OK guys, now I need some advise and insight.
I had one of those days at work at a large company/organization where I was challenged more than once by a female employee who outranked me, but wasn't my direct supervisor. Basically, it amounted to one instance where she had her viewpoint, and I could either agree with it or openly verbalize against it in front of others; this regarding a decision that would be significant and affect us all. In a second instance, she tried to push work off of me (that would have taken a significant amount of time to accomplish) normally performed by another section, and not within my job description.
In both instances, I stood my ground, ala DJ?, by not being afraid to offer an opposing viewpoint, and I also told her I was unwilling to do the work normally done by another section. Now don't take this to mean I don't accept from time to time "other duties as assigned" - the random ones that come up. No, this was more a "do your sections work and also we want you to do some other sections work to". Basically, it was her attempt to see if I will be a "yes man". Where I work, being a yes man to items not on my "list of responsibilities" can have detrimental effects at review time because I'm only rated based upon said list.
So, anyway, she was steaming because I was so bold to oppose her repeadidly. She is a bull-headed type of personality that intentionally tries to set up tense situations like that by not talking with me privately first, but trying these power plays in front of several employees.
Anyway, I'm wondering now did I raise her and others watching opinions of me, or did I hurt myself by taking this bold/stern/anti-yes man approach. Or rephrased, in the workplace, is it actually better to be the nice guy/yes man, or will the DJ/jerk who stands up for himself also be more desired/respected as he is by women in the gaming world?
I'm really on the fence whether I'm playing the dynamics right or not.
Suggestions?
I had one of those days at work at a large company/organization where I was challenged more than once by a female employee who outranked me, but wasn't my direct supervisor. Basically, it amounted to one instance where she had her viewpoint, and I could either agree with it or openly verbalize against it in front of others; this regarding a decision that would be significant and affect us all. In a second instance, she tried to push work off of me (that would have taken a significant amount of time to accomplish) normally performed by another section, and not within my job description.
In both instances, I stood my ground, ala DJ?, by not being afraid to offer an opposing viewpoint, and I also told her I was unwilling to do the work normally done by another section. Now don't take this to mean I don't accept from time to time "other duties as assigned" - the random ones that come up. No, this was more a "do your sections work and also we want you to do some other sections work to". Basically, it was her attempt to see if I will be a "yes man". Where I work, being a yes man to items not on my "list of responsibilities" can have detrimental effects at review time because I'm only rated based upon said list.
So, anyway, she was steaming because I was so bold to oppose her repeadidly. She is a bull-headed type of personality that intentionally tries to set up tense situations like that by not talking with me privately first, but trying these power plays in front of several employees.
Anyway, I'm wondering now did I raise her and others watching opinions of me, or did I hurt myself by taking this bold/stern/anti-yes man approach. Or rephrased, in the workplace, is it actually better to be the nice guy/yes man, or will the DJ/jerk who stands up for himself also be more desired/respected as he is by women in the gaming world?
I'm really on the fence whether I'm playing the dynamics right or not.
Suggestions?