"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJ advice on Yahoo?!

Colossus

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I actually came across a pro-man article on Yahoo today. I usually dont bother reading "relationship" tripe because it's about as useful and time-worthy as picking up a Cosmo magazine.

Most of the points the author listed are DJ 101, but it's good to see this on the mainstream web. As i read through that list I couldnt help but cringe as I vividly remembered destroying things with a particular woman because of such behavior. If only I was aware...


http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/81390/10-dating-signs-youre-being-needy
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yah, I just stumbled across the same article and was comming online to post about it because I found it mind blowing. But honestly, just read what else this women has published. Look up the author April Masini... she's wrote many books such as "dating out of your league. ' a dating book for men ' " and it has uncanny parrelles to the mystery method, david Ds work, and heck even ross jefferies...

In short, she's not just aware of the community, she's ripping it off.
 

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The article was actually written by David Wygant. I scanned over his website...he seems solid. I wonder if he is familiar with the community. He had a blog entry about the scarcity mentality.
 

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Hey, my bad, I actually read another post with many of the same things. (I didn't see your link. Retarded moment, my apologies.) But heres the link to the one I found... once again, solid ideas. but all hijacked. http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/85967/dating-secret-exposed-why-nice-guys-finish-last;_ylc=X3oDMTRtc21iZW9sBF9TAzI3MTYxNDkEX3MDMjAyMzQzNDQ4OQRrA0RhdGluZyBTZWNyZXQgRXhwb3NlZCAtIFdoeSBOaWNlIEd1eXMgRmluaXNoIExhc3QEc2VjA2ZwX3RvZGF5BHNsawNkYXRpbmctc2VjcmV0IC1leHBvc2VkIC0gd2h5LW5pY2UgLWd1eXMtZmluaXNoLWxhc3QEenoDYQ--

Anyways, I read his stuff quick. He's good.
 

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Yeah I saw those when I was checking my emails this morning.
There was one subtopic they had by that guy about 10 signs you
are needy/clingy (for men) and they were all dead on.

Occassionally the thoughts and principles we take for granted in our community do make it into the mainstream. Problem is a lot of guys who should pay heed read that stuff and discount it because it's in the wrong context...it's only being aware of and learning these things within the entire framework of self-improvement and DJism that you're able to implement them in your own life. If you read that stuff as part of snippet thrown in with news and home improvement, it probably isn't going to click.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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insidious said:
Yeah I saw those when I was checking my emails this morning.
There was one subtopic they had by that guy about 10 signs you
are needy/clingy (for men) and they were all dead on.

Occassionally the thoughts and principles we take for granted in our community do make it into the mainstream. Problem is a lot of guys who should pay heed read that stuff and discount it because it's in the wrong context...it's only being aware of and learning these things within the entire framework of self-improvement and DJism that you're able to implement them in your own life. If you read that stuff as part of snippet thrown in with news and home improvement, it probably isn't going to click.
Yeah David Wygant, I've posted a couple of his articles on here before not too long ago. He definitely nails it.

I think the Player/DJ commmunity has made it into the mainstream more than you think. I say within a few yrs 98% of men(and women) will know of it. And just because you know about it, doesn't mean your situation with women will change. There are guys who still suck with women even after all the knowledge the community has taught them. I've created a thread about this before, on how some will be good at it and some won't. It's like with anything in life. Not everyone is going to be a good musician or baseball player no matter how well they know their craft. People don't realize, picking up and bedding attractive women is an actual art. It requires a lot of skill. Not anybody can do it. It's easier getting some advanced scientific/ calculus doctors degree for guys.
 

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David Wygant is totally solid. I've heard him speak. He's a total ball of fire and confidence. Total DJ, and makes fun of a lot of the PUA's tactics. He is in his mid/late 40's and someone you can actually identifiy with, regardless of your age.
 
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