"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Discovered the secret to being suave, leave the country

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I recently left the country and I discovered a secret. Guess what, there is no such thing as these silly games women make u play there. This is north american phenomenon. In other countries, girls are very receptive. Why stay in this country if you have to work your ass off and be perfect, and have insane game, and face tons of rejection? Why I ask?

I just went to a few countries outside the US and it was fantastic!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I went to Europe and Asia.
I swear it was 500% easier! Trust me guys!
Whats the point in trying so hard here for a subpar girl,
when you could get a 8-9 out of 10 with much less
effort overseas.
 

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Espi said:
Where did you go? And how are the women in those countries "easier"?
Here's just an example. I was walking down the street and doing a very simple routine. I just went up to a pretty girl I saw and I said "Hi how are you doing. Maybe we can have lunch tomorrow, can I have your number".

The response was "sure" right away with a smile from the girl. This girl was a 8.5 out of 10. No way would that happen in the US for me. And I was in Europe for only 1 week. This was my first day there.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Espi said:
Well,

Usually that which is most worth having in life involves the most effort:

Money
House
Car
Sex with gorgeous women

I'm not convinced that I want things to be easy when it comes to women. I like women who are hard to catch. I don't like needy women.
Why work harder for a poorer quality girl in North America? Everyone over here is fighting for a ugly fattie. Guys don't put girls on such pedestals overseas, especially ugly girls.
 

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You guys keep saying its a numbers game. Well thats true in the US, but in Europe it's not. Because you just have to approach 3 and most like you will be 3 for 3. In the US you approach 100 and you will be 1 for 100 if your lucky!
 

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gspshields2 said:
You guys keep saying its a numbers game. Well thats true in the US, but in Europe it's not. Because you just have to approach 3 and most like you will be 3 for 3. In the US you approach 100 and you will be 1 for 100 if your lucky!
Blah.

I've been all over the damn globe. And the only thing it's taught me (in regards to women) is that females are females.

Of course when you're visiting somewhere or traveling, you're going to view the people as more friendly, carefree, and social. Know why? Because you're visiting somewhere, and YOU are more friendly, carefree and social.

It always kills me when one of my friends gets back from traveling somewhere and says "The people in (country) are so much happier!" No, tool, YOU were happier because you were on a damn vacation. If you were in that country for 20 years, working 5 days a week, a part of the daily grind, you wouldn't see it the same way.

I love Europe. Don't get me wrong. But I'm mature enough to view my experience there as different. Not better. Not worse. It's just different. Some girls like me. Some don't. Some of the culture is better. Some isn't.

I highly recommend exploring the world. Because it's a learning experience and it helps you grow as a person. But I cannot stand when people try to package traveling as a cure-all for your dating woes. It's a bastardization of the true purpose of travel, which is to expose yourself to new cultures and ideas which you can bring home with you and share with others.

As if there aren't lonely dudes in these countries whining about the girls in their towns, thinking "Man, one day I'm going to move to New York and score all kinds of puss."
 

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Blah.

I've been all over the damn globe. And the only thing it's taught me (in regards to women) is that females are females.

Of course when you're visiting somewhere or traveling, you're going to view the people as more friendly, carefree, and social. Know why? Because you're visiting somewhere, and YOU are more friendly, carefree and social.

It always kills me when one of my friends gets back from traveling somewhere and says "The people in (country) are so much happier!" No, tool, YOU were happier because you were on a damn vacation. If you were in that country for 20 years, working 5 days a week, a part of the daily grind, you wouldn't see it the same way.

I love Europe. Don't get me wrong. But I'm mature enough to view my experience there as different. Not better. Not worse. It's just different. Some girls like me. Some don't. Some of the culture is better. Some isn't.

I highly recommend exploring the world. Because it's a learning experience and it helps you grow as a person. But I cannot stand when people try to package traveling as a cure-all for your dating woes. It's a bastardization of the true purpose of travel, which is to expose yourself to new cultures and ideas which you can bring home with you and share with others.

As if there aren't lonely dudes in these countries whining about the girls in their towns, thinking "Man, one day I'm going to move to New York and score all kinds of puss."
Umm, i didn't get dates when I was in Europe because I was more carefree or anything. My game was exactly the same as it was in the US. I got 3 dates in 1 week, no flakes, no ****tests, no bs. I went up to girls I thought were attractive and asked them out, if I did that in the US, no way would I get 3 dates in a week. Trust me i've tried.

You say you've been all over the world, where have you been?
 

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Umm, i didn't get dates when I was in Europe because I was more carefree or anything. My game was exactly the same as it was in the US. I got 3 dates in 1 week, no flakes, no ****tests, no bs. I went up to girls I thought were attractive and asked them out, if I did that in the US, no way would I get 3 dates in a week. Trust me i've tried.

You say you've been all over the world, where have you been?

Europe: the Netherlands, Germany, London, Prague, Iceland,

South America: Columbia, Brazil,

North America: Toronto, Vancouver (and of course, the U.S.)

Asia: Singapore

Like I said, I support traveling. I just don't think telling these guys "Buying a plane ticket = instant puss" is realistic.

