"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Discussion about the girl YOU want.. also something i learned last weekend

white_hype

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only 20 yrs here but from what i know there is no perfect girl. Ive found i need to be attracted to a girl and thats it. Attraction means, for me, she needs to have a badass personality (similar to me.. wont put up with my ****, funny, interesting, lots of goals, smart, hobbies, etc).. if she has this then she becomes a 9-10 in my books... the downside is i NEVEr give unattractive girls this chance (i only go after hot girls) and they tend to have avg or ****ty personalities, which is a deal breaker (after i **** them a few times)

it REALLY sucks.. but i believe eventually i will find a girl that is both hot and has a cool personality.. but as each day goes by i get a little more worried.. especially since i have only found 2 like this

TOPIC OF POST: general chat about finding the girl you really want. Ever happened? Missed opprtunity?Thoughts?

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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also- what i learned last week:

i was working at a show in a club (wont say what b/c it might take away the seriousness of my post) with 8 hot girls. I was really attracted to 2 of them so i chatted them up when we had free time (very limited).

Anyways, i ended up really liking this one gorgeous burnette and i usually NEVER like girls this much when i first meet them (i have really high standards... i probably should lower them). We were getting along great and it was one of those things where i could tell we would have a great relationship (ive only felt this twice in my life). After the show i intended on getting her number (it was one of those things where you just want to hang around and be with her... i still wanted to **** the **** out of her, but i enjoyed being with her the most b/c i know i could go out and **** another girl, but we really had this connection which is rare for me).
I went and talked with some friends who eneded up coming to the show for like 10 mins, then i went to tlak to her and she was GONE. I was fvcking crushed.

I always knew to never let an opportunity pass you by but this really crystalized it since something this big has never happened to me. I have now vowed to never let anything even close to an opportunity slip by me b/c i have wondered since friday, WHAT IF?

sure you can say its just a girl, youll find another, true, but this is really different for me, its very rare i find a girl i like this much
 

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me too
for me it's hard to click with someone, specially bc of my high standards...
considering that everyone just wanna fuk like habbits, finding someone who actually enjoy the pleasure of a intellinget talk, a nice beer and anything that isn't fuking or social status. this days, i get dissappointed on how ppl can be so hollow and drowning on ther pathetics lifes of endless and useless actions.

It's pityful, ppl don't give a fuk for something more valuable. Image finding a girl that is hot and still managed to thing that way


not easy :(
 

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I don't go for girls that are "hot." or for "personality." I just go for entertaining experiences (such as going to places.) or for intellectual experiences (such as if she's a poet/artsy kinda girl.) Since "hot" girls rarely offer those two qualities that I look for in a girl, I avoid them unless I want to spend the rest of my dating history with her going shopping or watchiing movies at home.
 

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Finding the girl I want, hmm?

Well, I've found the girl I want. And, I fvcked it up too. She just wanted to be friends. Now she is being super friendly to me though, so I might have a chance after all.

All my friends say to forget about her and look for someone else, but right now I don't want anyone else. So it sux.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So pimp its scary

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It's funny, because the girls that I want are always the type of girls that at first impression I wouldn't want for various reasons, or better yet, girls that I know that I should not ƒuck around with.

Like a girl that I recently posted about, under normal circumstance, this girl would have been a ONS at best, but then she did something to me.... she intrigued me, and my roommate warned me to avoid this girl. Both those factors warmed up my appetite for a challenge.
 

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I'll give girls from average all the way to unbelievable in the looks department a chance. Looks fade, and while I definitely enjoy the fun, I'm starting to look more at whether or not a girl is marriage material these days.

As far as missed opportunities, I can't recall any specific ones. What I bang my head over, though, are all of the girls over the years that caught my eye and I should've approached, but didn't because I was too AFC and self-conscious to do so. Those days are quickly coming to an end.
 
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