Divorced mature men...the new Prize?

[Drum&Bass]

Ya think? Then why is it so that you hear women sitting around in circles chanting:

"There are no good 'men' left"?

no dude, I mean your post is brilliant I love it !

 

[Vulpine]

its true, we sterotype people too fast.

Phrased as a statement of truth, from a woman, about women.

*ducking behind desk*

Blah, I'm just salty I suppose. I mean, look, "divorced mature men are the new prize".

Now, not only is it taboo to be a "man", I'm of even LESS percieved value since I've never been divorced.

There just aren't enough of these to describe how I really feel. Oop...

There. No...
:moon:

Eat your heart out, jealous article writin' MF'ers.
I'll gladly sit on an "unattainable" list before I sit on the "overly attainable" list.
:crackup:
It just dawned on me: In this day and age of recycling...

Reduce, re-use, recycle!
:crackup:
They aren't "divorced mature men", they are "gently used".

 

[STR8UP]

wouldnt that be that they are losers because something must be wrong with them if they never got married at all by that age?
i mean things may or may not work out in every relationship, however when a woman meets a man in his mid 30s and he says hes never been married... we automatically think "omigod does he still live in his moms basement? does he have some bacholer pad with a revolving door of ex's? has he ever been serious before? whats wrong with him?"
its true, we sterotype people too fast.

Especially the younger ones. If you are a guy who hasn't been married by his 30's women women think there HAS to be something wrong with you. It couldn't possibly be because you have been smart enough to avoid the situation until the right woman comes along. Sad but true.

I subscribe to Details and read that article a couple of weeks ago.

Kinda sick that having a divorce under your belt could be an asset, but I have experienced the prejudice being a never before married 35 year old man myself.

I do however believe that the negative stigma can be negated by certain factors. In my case I think that when women get to know me they take into account that I live my life a little bit differently than most with my business dealings and such.

 

[STR8UP]

It amazes me how younger people, in their early 20s and mid 20s waste their time learning how to “pick up women”, when in reality they should be learning how to self improve themselves in ALL aspects of their lives.

I'm pretty lucky in that I was born with the entrepreneurial gene , so women have pretty much always been a lesser priority to me.

It didn't do much for me when I was in my 20's but I'm finally starting to reap the benefits now that I'm in my 30's.

I've said it before and I'll say it again....gotta love being a mature man!

 

[penkitten]

It just dawned on me: In this day and age of recycling...

Reduce, re-use, recycle!
:crackup:
They aren't "divorced mature men", they are "gently used".

i bet you sell tons of shirts saying that

 

[penkitten]

Especially the younger ones. If you are a guy who hasn't been married by his 30's women women think there HAS to be something wrong with you. It couldn't possibly be because you have been smart enough to avoid the situation until the right woman comes along. Sad but true.

I subscribe to Details and read that article a couple of weeks ago.

Kinda sick that having a divorce under your belt could be an asset, but I have experienced the prejudice being a never before married 35 year old man myself.

I do however believe that the negative stigma can be negated by certain factors. In my case I think that when women get to know me they take into account that I live my life a little bit differently than most with my business dealings and such.

and its not just what women think of men....
men think similar things about women not marrying by then either.
sooner or later some of us get wise and realize that it was those people that had it together the whole time, but what can you do?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Only hors say, "There are no good men left" - I've been hearing this shyt for over 20 years!!! The truth is, smart men are not marrying these hors - they spill their seed and move on with no emotional attachments -- hors hate that!!! It is only the weak minded DJ's on here who value these hors - as many have confessed to value!!!

 

[STR8UP]

and its not just what women think of men....
men think similar things about women not marrying by then either.
sooner or later some of us get wise and realize that it was those people that had it together the whole time, but what can you do?

Hmmmm....I can't think of one time where I have heard a man say anything negative about a woman who has never been married by her 30's. And I certainly don't think that way.

I wouldn't necessarily consider it a strike against someone since I know how the world is and I know that anyone can make a mistake, but I am more inclined to view a divorce as a negative than a positive. I have dated a couple of divorcee's and they were pretty much par for the course. No better or worse than the next.

Maybe it's because I see the world differently than most people do and I respect the fact that someone (male or female) has the balls to say "fukk society. I'm doing this MY way".

 

[Latinoman]

Hmmmm....I can't think of one time where I have heard a man say anything negative about a woman who has never been married by her 30's. And I certainly don't think that way.

