"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Squats 90kg 3x5, focusing on depth... hips were very tight from running on sat.
Deads 130kg 1x5. Form was almost unacceptably bad here, I think it still counts but i need to drop back now like I am for squats, focus on technique again.
Bench 80kg 3x5 Pretty terrible reps in the 2nd and 3rd set... my left arm seems to be stonger than my right, I'm not too sure how to repair this defect but I might try things like - pushups (decline and one arm on ball etc), and some dumbell work. Anyone else have this problem?
b.
Workout
1x5 squats 120kg ... zero motivation here
1x10 90kg squat.
Dumbell stuff
3x8 45kg calf raises
3x8 60kg bench... trying to get back to sets of 8.
Diet
3 eggs + 1 scoop whey + milk + half bannana
1 pear
PWO
chicken sub + 2 scoops whey + milk
2 ham/cheese rolls + bannana
Salad + apple
Pork + vege + potatoe
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
As for your bench...Sometimes the other arm lags...it's okay usually it will fix itself so you will not need to have to train that arm seperately. Drop the weight a little if you need to if you can't do the weight...it's pretty simple really.
It would really help if you ate the samething everyday...not sure what's going with your diet but you could be a thousand times more effective if you kept up a diet that was the same everyday so we can see if your eating enough.
Good idea to drop the weight to do squats more effectively. no reason to keep cheating your way to the top only to realize your not even going parallel. But don't expect to be as strong after coming off a week off...next time you take a week off come in and push weights at about 80% your normal capacity and the next week try to get back into getting PRs
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks for your help Stallion it's good to know there is someone on here who likes helping the newbies.
16/4
3x5 squats 120kg - these are much lower than last month now.
3x8 55kg calf raise.
believe it or not I think that's all I got done.
Ah, but i forgot the
1x10 90kg squats
18/4
Circuits
3 sets, alternating Weights and Cardio.
Weights
Bench, 82.5kg 1x5
Lat Pulldowns 1x21
Dips 1x10
Bench again 1x5
Cardio
3 minute bike,
Dumbell lunge/side raise 2x5
3 minute skipping
On the last rotation, replaced bench with 10 each arm shoulder press 15kg dumbells.
frenchbeauty
Don Juan
keep going at it hard :box:
keep it up fb
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
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Sorry for not responding right away man. The fish oil has loads of benefits, just read about it in the vault or google it for various results. You split it up for balance in calories and effects. I know a lot of guys who recommend even more but I think anything over 20 is just a bit ridiculous on the wallet. Yeah I take olive oil by itself but a lot of guys put it in their shakes. Personally I enjoy the taste seperate.
Well, the shake you could put a good amount of ice in it to keep it good. If it's absolutely impossible to bring a meal than you'll have to add more to each meal and such. What is your eating schedule like?
Nice squats man. They better be ATG!
congrats on the good workout dude
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I've been following your diet pretty closely hey - have a few shocking days here and there due to hectic uni but overall I think I'm getting better with diet. Thanks for getting back to me with those clarifications man - I'll put up some diet logs soon!
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Have you ever video taped yourself lifting or had some powerlifting dude check out your squat? It's good to get a idea of what you look like when lift afterall you can to see if your doing it right.
Keep working on the diet and hows the BF % and weight doing? Got a goal of how big you want to be?
Being_the_Don
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dispatch said:
I had that problem, too, for a little while. One arm dumbbell bench presses might help you, it forces each arm to do it's own work. Also one arm push ups, I do those for fun from time to time.
150kg 1x2 squat - the second one was probably the hardest lift i've ever completed, took about 10 seconds to get it up, thought I was going to pass out. Think I'll stop going for egotistical PRs and do some reps at lower weights!
120kg 1x3 deadlift... these were hard too, as I havent dead lifted in a while, my back seems to be curving, may have to drop back for a bit.
80kg 3x5 bench - these are getting a bit easier.
4,6,5 60kg calf raises.
2x8 dips.
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
I'd expect you aren't hitting a good depth in the squat, but I may be wrong.
Good work nonetheless, keep it up.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
16/5
squats with approx 80-90kgs... wasnt really counting,
front squats with about 50kg
3x5 bentover rows with 60ish kgs - pretty good...
some dumbell and stationary bike work.
okay so Im really focusing on depth in my squats to make sure im doing them right.
so today i did
5,3,5 120kg squat - I didnt get the second set sure, i got distracted and lost focus - but i guarantee you guys - these were good squats to below parallel.
a few light deadlifts.
bench 5,5,3 80kg bench - not good - too much time off
some calf raises.
diet -
2egg/2scoop shake w/ bananna
fruit
steak/salad
ham sandwhich
scoop of protein
2 steaks, 2 eggs
100g tuna
green tea, 3 fish oil pills.
frenchbeauty
Don Juan
how about throwing some extra calories ( brown rice, pasta,olive oil ) in there ? You'd probably gain faster, again I don't know about the weight, bf% situation.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.