Discussing Reservations about friends fiance with him?

[MtnMan]

One of my best friends is getting married next year. He is 30, she is 23. Been together a couple years. I have shared a lot of deep conversation with this friend, and I would say he is pretty naturally red-pill even though I don't think he has ever heard it talked about.

This weekend I had the honor of being asked to be his best man, and of course I accepted.

The problem is, I just feel like there are a few red flags with his relationship. His woman does a few things that piss him off, and he is not sure how to get it under wraps.

for example:

-she hangs out with one of her single girlfriends too often, the girlfriend has tried to get her started smoking cigarettes, which he hates

-she smokes too much weed in his opinion

-her mom has a history of substance abuse, and I think he is afraid of her going down that path


Now, I like this girl. Overall, she is a cool girl but I just have a bit of a bad feeling in my gut. Some of their relationship reminds me of mine as it was about to fall apart with my ex-fiance.

I don't know if I should voice any of my concerns, or just STFU and let things go. I HATE to say it, but I will not be surprised if something happens before now and the wedding and she calls it off. Its just a gut feeling I have, I don't have any evidence to support it.

Do I just shut up, and have a talk with him?

 

[VladPatton]

Yeah, we all have friends like that it seems. Without a doubt, the best thing you can do is STFU and just watch the train wreck. He'll just otherwise be offended and you'll look like the bad guy. Every man has to own and live with his decisions.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yeah, we all have friends like that it seems. Without a doubt, the best thing you can do is STFU and just watch the train wreck. He'll just otherwise be offended and you'll look like the bad guy. Every man has to own and live with his decisions.

^This. He's not going to listen to you anyway. At BEST, he'll nod, say that you have a point, and then marry her anyway lol.

If he's a good buddy, I would still be there for him no matter what. But, he can make his own decisions.

 

[Colossus]

It's tempting, but you don't want to be the one to plant a bad seed. Voice your concerns in a non confrontational way, and let him make his own decision.