Divorced women

[MikeEdward1973]

Two of the women I just started seeing have a few things in common: early 30's, no kids, attractive, and they are divorced. The 'divorced' element is new for me.

I find that they are a bit jaded, and are a bit more blase about things than the women I normally date, who are single and have never been married. Case in point, I wanted to meet up with both of them this coming week, and in both cases, they said yes, but I just detected this lack of enthusiasm and general malaise that I found to be a turn-off. I have other options, and I'm pretty close to dropping both of them.

If I ask a women if she'd like to meet up for a date, the response should be "great, sounds like fun, when/where?" not, "yeah, Wednesday might work." I'm just feeling this isn't a formula for fun.

Has anyone else had this experience with women who are divorced?

 

[Tazman]

Have you ever considered that their response is directly related to their interest in you? I'm only asking because that's usually the last thing on anyone's mind. I don't believe being divorced has caused them to be jaded to the point where they can't enjoy someone new in their lives. In fact, about 4 years ago I met a coworker who was interested in me, she was divorced and was actually quite friendly and bubbly all around. However I soon started another job and didn't keep in contact as things were just starting to happen, oh well.

The "malaise" you speak of is intentional, and I would react accordingly by moving on to women who reciprocate your attitude.

 

[Hooligan Harry]

One thing to maybe consider is that women who are divorced have pretty much had their fairytale shattered. Especially those who married young and went into it with it with blinkers on. Chances are they are probably going to be more circumspect and careful second time round.

Unless of course you are loaded

 

[MikeEdward1973]

Have you ever considered that their response is directly related to their interest in you?

Yes, which is why I'm going to 'next' them both.

However - I will say that I'm still getting a vibe, in both cases, I haven't gotten before. They are 'interested' and 'responsive' per se, but in this sort of semi-lethargic way that I'm unaccustomed to. So I was wondering if this sort of nuance was more pronounced with divorced women.

But, yes, at the most basic level, I agree, their interest level is not strong enough for me to proceed. They are both 'willing' to go out again, but I am focusing on women that are really amped up to do so. I have more promising options.

 

[sodbuster]

Depends on how long they have been divorced-less than a year,they are usually psycho. Cant figgure them out,don't want to try.

 

[jophil28]

Two of the women I just started seeing have a few things in common: early 30's, no kids, attractive, and they are divorced. The 'divorced' element is new for me.

I find that they are a bit jaded, and are a bit more blase about things than the women I normally date, who are single and have never been married. Case in point, I wanted to meet up with both of them this coming week, and in both cases, they said yes, but I just detected this lack of enthusiasm and general malaise that I found to be a turn-off. I have other options, and I'm pretty close to dropping both of them.

If I ask a women if she'd like to meet up for a date, the response should be "great, sounds like fun, when/where?" not, "yeah, Wednesday might work." I'm just feeling this isn't a formula for fun.

Has anyone else had this experience with women who are divorced?

Yep, THis is how they frequently are after a divorce. Perhaps their 'wishy washy' manner was a contributing factor in it too ?
However this is also the same group women who complain that there are no good men.

Remember what someone here said recently. ..."The next time that you are attracted to a hot divorced woman, remember that there is a guy out there who could not tolerate her shyte one more day."

 

[guru1000]

, "yeah, Wednesday might work." I'm just feeling this isn't a formula for fun.

You are correct.

Divorce is one red flag. Jaded is a second. Low IL and NEXT!

Do not waste your time with sub-par products. A divorcee in her 30's needs significant compensation to be a potential contender in your harem. Your time is better directed into women in their 20's, never married and competing for your attention.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Mike,
At your age divorced Ladies are probably a better bet than the single girls,and definitely a step up from the unmarried Mum....Yeah the tinsel has gone off the whole romance business,but many are very realistic will be prepared to trade Pvssy for whatever you have to offer,if it comes with no strings attached then just take it,play clever and wait for the real her to emerge.

 

[vitor]

Hmmm, dont break the bank on these dates, but I would still try to go out and get laid, do something you want to do, maybe take them to a movie you want to see, or eat dinner somewhere cheap that you like. There is a great post on here about assuming that she will go out with you when you ask so you dont ask you say "Were going out Wed night". She can still say NO but you are telling her this is what is happening be there.

 

[Mr. Me]

They are 'interested' and 'responsive' per se, but in this sort of semi-lethargic way that I'm unaccustomed to.

That's what we'd call a "mixed signal" which actually isn't mixed at all, it means low interest. Or that they have other options they're somewhat more interested in. Period.

They being divorced really has nothing to do with it. And as time goes on, you'll likely find more and more new harvests of divorced women. If anything, they're reasoning that their past was a mistake in that they married too young, or married the wrong guy and are more then willing to try out an exciting new man.

It's after several disappointments and failed relationships that they may get apathetic, but generally that's not where they're at in their 30's. Even still, if Brad Pitt called, they may respond very favorably, no?

 

[Sinistar]

Has anyone else had this experience with women who are divorced?

...I've had this experience before with women that weren't divorced. As Mr.Me said, divorce's got nothing to do with it.