"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DJ Bootcamp: Week 5

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Hm half way through guys, i hope some of u guys still continue, like i said this week consists of 2 weeks so plenty of time to get these tasks done and week 4 if you need to. This is where u will start getting results and all those rejections and bad times will all pay off. Make sure to push urself this week though, because if u don't u will not make it, some of u have been given a second chance, but if u do the same thing last week u will not get through. I think einstein said this "insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over again and expecting different results".

Well guys for this week i want u to just do some new stuff like take a different route home, go to a different area to do something, go to a club u never been before, Take up a class of a new skill, go somewhere and do a new sport or a sport u have not done in ages. All these things will help u meet new people. What i have been noticing lately is i am meeting the exact same people over and over. Whats the fun in doing something the same time all the time? it is boring, life is about new things. So when u r at all these new places meet new people and get some numbers, in week 4 u should learn that asking for a number isn't has hard has it looks. It would be even easier if u made a great connection with the person, which i am sure u will do with all these new people.

Exercise 1
Call up the girls whom we have acquired their phone numbers during lesson four and set-up a nonweekend first date. This could be to a coffee shop, or an action date, but definitely not the traditional movie-and-dinner. Take a look at the Reading Material above for ideas.

Exercise 2
Use the skills we have learned up to this point, and those contained within the Reading Material above, to increase the girl's interest level.

Interest level: Doc Love has a system and one of the major parts of this system is the concept of “Interest Level”. Basically, a girl must have 50% or more to be romantically interested in you, and if it goes below 50%, then it is impossible to become her romantic interest [again]. This is called “LJBF”.
Let’s just be friends: Or LJBF, is a line a girl uses on you to try to “Let you down nicely”. Truth is, this is a pathetic thing to hear. If you hear it, move on to a next potential girl. Its rare to get anywhere with a “Friend”, but at the same time, friends can be assets to helping you attain others.

Exercise 3
Go back into the field and get more phone numbers if we have not yet acquired ten phone numbers. Field: The arena from which you work. Could be a shopping mall, a park, general crowded area, clubs, pubs, university campuses etc. When you’re in the field, you should feel as though you are “On”.

Special exercise notes
This lesson does not have to be completed by this time next week. You will have fourteen days (two weeks) to complete it (MotU suggested one and a half weeks, but that would cause an imbalance with the day names – Nick). So with two weeks, you have just the right amount of time to go get some
numbers if you don't have enough (or any), wait 4-7 days to call and set up the date, and to finally go out on some dates.
Upon completion of, or throughout, this exercise, come back and report on one or more of your dates and first phone call conversations – use the response thread.

All right guys, we're half way through with the Boot Camp. You guys who have stuck to it this past month are doing fantastic. Now we get to start enjoy what we've worked hard to establish.
So go out there, and have a blast!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I got 5 numbers so far so need another 5 more. I am thinking of taking some girl out tommorow i will give her call and ask her on day maybe. I am going to a club tommorow has well. So i got 1-2 more months to perfect my game, which i think is plenty of time.

I admit right now it is very rubbish and i am dissapointed in myself.
 

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Week 4 + 5

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I will do the DJ Bank soon, but i am just going out to a festival right now and i am running late, so i will do it tommorow hopefully with some new updates.
 

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Unbelievable i got friend zoned today, for the first time in my entire life!!!. To be fair i am working in social circles so i can understand why it would b more of a danger. I actually said to her even "what did u just friend zone me...." after she brought up what is the point of the day i just said "idk yet i just like to keep things kool and c where they go". She is a great girl though, i felt has though she was pretty, but i wasn't attracted to her in having the urge to kiss her and what not way. I think she sensed that to. We get on great though and it wasn't really awkward after my shock that i got friend zoned and how i was explaining...no...no that dosn't happen to me.

