DJ experts plz help an AFC

[chandidas]

hi im new here and i have some issues
im a uni student and there is this girl that i hav bn frenz for 2 yrs now, i met her in my dorm, shes one year younger
i always thoght off her as a frend until recently, i started developing oneitis!
i flirt with her alot, but shes really hard to get intimate with, shes a tomboy, loud, not HB10 and kinda shy about BF stuff
i want to know if there is any real effective method of flirting, i dont act like a typical afc, i do c/f, neg hits etc but its not really working on this girl
i guess im stuck in FZ, but shes got many other guy friends and i dont act like any of them (all of them jus do what she wants, does girly things with her)
wen i joke around she hits me (in a playful way), laughs at anything i say, willing to help me with anything, contacts me every now and then (at least once a week, initiated by her) wat im trying to say is dat i get all kinds of IOIs
but recently i slept with her in same bed but she jus slept, so i cudnt do anything...:cuss:
sometimes she talks about other guys around campus, how she thinks theyre hot etc, but i dont pay attntn and i start talking about other HB10s and HB9s, she doesnt try to show it but i can tell she doesnt like it
i know many of you djs wud say move on, but i think i can crack it, but im lacking something, shes the hardest one iv come across yet
finally, i think she knows that i like her, but i give her mixed signals, i make fun of her, ignore her sometimes and she doesnt like it (once she called me +10 times for not replying her msg) n remembers everythings(cud b a female thing)
PLZ HELP ME DJS!!!!! show me the way!!!!

 

[MacDaddy]

2 yrs. You are not going to crack this one. She might fvck you out of loyalty & friendship but that will be it and that is a very very long shot. The only thing u can do is to get a gf and be less available and hope she misses u & becomes jealous.

 

[Thomas94305]

Read da DJ bible, run through the DJ boot camp.

You're asking for "in a few sentences, tell me how to make her hot for me". That's difficult. But, you seem to have something to work with here. She spends lots of time with you, she doesn't like it when you ignore her. Recommend the following:
1) read the documents I stated above, the DJ bible, the DJ boot camp.
2) Assert independence. If she talks about something you don't like. Get bored, look away, walk away, etc. Don't show anger. But if she asks, I'd take what you've done and turn it up a notch.."Sorry HB, I'm not into guys.. let's talk about how you can help me know HBOtherGirl.. She's HOT".. Go into details about HBOtherGirl a bit. But, don't do it to hurt her. You're asserting independence, and playfulness.
3) Go out with some other women.. you need to get beyond your one-itus.
4) Decide if you're willing to give up friendship to be BF/GF. As long as you waffle on this one, you'll be hesitant to do the BF/GF things for fear of messing up the friendship.

 

[chandidas]

2 yrs. You are not going to crack this one. She might fvck you out of loyalty & friendship but that will be it and that is a very very long shot. The only thing u can do is to get a gf and be less available and hope she misses u & becomes jealous.

thanx for the reply, ya i think it will b hard thats why i need a djs help
btw im not always available to her, we usually hangout once a week

 

[chandidas]

Read da DJ bible, run through the DJ boot camp.

You're asking for "in a few sentences, tell me how to make her hot for me". That's difficult. But, you seem to have something to work with here. She spends lots of time with you, she doesn't like it when you ignore her. Recommend the following:
1) read the documents I stated above, the DJ bible, the DJ boot camp.
2) Assert independence. If she talks about something you don't like. Get bored, look away, walk away, etc. Don't show anger. But if she asks, I'd take what you've done and turn it up a notch.."Sorry HB, I'm not into guys.. let's talk about how you can help me know HBOtherGirl.. She's HOT".. Go into details about HBOtherGirl a bit. But, don't do it to hurt her. You're asserting independence, and playfulness.
3) Go out with some other women.. you need to get beyond your one-itus.
4) Decide if you're willing to give up friendship to be BF/GF. As long as you waffle on this one, you'll be hesitant to do the BF/GF things for fear of messing up the friendship.

thnx dj! i think u got it spot on, i shud focus on other girl for awhile and btw can u recommend an article from dj bible on getting out of FZ

 

[chandidas]

ok i have more info...
i started liking her end of last yr, so what i did was i jus backed off a bit and kept our distance eg. busy with my own stuff and ignoring her etc
i think it worked well initially coz she kept on asking me to hangout with her more and she was asking my other frenz about me
so basically early this yr, i totaly forgot about her...and her interest level slowly went down too as i played too much hot and cold
im guessing ignoring her is not gunna work from now (shes seen me date other chics too)...so i need a new approach, ive read the bible many times but i already know most of them!
oh and somehow i cant b nice to her...so c/f and neg hits are not options either (she takes them seriously now) she thinks im an azzhole to her but nice to other chics
wat can i do to let her know that i like her? in a romantic way(without telling her) and make her feel hot for me?
PLZ HELP ME DJS!!!!!

