"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dislike GF's Friends

WORKEROUTER

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I've thought about this a while dating my gf, and I'd like to hear some comments.

What do you do when you simply do not enjoy the company of your gf's social circle?

I'm not advert to them, but whenever I hang out with these people, it sucks because they are boring as hell.

Her female friends are just typical lame girls with no real unique character sparks, and some of the guy friends she has are just plain annoying.

I usually just avoid this friend group but want to know your opinions on this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do NOT let them hate you. Polite smile, keep your mouth shut, if you have to. I may have made that mistake in my last LTR, where her gf's thought I was a jerk.
 

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Something else is going on here.

There has to be *something* good about these people. I think you should find out what that is and learn to enjoy it. In the long run if you two stay together, eventually all her friends will get with people and start to get busy with their own lives anyway.

In the meantime just try to find the good in these people, think of them as smoozing practice. If they cross a certain line, then maybe some other action is required?

And if the annoying is intentional, that means they know you are going to get the girl and they hate that. The guys will sometimes be annoying hoping and wishing you have a weak frame and will crumble and run away so they will have *one last chance* to spread their genetic seed, so don't fall for that. Guys who can actually get girls *annoy* these men just because of jealousy and the level of desperation many men feel. Things like this are a good sign, to make matters even better don't be shaken by it but smile knowing you are on the right path.
 
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