"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dj bible needs 'friend to girlfriend' entry... HOW REMISS!!!

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howdy fellows,

well, been doing some searches on the subject of turning your friend into a semen receptacle (to paraphrase tom cruise in magnolia) and am not finding anything BIBLE-esque on the subject.

any good articles anyone can refer me to?

also, doesn't it sound like a good thing to put in the bible so dumba$$ motherfvcker$ like me don't pepper the boards with this question whenever we find our way to sanctuary? :)

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a thought however:

when women want you as a genuine friend (and it's equitable... she's not using you, etc), it might mean that you've come along in your journey to being a pretty good human being.

you're not a jerk. you don't do passive/agressive stuff. no major personality problems.

but you're still not gettin' to bein' a good MAN yet.

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delta
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wow that article is superb, I'm amazed I never saw it before. Yeah, I vote that should be in the bible too.
 

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Originally posted by Delta
well, been doing some searches on the subject of turning your friend into a semen receptacle (to paraphrase tom cruise in magnolia) and am not finding anything BIBLE-esque on the subject.
There's a reason for this.
 

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Here's why

Because that's not the best way to find a GF. It rarely happens, and those rare cases are almost always when you don't try.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Re: Re: dj bible needs 'friend to girlfriend' entry... HOW REMISS!!!

Originally posted by squirrels
There's a reason for this.
You got it squirrels...they don't put it in because it doesn't happen LOL, and even when it does it always ends up disasterously......There is a reason you got LJBF'ed my friend, its called low IL, or to be blunt - "I just don't find you attractive enough to fuk"
 

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DOn't believe in that "escape the friendszone" or those "turn friend into girlfriend" articles. Those articles written by idealistic people who probably theorize this is the proper way to do it.

NO.

I have seen cases of friends turning into relationships but ONLY when the GIRL INITIATES IT. The following rules must apply:

1. They must be physically compatible (they both find each other attractive enough)

2. They must be intellectually compatible (they both can talk about whatever subject)

3. The girl ALWAYS initiates it, if the guy initiates it the girl after about a couple days will think "Wow, this guy is making the moves.. but he is taking advantage of our closeness as friends to move this far.. he is a WIMP for not dating me in the first place" - if the girl initiates it.. she is speaking from the bottom of her heart and not out of desperation because girls value friendships highly than guys do.
 

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I was successful at turning a "friend" into something more. But it's definately not the most efficient way to get a woman. The reason it's not in the Bible is because it feeds one-itis and can get the guy into a deeper rut than he's already in.
 

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But what if you are not 'friends' as such, but she knew you as an AFC and then later you become a DJ? Is it possible then?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's not THAT difficult to turn a friend into more. But, as others have said, only do it if you're willing to give up on your friendship for ever. It might work out, but then again it usually doesn't. So, attempt at your own risk.

--Romeo
 
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