"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Discovering my self: A Voyage

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This is my journey to freedom. I'll be posting here mainly to keep a track of my progress on not only my dating life but to build a healthy, flexible and cool mindset.
Mindsets I want to modify and embrace:
I absolutely love my self.
Stand my ground and take responsibility for every action from now.
Excuses be gone.
Best moment is right now.
I'm cool, sexy, forgiving, charismatic, competitive, strong willed, focused, from inside. speak with absolute sureity.

I don't give a **** what others think.
Just be happy and positive and determined from inside. Unafraid and fearless to try new things.
Other stuff I'm doing:
hitting the gym.
Building up communication skills and diction
learning a new language.
Practising in front of mirror of speaking clearly and with good vocal projection.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What language do you want to learn?

I can give you some advice on how to start on that. It is a great tool for significantly improving your ability to learn ANYTHING else (lotsa research on the subject).
 

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MainDroite said:
What language do you want to learn?

I can give you some advice on how to start on that. It is a great tool for significantly improving your ability to learn ANYTHING else (lotsa research on the subject).
Not OP, obviously, but please good Sir. Do tell.

I will be studying German and Arabic next semester...also study tips are always useful.
 

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Very good to see another self-improvement journal developing. If you haven't already done so, read up on Snowdog's sometime. That'll give you some ideas on what to write about and how to structure things throughout the course of building your own.

I just started a journal as well. Here's to seeing good things happen on the way to living a better life.

Xanthus
 

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Obviously, being able to conjugate "to be" and "to have" will give you a headstart in any language.

Assimil books are the best, and libraries often have them for free.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Its morning here, I've just woke up, the sun is rising, its my time now. Don't know what today is gonna bring but aye aye suprise is on our side. Watched ROBIN HOOD movie yesterday. A phrase from it is still swimming in my head, " Rise and rise again, until lamb become lions."
I want to learn German.
Today will be the first day at the gym.
I'm going jogging now.
Have a good day fellas.
Ps: Xanthus: I challenge you! Lets see who dares himself to face fears, looking dead straight in its eyes and doing it anyways, many times.
 

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sexyfaceme said:
Ps: Xanthus: I challenge you! Lets see who dares himself to face fears, looking dead straight in its eyes and doing it anyways, many times.
Challenge accepted.

I'm in a pool of molasses at the moment, but I haven't drowned yet. Much of what I have to conquer is deep, but I plan to attack it with a vengeance over time.

It'll be a slow process for me, but I look towards getting there. Keep your journal alive and I will do the same with mine.

Xanthus
 

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Hey Xanthus and Sexyfaceme. I'm in the same boat, just starting out. I haven't started a journal yet, but find it comforting to see that there are others in the same boat as I am.
I too want change, and I too understand that this change is about becoming a better version of myself; not just for the sake of getting women. I just came out of a LTR, second one. Back-to-back, these two lasted 9 years.
So I am just learning to be single, and am just realizing that I am not, nor have I been for as long as I remember, the person I want to be. I want to become more confident, more outgoing. I want to improve myself and my life, and I think that girls are just a component of the bigger picture. So, like you guys, I think I get it.
I don't mean to hijack your thread sexyfaceme, just wanted to check in and say I know what you guys are doing, and let you know I'm in. Maybe we can share notes along the way. Good luck, fellas.
 

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pnutz said:
Hey Xanthus and Sexyfaceme. I'm in the same boat, just starting out. I haven't started a journal yet, but find it comforting to see that there are others in the same boat as I am.
It's good to know others are out there and are ready to make a change. My journal will take awhile to really get off the ground. I basically have a foundation post at the moment. I'll contribute to it as things are set in motion.
pnutz said:
I too want change, and I too understand that this change is about becoming a better version of myself; not just for the sake of getting women. I just came out of a LTR, second one. Back-to-back, these two lasted 9 years.
Wow, that's quite awhile. Well, there's a lot of useful info here. Knowledge is always good, but action is the key. Take your time and familiarize yourself with what you want to improve on and take it from there.
pnutz said:
So I am just learning to be single, and am just realizing that I am not, nor have I been for as long as I remember, the person I want to be. I want to become more confident, more outgoing. I want to improve myself and my life, and I think that girls are just a component of the bigger picture. So, like you guys, I think I get it.
It took me a bit to finally say I need to figure out my life first. My mind has been trying to see too far ahead without honing in and working on what's in front of me presently. Once I face my own demons, the future that I vision will be possible. The good thing about this is that women will see how much better you've adapted to the world and will enjoy spending time with you because you are truly enjoying who you are.
pnutz said:
I don't mean to hijack your thread sexyfaceme, just wanted to check in and say I know what you guys are doing, and let you know I'm in. Maybe we can share notes along the way. Good luck, fellas.
It's cool. Your post is worthwhile and welcome. Helping each other is what this place is about.

Xanthus
 

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Hey OP and followers, I am totally up for this success with journals thingy and it would be really cool and logical to bounce off each other and grow as men together :)
Check my log out and I'll return the favour. The more viewpoints and experiences the better imo
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The last two days have been somewhat lean. Haven't talked to any girl. The gym was closed yesterday and today due to some occasion, will open tomorrow. As far as learning german, I don't know where do the classes take place, i'm searching.
On the bright side, I went jogging yesterday. Practising speaking clearly, every now and then in front of the mirror. I constantly keep reminding myself, that I should Have whatever I need from others. I'm much positive.
I won't give up, not yet!
Good day fellas!
 

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how do you practice in front of mirror ??
you take a script from a movie/else to practice or you just standing there and find something to say ??
 

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Themale: well I started by just speaking anything that came to my mind, watching my expressions and listening to my tone carefully. Then I started imaging, that i'm speaking to a hot girl, friends or strangers(and actually feeling the feelings of coolness,sexiness,love, not giving a **** from inside). Initially I felt stranged but gradually it was sinking in. I still do it.
Also cuz i have special interest in acting, i try to imitate a few dialogues i know, for fun!
 

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ok thx
sexyfaceme
if you wanna learn German you can take the book : 'German for dummies' or maybe 'Assimil' as main droite mention you don't need class for that
i'm actually learning Spanish from 'Assimil' ... really good !
 

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lingq.com and anki memorization software... give you ur language skills in under 2 years... if u add lsitening..

OP's origonal post kicked ass.. im gona just hand that in as my next CV cover letter hehe
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Its a lazy afternoon and smile running on my face. I completed my registration for a new course today & i'm absolutely thrilled about it. My body aches. went to gym yesterday, it was fun, i like challenges! Just a thought - gym increases the male energy/manliness in us.
Had a very short, confident convo with a beaut blue eye-liner girl.
As far as learning german is concerned, I've downloaded "assimil german" & "german for dummies". Can't understand 'assimil' **** cuz every word is in german?
I'm yet to go through german for dummies(title makes me not wanna read it). Does any of you guys know how much average time will it take to learn a language.
Thanks Guys, Lets build up !
Good day.
 
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