I wouldn't necessarily consider it a strike against someone since I know how the world is and I know that anyone can make a mistake, but I am more inclined to view a divorce as a negative than a positive. I have dated a couple of divorcee's and they were pretty much par for the course. No better or worse than the next.

Maybe it's because I see the world differently than most people do and I respect the fact that someone (male or female) has the balls to say "fukk society. I'm doing this MY way".

I agree.

In fact, the negativity from most men tend to go to women that are divorced and/or have little children. As a men with options would prefer a woman that has never being married nor have children.

It is kind of different how men and women see things when it comes to this issue. Especially when we know that most women have "options" (testosterene in men give the women that option). When given the option between a mid 30s man that have never being married and one that was...they tend to pick the one that is divorced, because of the stereotype.

Personally, I strongly believe that men loses much more by marrying than what he wins. So, I'm not going to advocate people to get married just to satisfy a society stigma.

I'm more amazed at the article as it was something that I didn't expect from a society type of thing. Me being recently divorced and all and now in another relationship. In a way, adds to my confident knowing that I'm now in a new "breed" and women know it.

 

[jonwon]

The man divorced or not seems to be rationalising in regard to there circumstance, seems a few have had a nerve touched with this, i.e then the result of the marketers has had an impact if you like to think so or not. The fact that unmarried men or none divorced men are reading into this a lot and illustrating it is having an effect on them, clearly shows what ever junk some profession say’s by conducting a survey or some other shi* is taken as literal by a lot of people.

I for one find it totally BS, granted I can see the point of women thinking or jumping to conclusions, but I would be surprised if they assumed one as to be married to slot into a criteria, I believe having any form of relationship is more then enough.

Yes I have been married and yes I am being divorce, does it improve my chances, like fuc* it does in fact I don’t tell people I am divorced as I think it is as some one said, people make assumptions on ‘is he a looser’ since ‘he’ did not make it work and In truth I cant be ars*d half of the time to show I walked away from a bad situation regardless of what ‘some’ may think, wether that’s a losserish thing to do or not, considering it is there perceptions of wether I am a looser and not shared by myself.

So in that situation there we can see two sides.
One is the marketing Jargon about higher social status.
The other is the fact that people can also assume you’re a looser since you did not make it work, the enthuses on it takes a commitment.

What people fail to understand instead of jumping to conclusion and rationalizing ideas, the problem is in fact not the above, but the point of people jumping to conclusions based on a very brief meeting.

Now if women are susceptible to jumping to conclusions rather fast based on if I said, I am divorced or not, then I would be concerned for the female population.

Granted women get a bit of a bashing on this forum at times, but do we really consider women to judge you if you have been married or not?
When it is clear to a certain % they would judge you on the opposing scale and in that say, well he may be damaged goods, or he may have caused his partner majour problems?

Regardless it is clear from media there is always a biased view point regardless.

To be rather frank about it, I think its BS and only goes and glamorizes divorce yet again.

Maybe the article was written by a recently divorced guy who is trying to increase his chances, but anyway, I don’t find it suprising in the slightest in this day and age since the divorce rate is as high as 70% in some places, so in that yes there is a market and yes they are appealing to your ego, there seems to be nothing better then to show an understanding for your predicament, glamorize it then try to sell your something to make you slot in.

And there is nothing wrong with making people happy about a situation as for branding people loosers for being divorced, well in this day and age it is a common thing, it is normality and thus is the crux of it since they are simply going with the flow. So yes I would expect a certain eliment of disbelief when people say they are not married considering there is a very high % of divorced people around and in that it as almost become fashionable, so yes I would expect it to become a fashion accessory in time.

How to improve your social worth, buy a divorce, there you go you have been approved but inexperienced, but no big deal celebrities do it all the time and it seems in the western society if it is ok for the celebrities it is more then ok for the rest of us.

So yes it could be fashionable and if you think being a looser is being divorced, well your opinion but I wont let it bother me, in fact if I let stuff that that concern me I would still be unhappy and living a shi* life with a women who gradually put on weight, did little to fuc* all in the end and caused me more stress and grief then anyone would want to endure.

I am glad I experienced that side of life, so I have had a rubber stamp saying been there done it wore the T-Shirt, so the guys on here who have a clue, sorry you have an idea not a clue, the clue comes from actually being there doing that not illustrating some theory, my life is not your life e.t.c so regardless of how you think it could work it would still be different and I learned a lot from it.

