You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I don't listen to any of the Top-40 radio stations so I only hear those songs when I pop in the CD; that's why I think the album still rocks.Originally posted by immrtlwun
Dookie was a great CD. I thought the songs from American Iddiot were good, but the radio killed them. If they weren't playing American Idiot, it was Holiday, or Boulevard of Broken Dreams.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
to be honest i like good charlotte also and i find blink182 to have hilarious songs.Originally posted by TheRenegadesOfFunk
-I do not care about ‘what is punk and what is not' arguement. With American Idiot, Green Day have proven themselves to be much more talented, creative, and entertaining than most people give them credit for (nine-minute tracks, theatrical theme, acoustic melody..etc) while maintaining their catchy style. I blame radio for overplaying their music. It's Green Day copycats, Bands such as Good Charlotte, Sum-41, Blink 182, New Found Glory who I can't stand.
Yes, that truly is the pinnacle of musical creativity, isn't it?Originally posted by TheRenegadesOfFunk
With American Idiot, Green Day have proven themselves to be much more talented, creative, and entertaining than most people give them credit for (nine-minute tracks, theatrical theme, acoustic melody..etc)
A-Fvcking-Men!!!!!!!Originally posted by TheRenegadesOfFunk
-I do not care about ‘what is punk and what is not' arguement. With American Idiot, Green Day have proven themselves to be much more talented, creative, and entertaining than most people give them credit for (nine-minute tracks, theatrical theme, acoustic melody..etc) while maintaining their catchy style. I blame radio for overplaying their music. It's Green Day copycats, Bands such as Good Charlotte, Sum-41, Blink 182, New Found Glory who I can't stand.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
As another guitarist, I can somewhat agree with you're post, but comparing Green Day with the likes of Vai, Satriani, or malmsteen is irrelivent. They're TOTALLY different. I think Armstrong is an awesome guitarist for his type of music. His tone is pretty clean, plays everything pretty much spot on live, etc. He's not technical, or overly talented, but you know, it's fun to be able to pick up a guitar and be able to play something. I can't play Vai's stuff or shred along with my fav guitarists. I don't even have the time to practise to be able to have a shot at becoming nearly that good.Originally posted by Ricky
Greenday are just like the kids in school noone liked. The kids that got beat up by the popular kids.
As a guitarist though, it is really sad someone with such poor skills as the Greenday guitarists make alot of money, while great artists like Satriani and Steve Vai struggle.
I mean you hear Greenday and you can tell after all those years they still can't play to save their live. I could teach a 12 year old to play a greenday song in the first hour they learned to play guitar.
Not true about them "selling out" or "getting all political". They just got older, grew up some and actually have views and opinions they want to use their music to convey. I saw a documentary on the band. The punk scene has the bad habit of hating on any punk band that makes it really big.Originally posted by iHatePants
They sold themselves out!
I porbably dislike them for other reasons than yours.
Remember when they used to just rock about about stupid **** in their album "Dookie"? They kicked ass back then. But now they've gone all political and **** only because they know thats what the kids want to hear these days.
Plus thier new emo look really sucks.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bravo!Originally posted by TheRenegadesOfFunk
-I do not care about ‘what is punk and what is not' arguement. With American Idiot, Green Day have proven themselves to be much more talented, creative, and entertaining than most people give them credit for (nine-minute tracks, theatrical theme, acoustic melody..etc) while maintaining their catchy style. I blame radio for overplaying their music. It's Green Day copycats, Bands such as Good Charlotte, Sum-41, Blink 182, New Found Glory who I can't stand.
Originally posted by Mr. Unique
I love their earlier stuff, you cant compare american idiot to the great dookie album. but i like these punk bands better
NOFX
Rancid
Against All Authority
A.F.I (earlier stuff was pretty hardcore, Now they suck!)
The know how
Anti-flag
pennywise
misfits
The offspring