That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That seems reasonable. Thanks for the reply!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Exactly, it's the First Commandment.
-Are you actually Jewish?
Yes, I'm Jewish. I'm all about making money pretty much however as long as it's legal, but I think it would be cool to serve a Jewish community. I plan on moving to a city with a larger Jewish community in the future. I'm a Reform Jew, and we tend to be MUCH more liberal with our interpretation of the Torah, and basically choose which commandments we want to follow. Orthodox and Conservative Jews would find my lifestyle appaling!
I have been evaluated by a psychiatrist, this past year in fact. My family thinks I act strange, so they had me visit a psychiatrist. I was cleared by the psychiatrist. I understand that I seem strange to most people, but that doesn't necessarily indicate mental illness.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You need to understand that sometimes certain choices you make necessitate that you don't get to make other choices. That doesn't seem to register with you.
You dont have the right attitude or mindset to be a rabbi. If you have any respect at all, for your religion, I would drop that idea and get some mentoring so your lifestyle and values are in alignment with your religion. Otherwise, I am not Jewish, but it does not sound like a right fit for you.
Doesn't most of the stuff about taking poverty vows and such come from the New Testament (Christianity)? In the Old Testament, the message is that if you are true to God, he will reward you with prosperity. Look at the Old Testament patriarchs, most of them were very wealthy.
I was not referring to the wealth aspect. But the sleeping around aspect. Esp,.sleeping around with the congregants, etc.... Also saying something like that is cool as a reason for doing it sounds shallow. It lacks seriousness.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don't feed the troll, you have to understand this the highlight of a trolls day
Moses, who was a broke middle aged slave, commanded debts to be forgiven every seven years. He also told farmers to only pass over their fields once during harvest, and anything they missed was to be left for the poor.
I did say most, not all.
Perhaps you're right.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.