There is nothing wrong with being divorced or single, what is wrong is trying to slot in a box for the sake of pleasing the opposite sex.

It seems marketing e.t.c have got it perfectly right, play each sex of each other, there we go free money, or play catagories of each other also.

who really gives a tos*?
for every divorced guy there is some other guy stating how great his marriage is but as to be home for 10pm or the wife wont be happy, e.t.c but he is content.

If people want to be pis*ed at some article catagorzing people, then so be it but remember your only complying to what they are trying to achieve anyway.

you are no higher better or superior since you have not been married if you do, its simply to make yourself feel better or to justify your reason, since a married guy or a recently divorced guy will have a different view point so in that the argument is a waste of brain power and air, you cant win this argument since people will generally justify there situation in however means they can.

that is all

 

[Latinoman]

So in that situation there we can see two sides.
One is the marketing Jargon about higher social status.
The other is the fact that people can also assume you’re a looser since you did not make it work, the enthuses on it takes a commitment.

When it comes to divorces...the man is the one that loses the most. We ALL agree on that.

But, if you are in the targeted group (some level of wealth)...to the point that you have disposable income...and managed to escape a marriage uncratched...NOBODY can assume you are a loser. NO ONE.

In fact, you are a WINNER as you managed to come out of that in very good shape financially. And add the fact that if you are in your mid 30s or above...women tend to feel that something is "wrong" with men that have never been married in that age group. Unfair? Sure. But that's the way it is.

Personally, I walked out of my marriage, because I wanted to. I did not want to make it work, as I know I would still be married right now if that was the case. That on itself is power. Power to do whatever I want. Some of those men as referred in the article are in the same category.

Now, would I spent money like crazy? Nahh...I rather invest my "disposable" income.

 

[Latinoman]

you are no higher better or superior since you have not been married if you do, its simply to make yourself feel better or to justify your reason, since a married guy or a recently divorced guy will have a different view point so in that the argument is a waste of brain power and air, you cant win this argument since people will generally justify there situation in however means they can.

This is not about feeling superior. It is not even an argument. There pros and cons in everything.

This is about an article based on how MARKETERS and for that matter WOMEN view a certain breed of men. No every divorce man falls into the category of "with money", "no or little child support commitment", and "no alimony".

It is life...it is the way it is. It is what society brings. No different than we in here characterizing a group of women (and trust me...we do that quite a bit).

 

[jonwon]

This is not about feeling superior. It is not even an argument. There pros and cons in everything.

This is about an article based on how MARKETERS and for that matter WOMEN view a certain breed of men. No every divorce man falls into the category of "with money", "no or little child support commitment", and "no alimony".

It is life...it is the way it is. It is what society brings. No different than we in here characterizing a group of women (and trust me...we do that quite a bit).

Its not just about money, it is also about illustrating as from the article, men who are willing to commit to a relationship.
You don’t need the tags of divorce if you go down the women are after money route, it is a plus to have money in that context but I really doubt you need to have the divorce tag on to do it.

Maybe the ideal is one that as been adopted of men usually get stung in divorce cases when it comes to money, but this is simply to me stating, the man is fresh out no commitments and as a sticker stating he as been willing to commit and it did not work. As for child support and commitments well If you don’t have children your in a better position not due to money, but due to the fact you have even less baggage and still retain the stamp of showing an ability to commit in a relationship.

So money to me is still not a factor if people assume you are a better catch since you come from a marriage and was not stung by a women, if that assumption was from a women I would be concerned about her motivation to have that assumption in the first place, also if I had children I would gladly pay for there up-bringing if I was divorced or not.

Again we jump on the cases where men have been stung in courts, granted it does happen but the general rule is normally guys with children and assets where the women as illustrated they where dependent on, granted there are cases where there have been deception going on, but it is hardly what people make out.

The fact this article is based on the ideal of a man already showing a level of attachment and a willingness to settle down as he as already proved that, granted your worth in relation to that is combined with wealth and status but your don’t need the divorced tag when you go down that route as it is perceived having that is a given for a lot of women anyway, or the theory is.

And if you think this is some kind of argument where people don’t consider it to be one sided or not, then I would suggest you read the replies.

There are posts, stating men are considered to be loser if they are married and it is justified and most probably can be illustrated by other articles, so a counter argument. There is also the fact as I posted which ever situation your in you will justify it in your way as it suits your ideal since it is where you are now.
A married man on the other hand would look at this and state what a crock of sh**, so I have to be divorced to increase my worth as is what the article is implying, when as well as some other pointers on here from never married guys on why should they buy into the added social proof from what these people say.