We were flirting with eachother all way home. And i put my hand on her, she said "thats nice" and I took it away from her "o wait u don't get those privaleges" and she laughed asking why not. I also remember she drove me home afterwards and i put my hand out to her and she said no i want hug. I was getting out of car and she said to me "can i have another hug" I said "well thats to bad u didn't say yes lol" she said "yes" and looked at me, i wasn't sure if she was joking or not, but i don't have time to play games with the whole does she like me or not thing anymore seeing any more would b troublesome. So i just said "aw to bad ur friend zoned, but thanks for the lift" and shut the door lol

Shes great girl and i have never ever had a female friend that is not a romantic interest ever so maybe this could b interesting and she might be able to hook me up with some other girls who knows lol. Guys i am starting to lose faith though dam...i am getting worst... i think i need to have a long read of all the good threads relating to my situation. ugh i suck!!!!.

Date - done

10 number closes - 6 numbers, 4 left to go

then i am in week 6.
 

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Haha, wow, you'Ve never been friendzoned before? That was what brought me here after all!

Let's not forget that DJism doesn't forbid friendships. The question is: can you friendzone her? If you can't give up any romantic interest in her, your friendship with her will weaken you in the long run (the one you couldn't have... what a pain to the ego!). But if you can, it's great.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hey mate, its good to see that you are still going, mate more power to ya. About your friendship situation, it sounds like she friended you but wants to keep you around. If this is a girl you see on a daily basis, what she did is more for personal protection than anything else. If this is a random girl, I would suggest moving on. Even if you can friendzone her, she may not really mean the same about you, regardless it will create trouble in the long run.

Also, a side note: just because you are not getting the result that you desire does not mean that you are moving backwards. Remember not everything is within your locus of control, you must distinguish between what you can change and what you cannot. With all that said, I must agree you suck. I think its time you go to soho and just get it over with :). On a side note, I sent you a message, let me know
 

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lol yeh my skills sucked so much in the past they didn't even feel the need to tell me they are my friend. But anyways who knows she might b a lesbian thats what i am thinking (haha too arrogant jk). Yeh i think with this one could cause problems like u said, so maybe i will just let this slide naturally though and just b kool.

I have not been posting lately because i got in a big situation with some girl that i actually really cared about. Lets just say it was a big **** up and i feel like a total crap bag for it and hate myself even if i didn't mean to **** up intentionally, but she is such a fantastic girl and i wish her the best to what lies ahead of her because she deserves it. I think this day was definettly one of the worst days of my life.

Well anyways i got to finish this bootcamp. So got 5 days to get 4 numbers.

Hope u guys r doing better than me.
 

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Ok 4 numbers still and 2 days left. I am going to try do things out of my area tommorow seeing i got the whole day off, but got a lot of things to do apparently. 2 days left is kinda pushing it but i will will b alright.

Hope u guys are all doing ok and will get through to week 6.
 

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Alright guys i didn't complete today, i got 4 numbers and one email, but one of my numbers was put has a friend. So i will not inculde that one. So got one more day left and i got one more number to get tommorow. Might be slightly difficult because i am starting my new job tommorow. I am a lot more happier doing this and my approaches are hell lot more spontanious. I got some funny storys i will write field report tommorow or saturday but i will be in week 6, Ill give it my all to get that last number tommorow.
 

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got another number so that is 10 plates, guess i am through to week 6. If u guys have finished just put ur field reports on this page. I will put my field report on tommorow because i don't think i will have time to do it now. It is good success seeing my last 5 were done on the street cold.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Week 5 Field report

Alright guys my mind is very hazey but i will remember what i can.

I was at bus stop and came over to blonde on ground.
RD: hey u know what this is kinda crazy but i just had to come over to talk to u.
HB: o whats ur name
RD: hm friendly i like, jordan
HB: roxanne
RD: hm expected bit more fiestiness with a name like that, but ur quite peacful and calm
HB: lol and whys that
RD: well kinda like the song, but i am sure u get that a lot
HB: yes lol
RD: hm i c u like celebritys seeing ur reading that magazine
HB: really
RD: no lol
RD: how old r u?
HB: 20 u
RD: hm same so r u in uni?
HB: nah hair dresser
RD: aw my friend is a hairdresser u a junior
HB: no higher than that
RD: i am guessing a stylist
HB: yup (bit more talk on that, went for number close, she said she couldn't remember so i got her email)

Alright me and my friend said we will say how r u's to girls walking down street and see if we can start conversation, First one was very awkward, second one i spun and slid and said "how r u " (she continued to walk) so i was like "o come on the spin was kool" and she stopped, but unfortunatelly her english wasn't to good and she was digging it from her body language, but she didn't understand anything besides what is ur name and where r u from. Third one was "hey how r u i c ur waiting at the traffic lights thought i will talk u while your waiting" she was kool about and she was kinda hot till i saw she had a kinda faint mostache, unfortunately not faint enough lol.

