Disrespect from Female Friends

[Fly By Night]

Hello my fellow DJ's, :wave:

I just started my 2nd semester, and I've just been checkin' out chicks and seeing which ones I'd like to game from the classes and etc. But I chilled with my friends (guys and girls) and then one of the girls there referred to us guys as her b!tches... Now I just simply let it slide and continued the convo, but then she did it again... The second time around I straight up ignored her to send the point that I do not answer to that name. She didn't call me that again, but ignoring her is not going to be the best way to handle it.

FYI, they recently found out about me effing one of my plates and they are pretty much going passive-aggressive on me about it since they thought I was a nerd who can't get women. I'd make a sex joke and they would start grillin' me saying that having sex once doesn't make me a pro... Kind of sensed a little jealously in that comment.

The problem is that I don't want to make a big deal out of the name calling because if I went like "Hey! Don't call me that!" Then I would be a pu**y for making a big deal out of it. Plus, they would play the "just kidding around" card on me. But if I continue to ignore it, then there is going to come that time where she is going to call me that in front of everyone then it would be incongruent to say something at that point.

What would you guys do? Go NC on them or confront them about it?

I can't stop wondering why I associate with the people I do...

 

[Who Dares Win]

In all honesty its a little bit strange situation, I suggest you to keep your interaction with them friendly and polite but not too personal, lets say the way you would deal with the newspaper seller you meet everymorning or the guard near your workplace.

Dont be reactive to their bullsh1t or show anger or frustration that would just make entartein them, you either let it go as its no big deal or if you're the type you can use some humor to defuse it (manly humor not approval seeking one).

And regarding them punishing you because you dont comform to the nerd stereotype they chosed for you, simply dont bother as I said many times here people dont accept when someone doesnt match their opinion of him, especially if he is above such stereotype.

They will try to push you down to "re-sycronize" it, forget them and if you have the chance to start fresh with a new group slowly move and when you're sure the new group is fine drop them.

 

[zinc4]

Hello my fellow DJ's, :wave:

I just started my 2nd semester, and I've just been checkin' out chicks and seeing which ones I'd like to game from the classes and etc. But I chilled with my friends (guys and girls) and then one of the girls there referred to us guys as her b!tches... Now I just simply let it slide and continued the convo, but then she did it again... The second time around I straight up ignored her to send the point that I do not answer to that name. She didn't call me that again, but ignoring her is not going to be the best way to handle it.

FYI, they recently found out about me effing one of my plates and they are pretty much going passive-aggressive on me about it since they thought I was a nerd who can't get women. I'd make a sex joke and they would start grillin' me saying that having sex once doesn't make me a pro... Kind of sensed a little jealously in that comment.

The problem is that I don't want to make a big deal out of the name calling because if I went like "Hey! Don't call me that!" Then I would be a pu**y for making a big deal out of it. Plus, they would play the "just kidding around" card on me. But if I continue to ignore it, then there is going to come that time where she is going to call me that in front of everyone then it would be incongruent to say something at that point.

What would you guys do? Go NC on them or confront them about it?

I can't stop wondering why I associate with the people I do...

WTH...get new friends...i really hate people like your friends...i would say to your friend, "watch your f^cking mouth around me." If she says, "or what?" just say, "I don't need disrespectful friends." and walk away and leave them for good. What a bunch of BS to have to put up with. They will drag you down if you let them....

Your friend is a classic energy vampire...i know the type all too well....don't be scared of putting her in her place because of being labeled sensitive or wussy like or not politically correct by your peers....it's called putting yourself first and you will feel damn good once you put that little c&nt in her rightful place.

 

[JohnChops]

I wouldnt even care and just have responded with something in return such as "sl0re, slut, etc" in a fun way. Good they thought you were a nerd, now they are all looking at you in a different light, isnt it a good thing? That is where I was back in high school, the nerd who couldnt get girls and then by senior year i have 4+ plates spinning and banging every weekend. Everyone , even my friends who were girls started looking at me in a different way.

So in essence you shouldnt really give a fvck about what she is saying to you because in general what woman say to you is quite irrelevant.

If you feel the need to do something, if it escalates, do what zinc said and put her in her place but not harshly more like in a between harsh and soft manner.

I mean shes a woman after all, shes honest, goey, and easily broken **Sarcasm**

 

[Greasy Pig]

I've found that the people who can take such bullying attempts in their stride and find a way to make humour out of it, earn respect very quickly.
If you react to name calling, they'll go in for the kill.
Just laugh it off and show you're not affected.
My experience comes from five years of boarding school and a couple of years in the army.
The guys who got all butthurt about copping shyt just copped it even harder.
The guys who laughed it off and showed they could take it got left alone and earned the group's respect.

 

[Bokanovsky]

It's easy. You just have to turn the tables and make fun of them (in a witty way, not in a butthurt way). For example, you mentioned the girl who told you that having sex once does not make you an expert. Here's how you put the b!tch in her place:


B!tch: You know, having sex once does not make you an expert..

YOU: So I'm guessing you are the expert? How many guys have you had sex with?

B!tch: That's none of your business.

YOU: Sounds like you've got quite a few notches under your belt OMG, you're such a slvt!!! (said with a big grin on your face)

B!tch [embarrassed]: No I'm not! blah, blah, blah...


And that's it. I can guarantee that she will never make a comment on your sex life again.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Haha.. OP why are you walking on eggshells around these skanks?

Once a woman disrespects me I lose ALL respect for her. A woman who doesn't know her place is not worthy of respect. These hoes opened the door of disrespect so there is no reason for you to censor yourself out of fear of being judged. Clearly they don't fear your judgement.

Call them wh0res, make fun of their bodies (I do this all the time) and put them on ice (go NC) if they get too confrontational/b*tchy about it.

Done and done.

All women who don't treat men with respect are worthless wh0res and should be treated that way.

 

[Fly By Night]

Thanks for the replies guys.

I like the idea of flipping it onto them. I have no interest for them at all, but I do expect friends shouldn't be calling each other sh!t like that. Like PlayHer Man was saying, I think they have gotten too comfortable with me and are thinking how far they can "tame" me to become their chew toy. I feel like things are going to get really dramatic when I back talk them, they get super defensive over everything...

Btw, these girls hardly get male attention, but when they do, they usually get NC'd and throw b!tch fits or reject him because he was "creepy". Then they cry and say no one wants to date them. I can't help but feel like they are trying to take their anger out on me.