Discussing your problems on the board...

[alphawolfx]

I know everyone has some sticking points that they need advice with.

However, it seems that you guys are so focused on WHAT's wrong (so you know what to fix) that you get caught up in all the negativity.

There's a few posts on the board about "what's YOUR limiting beliefs?" and so on. I used to be like that and say everything that I had a problem with, so I could get it out in the open and hopefully fix it.

But getting it out in the open only perpetuates the belief. You guys need to stop with that.

How about you guys start talking about the awesome beliefs that you have. I'm not telling you to make up beliefs that you actually don't believe like "I am the master of all women" when you still know that you haven't gotten a girl interested in you YET.

I'm talking about the good s.hit... for instance, for some reason since I dumped my over critical LTR and started ignoring the negativity from othe people (who actually don't mean anything, that's just how they are), I feel like:

1) I am the s.hit. Seriously. I am cool as f.uck, I can make friends with almost anyone, and if I don't, oh well.

2) Some girls actually find me attractive. S.hit, I look in the mirror and I KNOW when I look good... but even when I'm not at my best, I see girls checking me out.

3) Girls like to flirt with me.

4) I haven't had a LR or a kiss close yet, but that's because I haven't done the right things... sometimes b.s. gets in my way, or the old AFC in me comes out at the wrong time. But I'm getting there, I'm gonna get a kiss close soon, and after that a LR. Then a few of those, then maybe a small slump for about 2 weeks, then a few more LR's then a 3-some. That's the most likely scenario that will happen to me.

5) I'm a badass motherf.ucker at massages.

6) I look exotic to some people. I'm from trinidad.

7) I am SO cool it's not even funny.

8) I am a good friend to people.

...and so on.

The problem is that when somone says anything positive about themselves on this board, a few insecure people are like "go brag somewhere else"... what the f.uck!

No one says to you "go complain somewhere else", why put down a man who is actually PROUD of himself? Take pride in YOURSELF, too, and give the props/respect to those are proud of themselves in the meantime.

If you think you have problems with women, so will everyone else.
If you think you are the f.ucking man, so will everyone else... including women.

So what do YOU have to be proud about?

 

[Skweints]

I used to be shy, took things way too seriously. I was too afraid to talk to women, as most on this board.

Now, I can go out to a club, and have a blast, even by myself! I have no problems whatsoever talking to women.

I know that I'm a great guy, and that I know how to make things fun.

I don't let little things bother me, which allows me to be a positive influence with anybody and everybody.

Like alphawolfx said, I'm soooooooo cool, it's not even funny.

I feel that everybody should have a friend like me, and I hope those who don't, will one day.

I may be humble about my looks, but I still know deep down that I'm a sexy son-of-a-b*tch. I know that girls love this sh*t, too.

Also, like alphawolfx said, I have not yet kissed closed myself. I'm not too worried about it... it'll happen when it happens.

I've been complimented a LOT on my smile... yes, I have some funky ass lookin teeth... well, okay, they aren't THAT bad, but they're not perfectly straight. Still, a smile is a smile, regardless of what your teeth look like. Show off them pearly whites as often as possible, even if your teeth aren't straighter than you are... (well, you like women, right?)

I'm a DAMN GOOD kisser, and not too shabby when it comes to massages. I'm not the best dancer, but I know enough to get by and still show a woman a good time.

I have beautiful eyes... both girls and guys have told me this... 'cept guys didn't use the term "beautiful." I think it's because I got a small part mongolian in me from when they invaded poland. There was a pimp Mongol somewhere in my family line...

And yes, I am a pollock. F*ck you if you have anything to say about that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I hear 'ya alpha. It gets old reading posts like that almost every day. Too often guys get so weighed down about what not to do.

I say that we should use our minds the way that they truly work, as positive mechanisms. The mind is a 'yes' machine, no matter what you tell it, it will focus on just that. If you tell it not too stutter when you approach a woman, guess what happens? If you tell it that you won't act like a AFC and get mad if you get turned down for a dance at a club, what actually happens?

Instead of posting threads about what not to do, why not post what you should be doing. For example; when approaching a woman you tell yourself "I'm going to talk to her in a smooth, calm and sultry voice." In a club you tell yourself "If I don't dance with this girl it's alright, I see at least four others that I could dance with."

Some people will think that it's just semantics but its more than that if you really think about it and are willing to do things differently.

 

[alphawolfx]

see, even when i read posts from other like skewints, i feel like even more of a badass cuz i'm associating with other badasses... hell yea

yeah, and francisco, you're right.

 

[So Many Ways]

Your thread is a great idea. On the Advanced Dating series, David D said that a lot of guys who do things right don't even know what they're doing that's right.

A positive outlook means so much.

Well here are mine.

1. I'm one well dressed, well groomed dude.

2. I'm tall and reasonably good looking.

3. Women looooove my voice.

4. Women are comfortable in my presence due to my laid back demeanor.

5. I can make almost any woman double over in laughter real easily.

6. I know how to use my eyes to seduce a woman.

7. My crib is looking damn good after spending tons of time, effort, and cash remodeling.

8. Women have told me I'm smooth.

9. Women like my skin tone, complexion...

10. I'm driven and ambitious. I want to succeed in all areas in life.

11. I've found something I'm passionate about recently (and it has nothing to do with women).

12. I have a love of life (recently acquired).

13. I have great family and friends who love me (should be at the top)

 

[EverywhereMan]

I totally agree! A good book on this subject is "What To Say When You Talk To Yourself" by Shad Helmstetter. It was recommended by David DeAngelo, and now, also by me.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

This is true...Another thing you should know is staying on point, in your zone...If there is anyone or anything that makes you feel like your not in your zone, get it out of your life, cause its gonna fukk with your head...Im still working on cleaning my head out now, I had to cut some people...