Saw ice cream girl.
RD: Firstly i don't want ice cream but u know what i just had to come over and ask u a question me and my friend were discussing
HB: yeh what
RD: do u like ice cream
HB: yes
RD: wow lol what a suprise
(can't remember convo transitions, but talk bit about her life she talks bit about mine)
RD: anyway i gtg let me get ur number
HB: umm sorry i have a boyfriend
RD: thats call i have one 2 his watching us (points at david)
HB: lol thats ur boyfriend
RD: yeh pretty much, he gets kinda jealous sometimes but he is kool (people in background who watching my pick up were laughing and seemed to enjoy it, i enjoyed it myself lol)
HB: well that is nice, but i am sorry i can not give u my number
RD: ok kool, well it was nice to meet u.

1 minute later.... Girl sitting on bricks, my friend sees her with sun glasses, ear phones and reading and also very pretty, he says there is no chance she will speack to anyone. I like to find out i go in.

RD: Hey there (waits has she takes thing out of her ear and looks up with a smile "hi") i just had to find out if u were friendly or not, but seems like u r pretty friendly.
( i have no idea what i said next but i talk to her for 10-15 minutes, she was nice, but had feeling she was bit to posh for me and she kinda rubbed the she was an actress thing in my face)
RD: whats ur number
( Number Closed) < I don't think i will call her though, don't feel she is my type she is 27 has well and i think i had enough of the older women.

Next 30 seconds later..... Was going to my friend and saw this very amazinly cute girl she had book and sunglasses sitting on brick wall next to grass.

RD: hm hey how r u
HB: (big smile) i am fine u
RD: yes good, so do u like grass
HB: yes very earthy lol
RD: oo ur quite happy aint u, what is that book ur reading
HB: well actually it is quite sad book
RD:hm lol that must mean ur a bit evil huh lol
HB: no lol
RD: hm curious how old r u
HB: guess
RD: well take sunglasses off
(she does)
RD: 24
HB: nope 26 u
RD: ah i am 20
HB: o quite young
RD: yeh i know it is quite tough to b this young and hot
HB: haha very funny
( we talk and i find out she works for disney tease her quite a lot on that and she asks me about myself)
RD: whats ur number
HB: i got a boyfriend
(i persue but no go)
RD: well u know what i wudn't usually do this but ur quite fun and wudn't mind having u has a friend.
HB: sure heres my business card (kiss on cheek and i leave)

2 minutes later....my friend sees some girl with same shirt has him i tell him to run to and say "nice shirt" he declines, so i say give me ur shirt then i will do it. He then goes, it works alright and she laughs, he gets rejected. I then take the shirt off him and say "nice shirt" she laughs, but i thought i should leave this one cause i didn't want to come off stalkerish lol, so i just talked to her briefly and told her i just had to do it and exited.

Ok next one my friend i tell him to approach some girl leaning on pole, he does and comes back no number, she is looking over i wave to her and she waves back, he tells me what happens and i tell him ask for the number she wants to be asked or she still wudn't b looking over trust me just "tell her to give it to u" He says he aint going back it won't work, i manage to literally push him back in the set after arguing for 5 minutes lol.

