friend’s zone. Don't try to get there, just try to relax and be fun. You probably won’t get there if you aren't trying to impress them. After that maybe you can ask some girls out, don't think of it as trying to get them, think of it as getting experience.
I have literally gotten to the stage where I don't regret things anymore. It isn't a mistake, it's a learning exercise. I honestly don't look back at things and think 'why did I do that?' or 'why did I have to stuff that up?" (at least not for very long). I just think "Ok what did learn from this?". I'm only ever disappointed if I don't think of I learnt, which almost never happens.
Another thing you should do is get over oneitus. I will tell you why. The WORST thing you can do when attracting someone is wanting something from her. They can always pick up on this. If you are trying to gain their approval, through being a nice guy or using sweet techniques, it will almost never work. Even if you are trying to act disinterested you body language, voice tone and other sub-communications might give you away. Girls are good at pickup this up. They don't want a guy that needs them, they want a fun guy who is cool to hang around with. Someone who does cool things and they want to tag along on your adventure. They don't want to be your adventure. It's ok to be attracted, even to show it, just never ever be needy. Want to take her along, not take something from her.
I don't get oneitus anymore. i just don't. People think they can't control it. They think it is love or some other sh!t, or even that they aren't shallow and they don't like her for her looks, even though they haven't talked to her. I know. I’ve been there. I've had onitus for girls for years. It took me a fair while to shake but I've done it. I don't spend any night depressed over a girl. If it doesn't work with a girl, I might be sad, for a few minutes. You might think you can't control it, but you CAN. It's just what you focus on. Instead of thinking of her just do something else. Make sure you have a few girls in your head, not just one. Eventually it is easy and happens naturally.
One more thing you need to know. Women are like ships looking for an island to land on, you are the island. You can’t bring your island into her ships, she has to come into your world. This is part of why trying to impress her never works, usually guys are trying to get into her world. They talk about her, try to impress her, talk about things they have in common with her, buy her presents, you see the pattern here. You have to build a life that YOU want. YOU have to become an attractive person. Don’t try and get into her world.
Always do what YOU want. Don’t try and impress someone, just do something if YOU want to. Don’t let people tell you what to do, do what YOU want. Don’t wait for others, take the lead and do what YOU want. This is vital if you ever want to be good with women.
So if you are like me, stop reading so much. If you are new here it might do you some good. The only things you need to do are:
-Have fun
-Be social
-Hang around chicks (preferably hot ones)
-Don't be outcome dependant
-Be busy
-Don't be needy
-Get experience
-Get out of your comfort zone
-Try new things
-Don't be restricted to you current friends, or held back by them
And most of all:
-HAVE FUN
If you do this girls should come naturally without you having to try. This will also get you experience, and therefore confidence. I spent most of my time at high school just sitting with guys, do you think this helped me? I spent most of my time in high school on here reading articles. Did this turn me into a massive pimp quickly? No. It took time and experience. There is no point knowing what to do logically if you cant do it in your actions. If you are trying to think logically while talking to a girl it screws you up. Most of my success comes from just having fun, it’s the best advice anyone can give you. This is because I didn’t care about the outcome, I brought her into MY world, and I wasn’t thinking logically.
I heard a good quote: "All you have to do to get a girl is make less mistakes then the other guy"
Something else to think about: “The hungry don’t get fed”
PS: I'm writing a pretty massive guide for high school I will post at the end of my time there. I wanted to put some of my thoughts out there for feedback. This isn't polished or edited at all, and in the end you may see me repeat some information. Just thought I would let yas know
This turned out as more of a random rant then I intended! There’s a lot of condensed information in here.
Anyway 'tricks' wont work anywhere.
Think about it, half of this stuff is based around the fact that girls have had lots of experiance with chumpy guys. In high school a lot of the girls aren't going to have had that much experiance, probably rendering a lot of this rather useless.
I came across this thought when I found out some 14 year old girls were falling in love with guys they just seen at lunch time but didn't talk to. How many DJ moves did they pull? I thought 'damn this is fcking immature! What is this, primary school?'. Hell then I ended up with my own fan club, none of them really new me. It turns out girls get oneitus exactly like we do!
All the PUA stuff is designed for use in the 'real world' with older girls that have experience and when the environment is changed. It can mess with your head reading about all this why you are still in high school. I know, I've been through it! Don't worry about anything like cold approaching at malls or whatever. Your in high school just have fun.
Sure some of these fundamentals are great to learn. It prevents us from becoming the nice guy. But hey I even seen nice guys get girls while I was studying all this, just because they took action. While I was trying to land the perfect 'neg' and planning my next c/f line they would just ask her out. Some guys would say 'hell no!' to someone who asks if they should tell a girl they like her, I say go ahead! It's experience. You will KNOW if it works.
