"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJ help needed i'm in a bit of a pickle.

ace88

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I was out on a date having a good chat, laying down on couches sipping on some nice Pimm's Cup. The night goes on she starts hinting on my real intentions, when she gets my verbal confirmation she:

:box: :box: :box: FREAKS OUT!:box: :box: :box:

I start laughing.

sitts up starts shaking, stares into the distance...mumbles how she cant...wont....could...would but she doesn't want a relationship(which she thinks its what i'm looking for :nono:) but she is not looking for hookups.

after calming her down for 10 min, I asked her what the hell was up wid her why she freaked out..? apparently she has been fighting with the ex boyfriend cos he wants to be exclusive and she does not want to, plus she freaked out cos I did not react badly and cut the date short.

We stayed out for a couple of more drinks and she went back to normal.... lying down 5cm from my face staring into my eyes at my mouth... i told her after that freak out even if I had any interest now its quite definitely gone. She asked if we were going to go out again... i said no... when i took her home she waited for me to tell me how nice the night had been and how she enjoyed and bla bla bla I went up to her and kissed or the cheek and left.



Two questions....


1. Am I a Beta that is my impression.

2. I feel she wants it when i was with her... and i felt she wanted it still after the freakout/rejection.... but I dont know I should behave.... DJ's to the rescue PLS
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cremasta

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She sounds like she is going to be nothing but hard work and a serious drama queen.
You did fine, particularly this part
ace88 said:
She asked if we were going to go out again... i said no...
do NOT change your mind on this, she is not going to be a fun ride.
 

TheMonkeyKing

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would but she doesn't want a relationship(which she thinks its what i'm looking for ) but she is not looking for hookups

She doesn't want one thing, yet she doesn't want the other. You made the decision for her; which was also the right decision by yourself.

That's not beta, that's f*cking awesome dude. Anytime a chick is f*cking around like that, I just disappear for a while. They always come back for more. If she's even talking to her ex, disappear again. Why entertain a chick who is blates playing guys like this.

Women are just constantly crippled like this by their chronic indecision. It's very unattractive.
 

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Thanks for the confirmation of my thoughts, I am realising how nuts the situation is.... her friends stopped saying greeting me.... looks like i dodged a bullet there.


Thanks for the answers m8
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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_sideways_ said:
This. I'm dealing with one at the moment and there is nothing good that will come from it.

Even worse, I only attract crazy girls. FML. :cheer:
 
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