RD: hey sorry about that my friend can b silly sometimes ( i go to leave)
HB: o why u pushing him over here, did u do this last time lol
RD: no only this time because he forgot to ask u something
HB: whats ur name?
RD: jordan and u r
HB: can't remember
RD: hm u got a funky accent on u where u from
HB: czech, my english isn't very good
RD : really i think her english is fine don't u "david"
(david then talks and builds good rapport and remembers how long she is going be here and stuff he then goes to close)
David: can i have your number (he didn't get his phone out or nothing)
HB: um maybe (she looks at me)
RD: what give it to him he is a good guy trust me u will have fun.
(david keeps "asking!!" and he is getting no where, this goes on for a longggg while, i see him losing the set)
RD: david look she wants to give it to u or she wudn't be saying maybe and stuff, look get ur phone out *he gets it out* and now give it to her and tell her to put it in.( she starts saying her number)
HB: ( in shock)
David: what is ur date coming, hurry up
RD: huh...(looks round and sees some guy staring over walking close)
David: (didn't close it, he missed the last two numbers has her date walks up and he exits) dam that was close, aw man i missed two numbers.

This guy has got great game and can talk to girls, but his weakness is closing, to be honest i could of even closed that set myself in the first minute i was there..

Anyway next girl, hm she was cute and sunglasses.

RD: hey u know what i am not use to this i usually have girls come over to me, so i am not to sure what to do here... o yeh whats ur name. (instantly smiling, this is a great opener)
HB: HB u lol
RD: HB hm interesting name, mine is Jordan, so what brings u round here
HB: aw just been working
(we keep talking, she was kool she was italian with a new castle accent lol, she likes to party goes gym quite bit, i accused of her being a drug dealer, but she is really an accountant lol thats all i remember)
HB: o my friend is here
RD: alright kool whats ur number?
HB: yeh that sounds alright...07...

We had few other funny conversations with girls for are own amusement has we used a line that a drunk guy taught us that day has he approached lol "HEY ....(stop sign, and long pause...look to the right and to the left then point downwards) u have great feet lol" haha.

Afterwards we went camberwell to a festival, most worst festival in world the park was so small i called run to the other side of it in 10 seconds lmao and pigeons everywhere. There was some trampy piano in middle with all peoples grafitti and tags on it, some girl is playing i was curious of her age.

I walk past and she stops and looks at me.

RD: o no continue u r playing well
HB: o no lol i am not playing well
RD: u come here everyday to play "all there is love"
HB: no lol just today thought i would play do u play
RD: o no i am terrible u keep playing (loads of kids crowd up to watch her)
HB: wow u got a whole audience now
KIdS: can i play can i play
HB: ok lol there u go
(banging piano like mad)
RD: wow one day u could be has good has that
HB: lol do u live local?
RD: well kinda i live ...and btw how old r u
HB: 20
KIds: how old am i?
(hmm lol this was interesting has they start to give me loads of fake ages, well guys i wish i remembered the rest of conversation, but she told me she likes quite bit of rock and she is here till january, o yeh shes columbian)
RD: well i gtg what is ur number
HB: 07.... can u call me now so i have ur number?
RD: sure ( sure calls her)

I am going call these girls but i wish i remembered more the conversations, i think when i get a number i should quickly write some notes about the person or i will forget some important details that can make the call more smoother.

Next day last number i needed i was by myself at a shopping centre i havn't been a while, has i came back from work. I see a phillipino chick and from my experience i don't do to well with these girls, but this one looked very attractice, so i said **** it i will go. Even if i expected for her to rudely blow me out straight away.

RD: hey there u know what i was just curious about what type of person u r?
HB: hmm what u mean lol
RD: well u know u look pretty kool and funky like u have a nice hair and sun glasses and well ur high heels are quite big so i am guessing ur quite small but still just curious about ur personality.
(Some homeless person asks her for a light and she dosn't have one so she asks for her to put her cigerrete on HBs to light up and she does)
RD: aw u r nice lol
HB: lol so u smoke?
RD: um nah well i might has well my friends smoke, this is just like being back at home.
HB: lol
RD: so what r u doing here?
HB: well i am teaching
RD: hm right here...wheres ur class...am i ur class...
HB: no upstairs lol
RD: o i c
(talks about her work and other stuff, pity i can't remember what her other stuff is, dam seriously need to write this **** down lol)
RD: whats ur number
HB: sure...(number closed)
 

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Good to see you are still pushing through mate. Sounds like u and david are really getting over that AA and moving on to bigger fish!!
 
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