You got 3 dates in a week. Okay, awesome. I wouldn't use 3 dates (or 1 week) to form a blanket statement about an entire culture.

I can get 3 dates in a week in New York. And then I could go 2 months without getting a date. Sometimes you're hot, sometimes you're cold.

I'm not trying to sh*t on your success. Coming from a family who has relatives all over the globe, I hate when people try to lump an entire culture into a category. I think it's simplistic and it leads to stereotypes. You've had a recent bout of success with girls in Europe....that does not mean that all the dudes on this site should pack up and visit a country for the sake of getting puss. In fact, a number of the guys on this site ARE from countries outside the USA.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Iceberg said:
Europe: the Netherlands, Germany, London, Prague, Iceland,

South America: Columbia, Brazil,

North America: Toronto, Vancouver (and of course, the U.S.)

Asia: Singapore

Like I said, I support traveling. I just don't think telling these guys "Buying a plane ticket = instant puss" is realistic.

You got 3 dates in a week. Okay, awesome. I wouldn't use 3 dates (or 1 week) to form a blanket statement about an entire culture.

I can get 3 dates in a week in New York. And then I could go 2 months without getting a date. Sometimes you're hot, sometimes you're cold.

I'm not trying to sh*t on your success. Coming from a family who has relatives all over the globe, I hate when people try to lump an entire culture into a category. I think it's simplistic and it leads to stereotypes. You've had a recent bout of success with girls in Europe....that does not mean that all the dudes on this site should pack up and visit a country for the sake of getting puss. In fact, a number of the guys on this site ARE from countries outside the USA.

Being American = BIG ADVANTAGE OUTSIDE OF US

To the English guy who asked me a question:

I did not go to the UK because it's probably the same BS as the US.
Just go outside of English speaking countries in general.
 

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this is nothing new. its no secret that american males swim in vagina juice when going foreign.

dominican republic...colombia..venezuela ..brazil...ecuador...beautiful women.

this is why i been traveling abroad since 2002.
 

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Plus it could be an accent thing right? I'm English and Ive heard that when you go to the States for example (Ive been across the Pond 4 times), all you have to do is open your mouth and the girls are dripping!

I love the female American accent, partly because I don't very often get to chat to one.

I was in Switzerland the other month and I was chatting to a bird and nearby, in close proximity there was anther girl (American) who was talking to someone and quite quickly she stopped talking and I could see she was listening to me.

Shortly after I got chatting to her and she said she was not listening to what I was saying, but how I was saying things. Turned out she had a b/f unfortunately, but had a feeling I could have at least made out with her.
 

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Tiguere said:
this is nothing new. its no secret that american males swim in vagina juice when going foreign.

dominican republic...colombia..venezuela ..brazil...ecuador...beautiful women.

this is why i been traveling abroad since 2002.
Let me ask you this, why are men still going after
cold and b*tchy women here women even if this is "no secret"
as you define it.
 

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Being American = BIG ADVANTAGE OUTSIDE OF US

Well, that settles it then. I take everything back.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I'm sure it is easier to get women in Europe because demographically, they are more family oriented. The nuclear family has not been slaughtered to near extinction as it has here in the US due to certain politics. Women are also demographically more attractive. They put more effort into attracting a man because they realize their sexual role within their culture. Unlike the United States where you see women wearing pajama pants everywhere, or slightly overweight to obese.

I think a large factor of this difference between American women and European women has to do with political structure and media. There was a certain point other than ideology behind the women's liberation movement. John D. Rockerfeller funded this movement to increase divorce rates in the US household, therefore having another 50% of a demographic to tax and put into the workforce. More time and money is spent toward the government as well with the family court system as well.

With the divorce rates in the United States increased, a lot of men grew up fatherless or with disdain for their father (like many of us here). We learned subconciously that "men are bad". Then when the father cannot afford child support (which is ridiculously expensive always since it takes into account your yearly salary), they are looked at as "less than a man" through smoke and mirror tactics of coercion from the top of our societal hierarchy.

With this disdain and less amount of contact with our fathers, we don't learn "What it is to be a man".. We don't learn how to repair cars, shave a beard, or how to fight. We are turned into a generation of wimps. This is what the controllers of our society want. A docile population which is easily controlled and manipulated to the favor of the elite, largely what all powerful civilizations favor. You may think to yourself right now "wow what a conspiracy nut this guy is for saying all of this." But take into consideration the disparity between American and European men and women as evidence for what I'm saying.

It's not that it's easier to pick up women in Europe, it's that the United States largely lacks the notion of respect for men... Because men in the US have been programmed in the last 50-60 years to have a lack of respect for themselves. If you don't believe me, then go talk to European men who have emigrated to the US from their home country. You'll see what I'm talking about.
 

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The US gals are not worth the effort, believe me. After you've been to the Phillipines, you will know that I am correct. Now, once she's got her US citizenshiip and been around a bunch of US *****es a lot, that is likely to change, but there's millions more where she came from!
 

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As soon as the old thread died a new one was created, dam. Kill this topic already
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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