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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Divorce rate drops -- should we thank the recession?

Stagger Lee

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I thought this was an interesting article about marriage. It says the divorce rate has really dropped among other things.

http://www.walletpop.com/blog/2010/01/04/divorce-rate-drops-should-we-thank-the-recession/?icid=main|htmlws-main-n|dl3|link6|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.walletpop.com%2Fblog%2F2010%2F01%2F04%2Fdivorce-rate-drops-should-we-thank-the-recession%2F

Recession seems to be helping couples stay together. The divorce rate is now at its lowest level in 30 years and it may be related to money problems. Per Center of Disease Control National Center for Health Statistics data, the numbers of divorce filings have plunged or at least remained roughly the same in every single state in the 2006-2008 period, which includes the recession.

These statistics are remarkable, considering United States population continues to grow. Interestingly, divorce filings have been slashed by one-third in Massachusetts, Connecticut, and New York -- northeastern states with heavy exposure to the financial industry that has been battered by today's credit debacle.

While money is the number one issue that couples fight about, it appears they argue more about how to spend it than the lack of it. In fact, part of the trend to stay together may be a reality check of finances and how costly a divorce will be in the long term. Marriage provides economies of scale and it is much cheaper to support one household than two.

According to "Why Did I Marry You Anyway? Overcoming the myths that hinder a happy marriage", the longer people stay married, the greater their wealth accumulation. This could be that married folks behave more responsibly when it comes to money because they have more responsibilities. By pooling money, time, and labor, married people create more opportunities to build wealth.

Even in the short term, staying together makes sense. Lawyers, guardians, and courtroom proceedings are very expensive. A relatively 'easy' divorce can cost over $10,000. Some couples are making the decision to stay together for the short term, only to find that many of their problems start to work out over the long term.

This is also good news because new research on happiness and divorce states that two-thirds of the spouses who stayed with their marriage instead of divorcing were happy five years later. Of those spouses who did leave the marriage, only half were happy after five years, according to "Why Marry".

It may also be that infidelity, a leading cause of divorce, is more difficult in times of recession. Losing a job along with hard-earned savings, can give a wandering spouse new things to think about. The extra time and money necessary for wining and dining are both in short supply as one worries about paying the mortgage and utility bills.

Whatever the reasons, intact families are at the core of a healthy society. Maybe this can start a trend.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bigjohnson

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Once the spousal support lotto is paying out again women will start filing for divorce. If your spouse has been cooling off to you and you're laid off or otherwise unemployed, maybe it's a good time to see if your lawyer can get you out on better terms than if you were financially well off. :lol:
 

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I read somewhere that a number of states (California is among them) don't report their divorce rate either because it's embarrassingly high or due to the lack of collected information.

I wonder if there are more states, because of less federal funding, that are cutting certain expenses, which may include divorce rate reporting.
 

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Lawyers are expensive when you don't have enough money to pay the mortgage.
 

bigjohnson

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^^^^^ That.


Also, why get divorced when your slave ^W husband is unemployed or under employed and risk getting a smaller judgement? Wait until you can really screw him over later.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hi Stagger,
I just read the article and I do believe that it could result into a new trend. That's an interesting topic that you have started and i think that the times of recession has played a vital role in dismantling our normal lives. The Lawyers would also be in a fix now with such a situation that has to be dealt with.
 
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