 

[CompleteControl]

It sounds like you may have a shot.

You are going to have to start taking some risks with her, dude. Start escalating kino - Give her a massage - make her give you one. The two of you should go do something together - just the two of you - something that will get her body releasing adrenalin and endorphins - do something athletic or go to an amusement park. Go for a kiss. I like Mystery's kiss close.

Hey, you might get LJBFed, but what are you going to do - wait another 2 years?

 

[KarmaSutra]

hi im new here and i have some issues
im a uni student and there is this girl that i hav bn frenz for 2 yrs now, i met her in my dorm, shes one year younger
i always thoght off her as a frend until recently, i started developing oneitis!
i flirt with her alot, but shes really hard to get intimate with, shes a tomboy, loud, not HB10 and kinda shy about BF stuff
i want to know if there is any real effective method of flirting, i dont act like a typical afc, i do c/f, neg hits etc but its not really working on this girl
i guess im stuck in FZ, but shes got many other guy friends and i dont act like any of them (all of them jus do what she wants, does girly things with her)
wen i joke around she hits me (in a playful way), laughs at anything i say, willing to help me with anything, contacts me every now and then (at least once a week, initiated by her) wat im trying to say is dat i get all kinds of IOIs
but recently i slept with her in same bed but she jus slept, so i cudnt do anything...:cuss:
sometimes she talks about other guys around campus, how she thinks theyre hot etc, but i dont pay attntn and i start talking about other HB10s and HB9s, she doesnt try to show it but i can tell she doesnt like it
i know many of you djs wud say move on, but i think i can crack it, but im lacking something, shes the hardest one iv come across yet
finally, i think she knows that i like her, but i give her mixed signals, i make fun of her, ignore her sometimes and she doesnt like it (once she called me +10 times for not replying her msg) n remembers everythings(cud b a female thing)
PLZ HELP ME DJS!!!!! show me the way!!!!

First things fvckin' last. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE USE PROPER GRAMMAR. It's not cool or hip to use IM-ese and/or MySpace quick talk. Ebonics are not an excuse either.

Secondly, If you speak the same way you type (by the Gods I would hope not) This is not going to get you ass of any substance.

Other than that, You be da man papi!

 

[chandidas]

It sounds like you may have a shot.

You are going to have to start taking some risks with her, dude. Start escalating kino - Give her a massage - make her give you one. The two of you should go do something together - just the two of you - something that will get her body releasing adrenalin and endorphins - do something athletic or go to an amusement park. Go for a kiss. I like Mystery's kiss close.

Hey, you might get LJBFed, but what are you going to do - wait another 2 years?

thanx for the tip on kino! i should realy take more risks
i dunno why i developed this oneitis, i never thoght of her like that b4...
shes not that hot and not even my type..but its weird:woo: mayb its her personality

 

[chandidas]

First things fvckin' last. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE USE PROPER GRAMMAR. It's not cool or hip to use IM-ese and/or MySpace quick talk. Ebonics are not an excuse either.

Secondly, If you speak the same way you type (by the Gods I would hope not) This is not going to get you ass of any substance.

Other than that, You be da man papi!

sorry, i was in a hurry plus i lived most of my life in a multicultural city so that is how i speak

 

[chandidas]

bump bump bump

 

[Tomatoes]

It sounds like you may have a shot.

You are going to have to start taking some risks with her, dude. Start escalating kino - Give her a massage - make her give you one. The two of you should go do something together - just the two of you - something that will get her body releasing adrenalin and endorphins - do something athletic or go to an amusement park. Go for a kiss. I like Mystery's kiss close.

Hey, you might get LJBFed, but what are you going to do - wait another 2 years?

This is exactly what i was going to say. You have a shot with this girl....it sounds like you have never tried. I "slept" in the same bed as a friend before. I liked her. She wanted to sleep. I did a little kino and we fvcked. You have to make moves to get anywhere. Kiss and kino is defo the first thing. Understand thow doing this may ruin your friendship so make sure in your own head you like her.

Going for other girls is a defo as well. You need to keep your options open. It will also show to her that your in demand.


Get out there and do it!