What are your interests, hobbies, activities for fun beyond women? What makes you an all-around Man and DJ beyond the PUA?
Alternatively, what blogs/forums/sites/other resources do you check out or real life or fictional role models inspire you in life.
I'm happily married with 2 young kids. I found the DJ forums about 8 or 9 years ago and it helped me out of a psycho relationship and its aftermath. I've utilized the self mastery ideas of some very helpful members (current members like RT among many others and the originals in the DJ bible) and rid myself of the AFCness. I'm in a good place female-wise.
What I'm interested in is some sharing of info about all the other ways that would have inspired the DJ greats.
For example, some things about myself that I'm proud of and I think contribute to the DJ aura are below. Please share yours as it might be interesting and inspire others to get into it. Its not about bragging (what I'm actually saying is that I need to get some more high quality interests), its about describing what works for you.
Travel - I travel the world for fun often - taking trips to islands, European cities, adventure locations, SE Asia, Africa, etc. I stay at super luxury hotels or whatever is more appropriate for the specific destination. I dont talk much about this part: I am something of a travel/ff expert. I've spent a long time on flyertalk.com and its allowed me to get ff points or take advantage of super deals. I dont talk much about the how - its less DJ
- but the results inspire awe from lots of people.
Personal Finance/ Investing - I am pretty advanced in this as well. I've always had an interest and have studied economics at a top school and business at a top MBA program. Its great to actually know what is going on and how to best help yourself financially - and it leaves the impression that you are in control, smart, and can handle your future. Resources - not as easy as travel, but the obvious things like reading the WSJ and watching CNBC/Bloomberg, lots of websites too - the key is to have some exposure to economics/finance topics for some reasonable amount of time every day.
Learning - I spend an hour a weekday and 2 hours on weekends in my own form of continuing education. Those are planned in advance and are specific. For example, I joined lynda.com to become very strong in all the important computer programs - excel, photoshop, etc. I read manuals about cryptography or game theory or a foreign language that I'm an intermediate speaker in. I need to keep learning. This is personally gratifying because it feels good to be smart and constantly be choosing to learn about what currently interests me.
Being a great dad - I am incredibly proud of my little kids. They already bring me incredible joy. I think its very cool (for myself, their lives, and also superficially) to be a great dad and I spend lots of time playing with my kids and reading (books and websites) about what is important to them now and in the future so that I try to stay prepared.
Wines - I personally really like wine. I'm not snobbish about it, but I like to taste wines from many regions and find the ones that I like best and learn about why. Its personally fulfilling and once every few years its impressive to someone else that I just happen to know about it. Resources: I have a wine book (easy to find on amazon), use wine spectator and try wines from different regions. Also drink a lot of local wines when I travel.
Food - same as above. Since we eat and drink several times every day, I am trying to bring my participation in that to an art (in my own small way). Also am careful to not be a douche about it, and i love hot dogs and burgers, but try to have a taste and understanding of fine cooking. Resources: various recipe blogs and sites, and just eating in nice restaurants and sampling local cuisine around the world
I guess thats an example of what I'm looking for. I want to find fun, interesting things that I can get in to that lead to a good-life that a DJ would be proud of.
I will spend more time on this list as I think its a helpful exercise (and if this thread is successful, I'll definitely come back with a more comprehensive post) I hope its appropriate for the forum.
Alternatively, what blogs/forums/sites/other resources do you check out or real life or fictional role models inspire you in life.
I'm happily married with 2 young kids. I found the DJ forums about 8 or 9 years ago and it helped me out of a psycho relationship and its aftermath. I've utilized the self mastery ideas of some very helpful members (current members like RT among many others and the originals in the DJ bible) and rid myself of the AFCness. I'm in a good place female-wise.
What I'm interested in is some sharing of info about all the other ways that would have inspired the DJ greats.
For example, some things about myself that I'm proud of and I think contribute to the DJ aura are below. Please share yours as it might be interesting and inspire others to get into it. Its not about bragging (what I'm actually saying is that I need to get some more high quality interests), its about describing what works for you.
Travel - I travel the world for fun often - taking trips to islands, European cities, adventure locations, SE Asia, Africa, etc. I stay at super luxury hotels or whatever is more appropriate for the specific destination. I dont talk much about this part: I am something of a travel/ff expert. I've spent a long time on flyertalk.com and its allowed me to get ff points or take advantage of super deals. I dont talk much about the how - its less DJ
- but the results inspire awe from lots of people.Personal Finance/ Investing - I am pretty advanced in this as well. I've always had an interest and have studied economics at a top school and business at a top MBA program. Its great to actually know what is going on and how to best help yourself financially - and it leaves the impression that you are in control, smart, and can handle your future. Resources - not as easy as travel, but the obvious things like reading the WSJ and watching CNBC/Bloomberg, lots of websites too - the key is to have some exposure to economics/finance topics for some reasonable amount of time every day.
Learning - I spend an hour a weekday and 2 hours on weekends in my own form of continuing education. Those are planned in advance and are specific. For example, I joined lynda.com to become very strong in all the important computer programs - excel, photoshop, etc. I read manuals about cryptography or game theory or a foreign language that I'm an intermediate speaker in. I need to keep learning. This is personally gratifying because it feels good to be smart and constantly be choosing to learn about what currently interests me.
Being a great dad - I am incredibly proud of my little kids. They already bring me incredible joy. I think its very cool (for myself, their lives, and also superficially) to be a great dad and I spend lots of time playing with my kids and reading (books and websites) about what is important to them now and in the future so that I try to stay prepared.
Wines - I personally really like wine. I'm not snobbish about it, but I like to taste wines from many regions and find the ones that I like best and learn about why. Its personally fulfilling and once every few years its impressive to someone else that I just happen to know about it. Resources: I have a wine book (easy to find on amazon), use wine spectator and try wines from different regions. Also drink a lot of local wines when I travel.
Food - same as above. Since we eat and drink several times every day, I am trying to bring my participation in that to an art (in my own small way). Also am careful to not be a douche about it, and i love hot dogs and burgers, but try to have a taste and understanding of fine cooking. Resources: various recipe blogs and sites, and just eating in nice restaurants and sampling local cuisine around the world
I guess thats an example of what I'm looking for. I want to find fun, interesting things that I can get in to that lead to a good-life that a DJ would be proud of.
I will spend more time on this list as I think its a helpful exercise (and if this thread is successful, I'll definitely come back with a more comprehensive post) I hope its appropriate for the forum.