Now this may happen from my last post, if you read it as more and more people become divorced it as become a social normality so of course opinions will shift and it will be judged as different and not a negative as in the past, since how why would people want to jusge themselves negatively when most are divorced since statistics show a very high divorce rate which is only climbing higher and higher each year, by that in it self illustrates divorce will only attract glory or glamorize since people in general will shift the negative to the positive to prove it is normal and not abnormal as in that past.

Wealth is just an added tag.

 

[Latinoman]

Its not just about money, it is also about illustrating as from the article, men who are willing to commit to a relationship.
You don’t need the tags of divorce if you go down the women are after money route, it is a plus to have money in that context but I really doubt you need to have the divorce tag on to do it.

You would have to read the entire article to understand it. As you misunderstood my post. It is in Details the Magazine.

Money (from the marketing perspective) was one of the issues. As they clearly touched on the issue of dispossable money as a lot of men today either take advantage of prenups or simply manage to come relatively unscratched from a divorced.

The "willing to commit to a relationship" was more of a PERCEPTION from a woman that provided a remark in the article. She felt those kind of men are more willing to commit as they have been comitted in the past. However, reading some of the men that were interviewed for the article...I have a sense that she had the WRONG impression. That's why the writer categorized them as "Samantha" from "Sex and the City".

I bought the Magazine, so I will write few excerpts:

He's [this is in reference to the guy that is 40 and dated a 32 year old model and prior to that a 26 year old woman] one of a new breed of divorced men who, far from struggling to find a niche for themselves as newly single, are having the time of their lives.

Since childhood, we've been hearing about the one in two marriages that fails. Not much has changed - a study released in the 2005 by the U.S. Census Bureau showed that only about 65 percent of unions make it to the 15-year mark. But while the numbers are about the same as they were a few decades ago, the archetypal 21st-century bachelor is a very different beast from those who came before him - one who would be the envy of the Mr. Mom-style married man. He's not a do-nothing charmer like Jack from Three's Company or Joey from Friends; nor is the Empty Nest's Charley, an aging Lothario laden with medallions. He's...well, he's Samantha from Sex and the City.

This wealthy, formerly married guy is situated squarely in the marketing industry's bull's-eye. He's not necessarily saddled with alimony anymore-the Equality in Marriage Institute reports that the number of prenup inquiries it received more than tripled from 2003 to 2005, to 5,000 a month.

The only woman interviewed in the article said

In some ways, I'd rather date someone who's divorced -at least I know he doesn't have commitment issues," says Ruth, 32, who works in human resources in Toronto. "I don't view it to much differently from a breakup. It's just a relationship that didn't work out."

Later in the article, which is about 2-3 pages long,

"While divorce is still a crisis moment for these men," says Richard N. Pitt, a professor of sociology at Vanderbilt University, "the long-term impact is lessened if he's not bound to the ex-wife financially. And the market for divorced men is very different from the market for divorced women - with or without children in the mix."

 

[Vulpine]

This thread is driving me bonkers!:cuss:

So what you are saying is that being divorced is like a merit badge from the Boy Scouts you can wear around with pride because of your achievement?!?!

Commitment? "Willing to commit"?

This thread needs to tacked onto the back end of the "Amoral Wasteland" thread. Seriously.

If anything, people should be suspect of divorced people. What was THEIR flaw that caused the divorce?

Ok, let me drive my point home here: Let's say two people are willing to commit. They both join the military.

See where this is going?

One person carries out the commitment, and recieves an honorable discharge.
The other person, decides it's "too hard" and quits, gets into trouble, goes bonkers, fails... they get a DISHONORABLE DISCHARGE!

Divorce is exactly like a dishonorable dishcharge from the commitment that is marriage. They either failed the marriage, or the marriage failed them, doesn't matter: they still received the same dishonorable discharge.

And divorce is being glamorized and celebrated? What's next? Picking up a felony will be celebrated? "Hey, I just got out of jail! Yeah, I made a mistake, but at least now I'm free!"

"Oh, really? Me too! Say, how long were you in?"
"10 years."
"Harsh! I was in for 4, they let me out early for good behavior."
"Good for you. Where where you at?"
"Up the river. You?"
"The klink."
"Hey guys, what's up?"
"We were just talking about getting out of jail."
"Haha, you guys went to jail."
"Whatever, loser, at least we could commit a crime. Let's see YOU do something stupid and get caught. It takes a special breed to be able to go to jail."
"Uh... "

 

[jonwon]

You would have to read the entire article to understand it. As you misunderstood my post. It is in Details the Magazine.

