"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJ Gone down in flames, need advice.

arcilitei34

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Well I guess I should start out my situation.

I'm currently in my senior year of a new highschool and I have a gf of 6 months, making new friends hasn't been much of a problem of mine. On my first day I was quite nervous but I kept my cool and stayed confident, the group of friends I hang out with have a couple great girls, great looks, personality is still pending however. Basically these girls all hang out with eachother and are small group in a big group, the one girl(lets call her Girl A) that is in that group i'm currently starting to be attracted too, she shifts her eyes at me alot as if I wasn't paying attention, no idea if its a sign of interest or not.

The second one(let's call her Girl B), currently has a boyfriend but is really good friends with Girl A, it was my second day at school and during my break I had a conversation with Girl B, we got to talking about small things, what we were taking, what homework we had, etc, until she asked me an odd question, "Who are you going to prom with?"

Normally any guy would have said his GF, but I for one don't like to think a year into the future like that, a wierd feeling came over me and I decided to tell her, with confidence "I'll find someone ;)".
She then proceded to ask me which school I went to, I told her, then she asked me "Did you have Girlfriends that went there?", again I told her yes, here come's the wierd part. She asked me if I was single, knowingly I knew she had a BF so chances are slim to none that she'd be interested in me, but her friend Girl A however.

At this point I have no idea what possessed me to say what I had said, I told Girl B that I was single and not seeing anyone, when clearly I have a GF that care's alot about me. After that point everything went downhill with me, my confidence dropped, I became quiet again, and still wonder to myself, what in gods name made me tell her that I was single. At this point im very confused, I really care about my GF but things have become very dull lately, and I miss the thrill of the chase, but at the same time I have no idea if Girl A is even interested in me or even worth the chase.

I Can't exactly pursue Girl A while still having a GF it wouldn't be fair for her and if thing's got out I would be blackmarked, same goes with my GF I cant Pursue Girl A and succeed while still leaving my GF in the dark about what's going on. Im in way over my head right now..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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oakraiderz2

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A. Stay w gf
B. Leave gf...

Its really not that complicated, just PICK ONE!!
 

arcilitei34

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These choices for me seem quite simple, but i assure you its not simple for me. I have to weigh the scales to see which is more important to me, commitment, or the thrill of the chase, i dont want to throw away something that's good, but at the same time I wont know if the other girl is any better if I dont try.
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by arcilitei34
These choices for me seem quite simple, but i assure you its not simple for me. I have to weigh the scales to see which is more important to me, commitment, or the thrill of the chase, i dont want to throw away something that's good, but at the same time I wont know if the other girl is any better if I dont try.
Yea, its like russian roulette. Have fun with that.
 

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You either need to pursue the thrill of having a new girl to chase and flirt with, which is very fun, or stay with your girl who provides security of being with someone. Basically its wieghing out new fun thrills or an old faithful relationship. The choice is just which one you want to pursue more.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LikRetsam

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Good sir, if your relationship is dull and this new piece of meat is turning you on and seems more attractive, all you have to blame is yourself!

If you're relationship is blowing atm, that's YOUR fault. So shape it up. The reason you said single was you wanted to leave your options open with chick B and consequently chick A. Why? With doubts about your current relationship.

You know what the **** you want. Now stop posting and turning around the subject. I've been where you are. You know where you want to be.
 
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