ANY action is better than no action. Making a mistake with a girl is a lot better than reading an article.
Fundamentals like kino, disinterest, c/f (sometimes) work! The problem is they have to be part of who you are, rather than tricks or moves. The catch is when you are learning these you may have to go through a period where you consciously do them. This probably wont work well, but don't think it's the fault of these 'techniques', you just have to do it until it's a part of you, until it's natural. Then your success will skyrocket.
Everything found on this site is just imitating the symptoms of being a cool confident guy. Look for this stuff in guys that get girls, you will find it. The thing is they probably don't know they are doing it, they just are being themselves. You have to get to this stage. And you know how you do that? No it's not by reading. You have to go out there and get EXPERIANCE. If you just lose your fears and start finding confidence and becoming outgoing you will do a lot of this anyway.
The biggest thing you can do for your success with women is increasing your comfort around them. The only way to do this is simply to hang around them. Make friends with girls, do stuff with them. Hell i don't even care if you land in the friend’s zone. Don't try to get there, just try to relax and be fun. You probably won’t get there if you aren't trying to impress them. After that maybe you can ask some girls out, don't think of it as trying to get them, think of it as getting experience.
I have literally gotten to the stage where I don't regret things anymore. It isn't a mistake, it's a learning exercise. I honestly don't look back at things and think 'why did I do that?' or 'why did I have to stuff that up?" (at least not for very long). I just think "Ok what did learn from this?". I'm only ever disappointed if I don't think of I learnt, which almost never happens.
Another thing you should do is get over oneitus. I will tell you why. The WORST thing you can do when attracting someone is wanting something from her. They can always pick up on this. If you are trying to gain their approval, through being a nice guy or using sweet techniques, it will almost never work. Even if you are trying to act disinterested you body language, voice tone and other sub-communications might give you away. Girls are good at pickup this up. They don't want a guy that needs them, they want a fun guy who is cool to hang around with. Someone who does cool things and they want to tag along on your adventure. They don't want to be your adventure. It's ok to be attracted, even to show it, just never ever be needy. Want to take her along, not take something from her.
I don't get oneitus anymore. i just don't. People think they can't control it. They think it is love or some other sh!t, or even that they aren't shallow and they don't like her for her looks, even though they haven't talked to her. I know. I’ve been there. I've had onitus for girls for years. It took me a fair while to shake but I've done it. I don't spend any night depressed over a girl. If it doesn't work with a girl, I might be sad, for a few minutes. You might think you can't control it, but you CAN. It's just what you focus on. Instead of thinking of her just do something else. Make sure you have a few girls in your head, not just one. Eventually it is easy and happens naturally.
One more thing you need to know. Women are like ships looking for an island to land on, you are the island. You can’t bring your island into her ships, she has to come into your world. This is part of why trying to impress her never works, usually guys are trying to get into her world. They talk about her, try to impress her, talk about things they have in common with her, buy her presents, you see the pattern here. You have to build a life that YOU want. YOU have to become an attractive person. Don’t try and get into her world.
Always do what YOU want. Don’t try and impress someone, just do something if YOU want to. Don’t let people tell you what to do, do what YOU want. Don’t wait for others, take the lead and do what YOU want. This is vital if you ever want to be good with women.
So if you are like me, stop reading so much. If you are new here it might do you some good. The only things you need to do are:
-Have fun
-Be social
-Hang around chicks (preferably hot ones)
-Don't be outcome dependant
-Be busy
-Don't be needy
-Get experience
-Get out of your comfort zone
-Try new things
-Don't be restricted to you current friends, or held back by them
And most of all:
-HAVE FUN
If you do this girls should come naturally without you having to try. This will also get you experience, and therefore confidence. I spent most of my time at high school just sitting with guys, do you think this helped me? I spent most of my time in high school on here reading articles. Did this turn me into a massive pimp quickly? No. It took time and experience. There is no point knowing what to do logically if you cant do it in your actions. If you are trying to think logically while talking to a girl it screws you up. Most of my success comes from just having fun, it’s the best advice anyone can give you. This is because I didn’t care about the outcome, I brought her into MY world, and I wasn’t thinking logically.
I heard a good quote: "All you have to do to get a girl is make less mistakes then the other guy"
Something else to think about: “The hungry don’t get fed”
PS: I'm writing a pretty massive guide for high school I will post at the end of my time there. I wanted to put some of my thoughts out there for feedback. This isn't polished or edited at all, and in the end you may see me repeat some information. Just thought I would let yas know
This turned out as more of a random rant then I intended! There’s a lot of condensed information in here.