Money (from the marketing perspective) was one of the issues. As they clearly touched on the issue of dispossable money as a lot of men today either take advantage of prenups or simply manage to come relatively unscratched from a divorced.

The "willing to commit to a relationship" was more of a PERCEPTION from a woman that provided a remark in the article. She felt those kind of men are more willing to commit as they have been comitted in the past. However, reading some of the men that were interviewed for the article...I have a sense that she had the WRONG impression. That's why the writer categorized them as "Samantha" from "Sex and the City".

I bought the Magazine, so I will write few excerpts:

He's [this is in reference to the guy that is 40 and dated a 32 year old model and prior to that a 26 year old woman] one of a new breed of divorced men who, far from struggling to find a niche for themselves as newly single, are having the time of their lives.

Since childhood, we've been hearing about the one in two marriages that fails. Not much has changed - a study released in the 2005 by the U.S. Census Bureau showed that only about 65 percent of unions make it to the 15-year mark. But while the numbers are about the same as they were a few decades ago, the archetypal 21st-century bachelor is a very different beast from those who came before him - one who would be the envy of the Mr. Mom-style married man. He's not a do-nothing charmer like Jack from Three's Company or Joey from Friends; nor is the Empty Nest's Charley, an aging Lothario laden with medallions. He's...well, he's Samantha from Sex and the City.

This wealthy, formerly married guy is situated squarely in the marketing industry's bull's-eye. He's not necessarily saddled with alimony anymore-the Equality in Marriage Institute reports that the number of prenup inquiries it received more than tripled from 2003 to 2005, to 5,000 a month.

The only woman interviewed in the article said

In some ways, I'd rather date someone who's divorced -at least I know he doesn't have commitment issues," says Ruth, 32, who works in human resources in Toronto. "I don't view it to much differently from a breakup. It's just a relationship that didn't work out."

Later in the article, which is about 2-3 pages long,

"While divorce is still a crisis moment for these men," says Richard N. Pitt, a professor of sociology at Vanderbilt University, "the long-term impact is lessened if he's not bound to the ex-wife financially. And the market for divorced men is very different from the market for divorced women - with or without children in the mix."

This makes it a lot clearer.

So it shows marketing are after the money issue.
Yes it goes on about men with wealth but then we have a counter argument in the form of a statement from a women further backing up what I suspected.

She states it illustrates a man is not afraid to commit, now if people want to read he must have money well that's entirely up to them but I did read from her input, it showed a man is not afraid to commit and not a man who is divorced will have money.

I like the part about women in a worse situation and I want to put what I think the reason for that is.

In this society we constantly here about the women dating the rich guy and breaking up and coming away better off, Heather Mills to name but one, the list could go on but I am at work, you can find evidence of women taking charge in situations that where motivated in parts by a ulterior motive, this is not usually attributed to men.
I think men think we are the only people to see how vindictive some women can be, when I fact women that are at a mature age also are aware of how vindictive some women can be and will go into relationships for ulterior motives. So in that respect women are there own worst enemy since they can almost assume the women was at fault since it is almost littered in the mainstream, granted there are undertones of male bashing and wife beating e.t.c but you only have to look at celebrities to see how widespread it is about women going for other things in marriage other then love. So I think women at a certain age, wont blame a man they will actually think the women must have played a big part in it and having too sisters I know women naturally compete with each other, some would rationalize a break in divorce as the last wife not capable of keeping the man and in that would see it as a challenge and most probably think, ‘I bet I can keep him’. Much like a situation I have come to know from my sister who told me women can be naturally *****y and very competitive with each other, some even go to extremes to prove superiority, this to me seems to mans advantage especially when he as already been seen as a prize to fight for, so a women would rationalize the divorce and allow it to give the man more social proof, but there can exist a counter argument also.

So we see women are competitive and can be rather *****y to each other so in that, we may read men are filth from the feminist jargon but one cant ignore that women also play each other off each other and some strive to get one up, in that get one up on the last relationship and show she is better then the last wife as she feels you two can make it work where as a fault lied with your last partner.

