Disconnecting with Non-*****es?

[HappyGoCrazee]

I've been reading stuff from Ron and David lately, and they've really given me some great stuff on how to talk to a woman who isn't having it. Disconnecting is key, and easy!

But what about the women who are actually open to having a fun conversation? I think it's just as important to disconnect a bit with a really nice girl as it is a mean one, but how do you do it? How do you bust a girl who doesn't need busting?

What I've been getting is I'll have a really great conversation with a girl, full of chemistry and rapport, but my female friends who know them tell me they said I was "nice" and "would probably make a great friend". So obviously there needs to be more disconnection and conflict to make the jump from friend-zone to great night.

Any advice? FTR, I'm not an ugly or awkward guy, so take that out of the equasion. :nono:

 

[f283000]

But what about the women who are actually open to having a fun conversation? I think it's just as important to disconnect a bit with a really nice girl as it is a mean one, but how do you do it? How do you bust a girl who doesn't need busting?

I put in bold your mistakes.

Your first mistake is to think that having "great conversations" with women is actually creating sexual attraction with them.

The whole point of disconnecting is to create attraction. You need to get it out of your head immediately that "connecting" with a girl means sexual attraction.

Having a great, light hearted, fun conversation like the ones you're having with girls is what just about what every nice guy in the world has done with them ever since she started looking good and coming of age. You don't want to be just like every other nice guy, you want to be DIFFERENT! Different is what sets you apart and gets girls going for you.

Disconnecting is the opposite of that. You are setting yourself apart by being different.

What you need to realize is that ALL WOMEN need to be busted on. You should have realized that the moment your female friends gave you a clue and said you are a freakin nice guy according to the girl you been having "great conversations with."

These same "nice girls" you're talking to will chat with you for hours but will go ahead and bang their a**hole boyfriend at night.

BTW I bought their book and know what you're going through. It will be tough changing your mentality but keep trying and you'll get there.

 

[Tiguere]

classic case of this forum doing more harm than good.

all it takes is a sudden kiss from you . thats all. no magic words . stop trying hard to neg. negging is for clubs bars ..night game. get the point.

neg should never be used if you meet a girl while studying at the library or with a girl that shows great interest in you. the purpose of negging is to show you are not needy and could care less whether she ends up with you or not.( i may have a different point of view since i mostly date latinas and not white girls)

build rapport and comfort and kiss her when she least expect it.

if you dont kiss and/or dont show sexual attraction..youll be another friend.

 

[HappyGoCrazee]

I put in bold your mistakes.

Your first mistake is to think that having "great conversations" with women is actually creating sexual attraction with them.

The whole point of disconnecting is to create attraction. You need to get it out of your head immediately that "connecting" with a girl means sexual attraction.

Having a great, light hearted, fun conversation like the ones you're having with girls is what just about what every nice guy in the world has done with them ever since she started looking good and coming of age. You don't want to be just like every other nice guy, you want to be DIFFERENT! Different is what sets you apart and gets girls going for you.

Disconnecting is the opposite of that. You are setting yourself apart by being different.

What you need to realize is that ALL WOMEN need to be busted on. You should have realized that the moment your female friends gave you a clue and said you are a freakin nice guy according to the girl you been having "great conversations with."

These same "nice girls" you're talking to will chat with you for hours but will go ahead and bang their a**hole boyfriend at night.

BTW I bought their book and know what you're going through. It will be tough changing your mentality but keep trying and you'll get there.

Well that's just the point, how do you disconnect with a girl when they're doing everything right to connect with you? I'm able to tease them a bit, but even so we end up connecting so much that they like me too much to sleep with me!

Although, what Tiguere said was true. Once I get them on a date or someplace alone this usually works pretty well.

 

[HappyGoCrazee]

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