Oh yeah, heres mine...

1. I have the best friends in the world...

2. I have the best mother in the world...

3. I have a very likeable personality...

4. Alot of people say Im fun to be around...

5. Im deep...

6. Im tall and masculine looking...

7. I have a strong heart...

8. My third eye is strong...

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

1) I have nice teeth and an endearing smile

2) I have a great job and great hobbies

3) I have tons of good friends who really care about me and value my time, and tell me so every day.

4) I've finally achieved the dream I've held for the past 7 years.

5) I'm an amazing kisser.

6) My smile is white, straight, and endearing.

7) I have a quick wit and I'm able to make light of situations and cheer people up.

8) I have the uncanny ability to fall asleep in the majority of my classes and never get caught.

 

[Chief]

Another book I have comes to mind too..

"As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen

It's more of a booklet but I read it from time to time and this thread has inspired me to read it again. Thanks CBear.

Hers an excerpt..

"Mind is the master-power that moulds and makes,
And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes
The tool of Thought, and shaping what he wills,
Bring forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills:-
He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass:
Environment is but his looking glass."

And my own thoughts now are: (as I'm drinking a guinness )
I think that putting words to thoughts, whether typing them out or speaking them gives them more power.
We must constantly be wary to battle the negative thoughts in our minds before they escape to reality, by slaying these with more powerful good thoughts. And these positive thoughts should be the ones manifested into words to make them more concrete and bring them to reality.

Well, i feel as if I'm getting a bit off the deep end but its flowing tonight, so I'm flowing off to do some art now and lose myself in what I love more than any woman.

Fixed my spelling...

 

[Skweints]

Originally posted by A&F Brand Cologne

8) I have the uncanny ability to fall asleep in the majority of my classes and never get caught.

... you beastard ...

 

[Skweints]

Re: Another book I have comes to mind too..

Originally posted by Chief
Well, i feel as if I'm getting a bit off the deep end but its flowing tonight, so I'm flowing off to do some art now and lose myself in what I love more than any woman.

It's good to know that there are others that have realized that there ARE things better than sex.

 

[belividere]

alright I'm in a ranting mood right now. I am not going to post what I have as a rebuttal here but will start a new thread. In all actuality I think there is a lot of good to come out of positive threads but I am recently under the opposite impression as you regarding this board.

 

[Chief]

It's good to know that there are others that have realized that there ARE things better than sex.

I don't know about the better than sex part...comparable definitely. Art is my first passion, and everyone of us should have something in our lives thats more important than women.

 

[skeeloo]

Alrite then.

Im quite a good looking guy .

1.Women are nervous in my presence(making interaction difficult).

2.I attracted hot stunning women in presence of thier husbands or boyfriends.

3.Many Guys in my univeristy are jealous of me.(dont know why)
they act cold to me but the more they act cold the more my confidence gets higher,. cos i know they are threatened.
women watch my every move and sometimes i hate the attention.

4.iv good good friends.- but im on the way to dropping the bad seeds.

5.I was never really an afc, only when i was like 14, 15 but then again who wasnt.(my problem was that i hated girls becuase of personall reasons lol).

6.im a fun guy to be around, except i dont show it often.

7.Homos are attracted too me(note im not really happy with that).

8.my life is not centered on attracting women or anything like that.

9. dont need any book to tell me how to chat to women, anytime the opportunity comes i use my brains.

10.i go against the norm, i got my own style.

11.old women also love looking at me smilling (im mean 40s,60s, 50s, 70s, i aint joking-lol) iv got a list of teenage girls(17, 18 ,19 years) who wouldnt mind giving me a blow job every now and then.

12.im very good at soccer and basketball- .

13. once im done with university and all that then focus on what i really want in life and live the best i can.

14. i v started a small business hopefully it will grow as time goes on.

15. women want me and i know it.i didnt come here because i couldnt attract women, i can here to better my game.(besides i found this place by mistake, .)

 

[Sart]

LOVE IT ALPHA

Good post man,

Okay, as honestly as I can,

1. I have a high IQ
2. I am highly educated
3. I am an employer
4. I am charismatic
5. I am over 6 foot
6. I am fit and strong
7. I am above average in looks
8. I am a leader
9. I am aggressive
10. I am a RBLM (on the okcupid/test thing)
11. I make good money
12. I have a lot of freedom

Man, ALPHA, that was self indulgent but felt pretty good, AND, your point was excellent. I have some negatives, but really not many. Regret? I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention. haha.

 

[whistler]

I'm falling for the one girl in my life that caught my eye I when I first saw her. She's an HB8.5, but a 9.5 to me, she's getting a Ph.D., and she literally can't keep her hands off of me.

It makes me question the whole quantity over quality thing.

 

[alphawolfx]

guys, i'm sorry to say this, but I just realized I lied.

When I said that I'm so cool it's not even funny, I was lying my a.ss off...

It IS a little bit funny how cool I am.

Sorry guys.

 

[Sardaukar]

This is a GREAT post, and should be archived as well as developed further.

A lot of WBAFCs seem to mainly have problems with socialisation, self esteem and state control, and this may be helpful stuff.

 

[alphawolfx]

BUMP, this deserves to be on the first page

 

[diplomatic_lie]

The reason you mess up if you focus on the negatives is that you don't give yourself a course of action.

So if you say "I'm NOT going to act like a shy idiot", you're not actually giving yourself an alternative.

Whereas if you tell yourself "I'm going to be smooth and confident", you've actually got a plan of action.