We also see that generally women want to commit where as men as a norm are not as keen to settle down, women biological clock is ticking and if she likes to admit it or not her sexual interactions are normally based on social value in a mate and what he can provide in terms of pair bonding, a women’s investment in sex is far greater then a mans. So it is a more beneficial situation for the women to settle down rather then sha* about, granted a lot of women do, but still women are normally the ones if they admit it or not that secretly want a relationship to a larger %.

So again a good few pluses in a mans favour from divorce.

Also we can see a man is by social worth, only boosted by his conquests and acceptance from another women, where as a women with loads of partners is seen as a used model, where as a man just gets better with use, more experienced and better for commitment.

Men normally think of a women as a car, in a sense, you know its been ridden but you don’t want to know what was on the back seat or how many owners it had, this is what men feel in a nut shell.

Also women with kids, no man really want to share there life with some one else’s genetic pool, also a higher % of single parents that look after the kids are in-fact women, not men so a man is still relatively free and can see the kids at the weekend, but a women as to fit kids and a new partner in, but surprisingly women want to have the responsibility of the children, granted some men do but as a general rule when men get divorced they are more then happy to have access to the children but not have them full time.

If I am stereotyping, well that’s the point.

As for the none divorced guys, your argument is just as correct as the one posted by latino, there is no defining, the fact it shows women want to see if a man commited then that can be illustrated to showing you have had GF in the past, in that the challange is set since the women if she wants a marriage will ideally think 'i wonder what they did wrong and why he as not settled down, i wonder if i can tame him enough'.

 

[Vulpine]

OoooooooOoooooOOh!


I see. It's skewed and spun. Huh, who'd a thunk?

In some ways, I'd rather date someone who's divorced -at least I know he doesn't have commitment issues," says Ruth, 32, who works in human resources in Toronto. "I don't view it to much differently from a breakup. It's just a relationship that didn't work out."

A 32-year old cougar who is hung up on commitment since she works in human resources says it's so, so it must be so.

The quote should have been translated:

"I mean, it's just a relationship that didn't work out. My biological clock is ticking so loud in my ears, I'd be more than happy to get with anyone... er, uh, justify being with a divorced man."

Ah... the perspective is from the "coming from someone with little-to-no value" standpoint. It all makes perfect sense now. Hmm... I'm wondering now if Ms. Ruth is a single mother and overweight in addition to pushing her "use by" date.

 

[KarmaSutra]

The quote should have been translated:

"I mean, it's just a relationship that didn't work out. My biological clock is ticking so loud in my ears, I'd be more than happy to get with anyone... er, uh, justify being with a divorced man."

Ah... the perspective is from the "coming from someone with little-to-no value" standpoint. It all makes perfect sense now. Hmm... I'm wondering now if Ms. Ruth is a single mother and overweight in addition to pushing her "use by" date.

I love the way the V-man can cut through the muck and pull out the gems in the mud.

Cougars . . .isn't it hunting season yet? I need to get my hunting license renewed so I can mount more heads on the wall.

 

[Latinoman]

More excerpts:

In other words, childless, six-figure-salaried men are now catapulting out of marriage to find themselves not alienated but greeted by a smorgasbord of products and real estate packaged and marketed especially for them. High-end residence that were seemingly focus-grouped to appeal to newly single men are popping up in metropolitan areas, glittering with accoutrements like Food Network-ready ketchens, extravagant on-site gyms, and embedded sound systems.

“Marketers go after these young divorcés because they have much the same attributes as the 18-to-34 single males,” says Ann M. Mack, director of trend spotting at the advertising agency JWT. “They’re young, they have disposable income, and they really have no obligations other than themselves.”


Another excerpt:

“It’s inevitable,” says Michael Kimmel, a sociology professor at SUNY Stony Brook who’s writing a book called ‘Guyland: The Inner Lives of men 18-26. “Developers are looking for a way to get some of that disposable income. They’re accessorizing these building for men.”

Cushy living spaces aren’t the only thing making the world friendly place for the new breed of bachelors. Women –especially those cultivating their careers first and marrying later – are welcoming the freshly divorced thirtysomething guy with open arms. It turns out that being divorced at 35 isn’t a red flag as much as it is a stamp of approval.

“If you’re single and you’ve never been married at this age, you’re the red-light bachelor,” says Derek, 36, an art director in New Yor who’s being divorced for six years.

And

“Guys who get married younger and then go back in the dating pool are much less likely to be seen as damaged goods than they might once have been seen.” Kimmel says.

 

[Vulpine]

Cut the crap, Latinoman. Who WROTE the article?