You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Visit a PT. End of thread
What do you mean?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How did he metaphorically spit in your face?
Because he is a 27 year old bum who just got out of jail, who out of sympathy, I rented my spare room to him for a few months. He knows I work shift work, and I'm an insomniac, and the biggest thing for me, with him living with me, is my sleep. He doesn't work, is up all night and sleeps all day with his girlfriend. Because he is up all night, he wakes me up constantly, and I am going insane. I have just given him two weeks notice. He agreed that he would be quiet, etc. When I needed to sleep before work, it was good for a week or two, then it all went to hell. Then he has the nerve to gaslight me, and try and claim victimhood.
It really depends on the scan and what it showed. If it's just a simple dislocation, you can wear a shoulder brace and that would help with the dislocation. You should also consider going to a chiropractor and/or seek physical therapy first prior to any surgery. It will be sore, and that can be treated with alternating with heat and cold. If you have a tub, you can also soak in the tub and that will help with the pain as well as the soreness.
People should be deserving of your warmth amd kindness.
Well...you just need to use better judgement on who to help.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
It definitely can continue to happen...my Dad has had shoulder issues from playing soccer and dislocating it multiple times growing up.
Thanks for this. I needed to read this advice.