"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys! So I decided to do the Boot Camp and shape myself into a future Don Juan! I am now on week #2 (I decided to start the thread today so I wouldn't have to add the week #1 stuff cus there wouldn't be much content).

Although, it was kinda hard to get that many Hi's from women. Most women will not give me eye contact, it's like they're intimidated by me. I think I'm a pretty good looking guy and I feel that most girls are intimidated by my looks.

Should I wait for eye-contact to say hi or anything else, or can I just say it without eye-contact? It feels weird for me if there's no eye contact from the other person.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you can do both
but for the exercice you better go without eye contact
i plan to start that really soon
so let me know how is it worknig for you
 
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I'm glad to hear you are going through the boot camp. It's a great journey to increase confidence, and improve yourself.

Since you are good looking, some women can be intimidated to look at you. So you are doing the correct thing by not waiting for eye contact first before saying hi.

IamJosan said:
Most women will not give me eye contact, it's like they're intimidated by me.
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Here is how I adjusted to this when doing the bootcamp. Do you have a charming smile? Don't forget to smile. Practice in front of the mirror for that total charming effect where a woman sees you smile and can't help but smile also.

1. Smile your charming smile.
2. Say hi.
3. Look in her eyes when she looks up and continue to smile your charming smile.
4. Bam, she melts and smiles back saying hi.
 
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EvilAgenda said:
I'm glad to hear you are going through the boot camp. It's a great journey to increase confidence, and improve yourself.

Since you are good looking, some women can be intimidated to look at you. So you are doing the correct thing by not waiting for eye contact first before saying hi.


Here is how I adjusted to this when doing the bootcamp. Do you have a charming smile? Don't forget to smile. Practice in front of the mirror for that total charming effect where a woman sees you smile and can't help but smile also.

1. Smile your charming smile.
2. Say hi.
3. Look in her eyes when she looks up and continue to smile your charming smile.
4. Bam, she melts and smiles back saying hi.
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I always smile when I talk to people or even just say hello. But what I found weird was saying hi without the other person even looking at me. What I did today was I looked at people until they looked at me and then said hi, but that doesn't always work. Some people won't even look at me.

Anyways, on with the week #2 stuff:

I talked to 2 random strangers today. The first one was a lady who sat next to me while we waited for the bus and she initiated contact so I just went along. We just talked about basic stuff like where she works, where she lives blah blah. Then the bus came and she left.

Second person was a guy that asked me about the bus. He had a foreign accent and I was curious where he was from and I found out he was from Holland. He was a very cool guy. We talked for like an hour since we took the same bus together. I like learning from people from other parts of the world so it was very interesting.
 
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So yesterday was a good Friday. I didn't go to school so I went to my cousin's high school to help her out with a school project. Some random girl from one of the classes started talking to me about how she didn't recognize me because I don't go to the school and blah blah blah. It was whatever.

Then my friends and I went skateboarding at 1am and we ran into a group of like 8 drunk girls who followed us. I initiated conversation with them and even jumped into their pictures. I wish I would've remembered to ask for the pic but we were in a hurry. But it was fun! :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yesterday was a pretty good Monday. Usual morning, got up, got dressed, biked it to the bus stop, but since I had some spare time I went to a local Mexican restaurant to get some food. Ordered my stuff, and chatted with the cashier girl. Got her name, blah blah blah, even though she's a chubby girl. But it doesn't matter I'm talking to everyone here.

Then I left the place, crossed the street and I saw woman holding a camera on a tripod. I looked at her and asked:

Me: What's with the camera? :)
Her: I'm going around asking people about cinco de mayo. Most people don't know what it's really about.
Me: Oh so you're going around trying to make people feel stupid? :)
Her: hahaha yeah most people don't know
Me: Yea. It's just an excuse to go out and party.
Her: haha yea
Me: Have a nice day :)
Her: bye

Then I got on the bus and went to school.

On my way back home, this girl that sat behind me told me she liked my hair. So I just kept talking to her. She was with her friend and she told me that they had just returned from the show Chelsea Lately. She said they were visiting from Massachussetts. Then she told me how some security guard asked for her number, blah blah blah. Then there was a moment where she grabbed her boobs and pretended to show them to a security guard to let her in to a show. Blah blah blah we talked for like 20 minutes then we arrived at the station and I biked home.

Went skating later on that night. Good times. :)
 
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Week #2 is over and today I start week#3! It's been very exciting! I can already notice the difference within myself and it feels great!

I've learned a lot from these past weeks, and one of them is that people, no matter how angry, serious, or neutral they look, they are most likely friendly and receptive. It's amazing how one simple hello with a smile changes a person's attitude in a matter of a second. People want to be approached, they want to be social, but they're too afraid. So another thing I learned is that you must initiate. ALWAYS initiate!

On to week 3! :)
 
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I began week #3 today and it was okay. I had a performance today at school so I came in 2 hours earlier than usual to practice. As I practiced in the hall, people kept complimenting me on my playing, and there was one girl who was sitting a bench down. Then she moved closer and I just started talking to her. She was listening to me play the whole time and it's like she wanted to talk to me :)

So we talked a little bit, then I had to leave, and of course I got her name and said I'd see her around. I'm sure I will. ;)
 
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