"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJ Bible 1.1: Quick update for the current generation

Darth

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We have much worse behaved women and the odds are stacked worse for us than ever before. Time to stop fooling around and get back down to basics.

10 Dating Tips for my generation :

1. Men are masculine and women are feminine. Femininity shouldn't be negotiable. That means you run the girls' life. If she doesn't like it, she's not feminine and if you can't do it, you're basically not a real man. Tell her what to do. That's all. Tell her what to do. Be a strong man with a strong hand.
2. Don't talk too much, don't text too much if any, don't email too much. Don't put a lot on your facebook page. Let her. Your words should be basically directives, not long flowery reactions to things she's said or hasn't said.
3. Don't put getting girls first because today, so few of them are worth going out with. It's better to not have a date in 5 years and live in the woods and be awesome than to have a dozen girls you're texting and feel your respect for yourself going down the toilet because they are nothing but entitled, spoiled and shallow and your standards are so much lower than they should be.
4. Screen. Modern dating is all about screening. So many girls are not what they seem. Well, sometimes they are, lol. But better to choose wisely and have a faithful partner than to go willy-nilly playing the numbers game and emboldening women who aren't even worth the attention.
5. Develop your values. Everything we complain about with modern girls- do we want to have the same problems? No. Be part of the solution, not the problem. Think about your ideal, feminine girl and what her values would be, and then work on those values in your own self.
6. Your patience with bad behavior should be literally zero, even if she's your girlfriend. ESPECIALLY if she's your girlfriend. Being on her smartphone when she's with you=bad behavior. Chewing with her mouth open=bad behavior. Swearing in public=bad behavior. Looking like she just rolled out of her fvcking bed=totally disgraceful. Being anything other than thin=lazy, eating too many potato chips, dump her.
7. Dress well. Nothing fancy, but look sharp. Look so sharp that when the average girl looks at you, she immediately realizes that you are a class above her. And if she wants to get guys like you, she has to start looking and behaving better herself. I cannot tell you the increase in attention I've gotten any time I've had a tie on inside a grocery store, or even a turtleneck/sport coat just walking around outside. It has a way of cutting through the brainwashing and sending a nice message to stuck-up girls- "No, actually I'm in charge."
8. Eat well, get your sleep, regular exercise. You know the drill- get into top condition not just for women, but for your job and for life in general.
9. Whoever said women are complicated was a liar. Don't ruminate about why a particular girl is doing this or why she's doing this, why she isn't answering, etc. Have you ever considered maybe she's just totally full of sh!t? In fact, that is a pretty good explanation for anything you don't understand. You'll have a clearer mind that way.
10. Be kind to girls. Be polite. Don't get angry when they flake or do some other dumb sh!t. A man who loses his temper loses his worth, forget who it was that said that. Anyway, feel sorry for them that they are such boors that they can't get guys like you. That isn't pride, that isn't 300 pound whales on POF going "I deserve to be treated like a princess." It just is what it is. We are men. We are strong. If girls aren't equally feminine, equally passive, and equally submissive as we are the opposite, it's not something to whine about. Just laugh and walk away.

Hope these tips helped. Thanks for reading.
-Darth
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Good list. I agree with most of it, even for my age group.

A couple of thoughts though:

-I dont want to tell a girl what to do all the time. If I did, I'd have a child. And frankly, any girl who needs to be told what to do all the time isnt that interesting to me anyway. Being directive is different. "Let's go here." "I'm taking you there Saturday." "Let's have dinner at my place." "Not like that, like this." Those are directive statements. Most women have no qualms whatsoever about you being the leader, as long as you dont explicitly tell them they are being led. Do, dont say.

-Totally agree about sharp clothing. It makes the outward man. It communicates "I do things on purpose, and I have standards for myself and others." I'd venture to say a sharp wardrobe is more powerful than a chiseled physique. After all, who actually sees you with your clothes off? Her, but only for about 1/10th of the time she sees you clothed.

-Bad behavior. Each of us has a different definition, but whatever it is, dont tolerate it. I used to have a "3 strikes" type policy, but now, depending on the offense, it's a 1 strike policy. I just dont have room or the mental patience in my life for girls who act like cvnts. The BEST recourse for these girls? Leave them. L-E-A-V-E. You dont owe them an explanation unless they ask, and even then it's your call. It is every woman's strongest fear and strongest attraction---a Man who has no qualms about walking away at a moment's notice.
 

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I can add that pretty much what the bible said 10 yrs ago its multiplied by now due to better technologies and social network which accelerate the pace and intensity of human relationships.

Regarding the 1 strike rule which Colossus named, I believe its a backbone of modern dealing with girls.
There are no more courtesy or niceness, if a girl is not interested she will show fast enough for you to understand.

Calls not returned,texts not answered or flaking are a one way ticked for nexting island, any girls willing to be with you will not "forget" to call you for a week, not out of niceness but because of genuine desire for you....did u forgot to go to vacation last summer? did u remember it 3 days later? No! so the same for them.

Regarding dates, for the reason of flakes or mindfvcking I suggest a hook-up culture approach instead of a traditional one, it pretty pointless to plan a date 3 days in advance since many things will happen in those 3 days starting from the guys hitting on her or her friends sabotaging you.

You take flake for granted so u plan as late and possible and make sure to be in a place where you would have been anyway or doing something which you can enjoy by yourself.

Just dont be mad at how things are now, once you figure out how it works you will find out that while depriving you of some past benefits, it will grant you many more new ones.
 

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I have to stress the 1 strike rule as the best tool you have. You show her that you dont put up with sh1t. I actually had a girl get really pissed when she started teasing me, dropped her like a bad habit. Then she came back... Point being I think walking away has to be a huge tool used nowadays as well.

Showing that you are a man not a feminized little girl, you have the frame and control not her.

Also agree on not getting mad. Never get mad, you should be smiling because you woke up the next morning because your life is amazing and shes just missing out on the fun!
 

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The "One Strike Rule"- that's great. Thanks guys.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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